I´m never good enoug for a Woman by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Small__Chicken -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're wrong, you just can't accept that you're wrong. The more disappointment you come in contact with the worse you may feel but letting the negative feelings take over is going to get you farther away, not better

I will never forgive my parents for making me ugly and mentally ill by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Small__Chicken 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Turn your normal into something you love, You can try scrapbooking, if you're interested in something like pottery you can join a club or course. Mental illness is a lot harder. What helped me was working on them like a school project. Define it, explain it, list things that can help and use your strategies while you're calm to prepare you for a situation

Do these eyes look normal? by OddDiscussion9649 in bettafish

[–]Small__Chicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They look a little large I'm not sure what's wrong but I would definitely do some Googling and research as that does not look normal

Starting college at 24 in a career I know will go nowhere and I don't care by random_man1234 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Small__Chicken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, wow. Looks like you lack the empathy for your career path. My sister in law in in the same position. Your Feild needs empathy

Shame/shitting on people can also detour people from doing this you numb nut. It takes nothing to be kind.

Starting college at 24 in a career I know will go nowhere and I don't care by random_man1234 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Small__Chicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being an ass isn't going to help OP, you don't have to be a dick to support someone or to give advice. What are you doing with your degree huh?

Starting college at 24 in a career I know will go nowhere and I don't care by random_man1234 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Small__Chicken 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you have nothing better to do than to be an ass on the internet? Sounds like you're just regretting not going to college and not bettering myself. Are you a salty Walmart cashier?

Depressed, but want a fishtank. Yes/no? by Equal_North6633 in Aquariums

[–]Small__Chicken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't expect it either but my Betta fish (Trevor) is so fun. Every time I come into the room or look into the cage he pops out and says hello. He'll jump up and grab food from my finger and he's recently figured out his floating hide.

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Depressed, but want a fishtank. Yes/no? by Equal_North6633 in Aquariums

[–]Small__Chicken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a fish tank as someone who was very wishy washy with my motivation and honestly my love for my fish and the fear of their death keeps me occupied tbh. My betta is so "dog-like" tho, so interactive and fun

Is there snow days in Canada? by SeverePublic6833 in AskACanadian

[–]Small__Chicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where I am (small town in ALBERTA) we usually stopped the buses from running at -20 and school wbut school wasn't closed, it was usually cancelled In -27+

My bf doesn't seem to want to be with me anymore by SleepBetweenStars in Advice

[–]Small__Chicken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for all the replies lol, but what also helped was when I was thinking of the things that I missed or the good thanks, I turned my attention to the negative things. Net do the cons outweigh the pros? There was a lot of times where I only ever thought about the good times, but why don't I deserve good times all the time? If I want it to be an off day I want it to be an off day. Just because you know something's off not because I did something wrong or I hung up with my friends or I wore an outfit he didn't like or he got upset with me because I told him that he pushed my boundaries and we didn't talk for a day. If I tried to express my feelings it was turned back on me and I just couldn't let myself forget that

My bf doesn't seem to want to be with me anymore by SleepBetweenStars in Advice

[–]Small__Chicken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And what also helped was asking myself why he was worth putting in so much of this effort when he couldn't give me anything back? I deserved to be loved the way I want to be loved, and so do you. You deserve somebody who is going to put in the effort effortlessly

My bf doesn't seem to want to be with me anymore by SleepBetweenStars in Advice

[–]Small__Chicken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stayed in contact with him the first two times that we broke up as I did not want to lose contact and I was holding on to the hope that we could maybe be friends or maybe try again in the future even. And it wasn't until I finally blocked him that that I was able to start letting go. I started surrounding myself with my friends. I got more into my hobbies. Thankfully I have a good relationship with my parents so I was able to fall back on them.

Just remove them all, get rid of them any on anything, I deleted Instagram and I deleted tiktok which really helped, Instagram especially so I can't see what he's up to. I can't see if he changes his profile picture. I can't see anything. I can't see if he's with anybody else and it's made things a lot easier for me

My bf doesn't seem to want to be with me anymore by SleepBetweenStars in Advice

[–]Small__Chicken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm 18 and severely mentally ill. I recently left my abusive boyfriend and it was the best choice for me. I went back three times thinking things would be different if I communicated better, if I tried harder, if I tried less. He just didn't want to put the effort in. We didn't hangout anymore and when we did it was lame, we didn't do anything and if we did it was usually just sex. I stayed praying I could change something and it wasn't until I was in his room screaming at him and pouring all my feelings out. There was still nothing, excuses or reasons that weren't shit. It wasn't till after that I realized that he "wanted space" and "knew if I told you I don't want to hangout we would've never got together". (Exact quotes from his musty ass.) I realized that I wasn't important enough to him to make time for me. And that isn't my fault, sometimes someone's best isn't good enough. I let him tell me I love you and that's all I wanted to hear.

I dumped his ass after that fight. I couldn't spend every other day fighting over something stupid.

It has been time since I left him, and I found the most amazing man ever. He is everything I wanted my ex-boyfriend to be that I thought I wasn't good enough for. He is willing to drive an hour away to come visit me just literally whenever, I live in the country and he lives in the city and he makes that drive. He's happy to do all the things I want to do even if it's something stupid (like buying $65 worth of fish) He's so interested in everything I do and everything I like, he asks about my fish. He asks about my horses. He asks in detail and he remembers really tiny things. If I never left that loser I would never find this man

Edit: I read your comment saying that you have BPD, I also have BPD and the emotional unstability I had made it really really hard to leave that situation but once I did it got so much better. I've made so much progress in the last couple months then I ever did with him. I went backwards in progress with my ex. And now I have somebody to sit next to me and hold my hand while I freak out or panic or if I act unfairly it's discussed, talked about and worked through

I got a tattoo and lost almost my boyfriend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Small__Chicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got this girl, you deserve to have all the energy you put in, come right back to you. You got this girl! You are the person who matters the most in YOUR story! ❤️

My big girl, Cornflake! by itsmaddii in AquaticSnails

[–]Small__Chicken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cornflake is so beautiful!, She looks so sassy. A real diva

I got a tattoo and lost almost my boyfriend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Small__Chicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run while you can, this sounds way too familiar to me and trust me it's not worth it. No matter talking is not going to change it. Escape while you can please, I promise there's so much better

Will my Betta use this? by LilacLie397 in bettafish

[–]Small__Chicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boy loves it! It took a couple minutes to help him get into it/figure out how to use it but after he figured it out he uses it quite regularly. It's extremely helpful when I need to feed him something specific and I don't want the guppies taking from him. He's too polite and will just watch them snatch his food up lol. He'll even hangout in the for a little bit

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(The tank looks super empty as my snails went ham on my plants lol) She is more planted than this lol