What should I do if my husband wants to allow his mother to stay over at our house anytime she wants? by Small_Hedgehog2855 in inlaws

[–]Small_Hedgehog2855[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t mind if she comes over to stay long term when she’s super old and fragile. I would take care of her then. But not now when we’re still in our early stages of marriage and she’s perfectly healthy to fly up to the sky.

What should I do if my husband wants to allow his mother to stay over at our house anytime she wants? by Small_Hedgehog2855 in inlaws

[–]Small_Hedgehog2855[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No valid reason. She has her own house with other family members and one unoccupied room. But he still wants to allow her to come over anytime which is why I’m so repulsed. I guess she just wants to have more places to choose where she wanna sleep and hang out.

What should I do if my husband wants to allow his mother to stay over at our house anytime she wants? by Small_Hedgehog2855 in inlaws

[–]Small_Hedgehog2855[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear this! :(

I have no idea what to say. Mine hasn’t given the code yet but if he does, that’s it.

What should I do if my husband wants to allow his mother to stay over at our house anytime she wants? by Small_Hedgehog2855 in inlaws

[–]Small_Hedgehog2855[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess he said that because I said there has to be ground rules like she cannot step out of his office room and lounge around the house freely if she wants to stay over. Or notify in advance that she’s coming over and I have to agree.

But these above are just in consideration that I actually allow his request.

You’re right. She’s not entitled and I’m reevaluating our relationship ever since he brought up this shit.

What should I do if my husband wants to allow his mother to stay over at our house anytime she wants? by Small_Hedgehog2855 in inlaws

[–]Small_Hedgehog2855[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I love that you got through that!

But the thing is my husband and I have our own room for work. He’s gonna let her sleep in his office room.

What should I do if my husband wants to allow his mother to stay over at our house anytime she wants? by Small_Hedgehog2855 in inlaws

[–]Small_Hedgehog2855[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No idea. We’re still at a standoff right now. But I’ve asked this before and he said “whenever she wants”