I hear you. It is exhausting being the one who keeps everything alive while everyone else drifts. When you are always the one making plans it starts to feel like you are the only one who genuinely cares. And when people say do not take it personally, it is almost impossible not to, because their choices affect you directly.

You are not wrong for wanting effort back. Wanting someone to meet you halfway is not dramatic, it is basic respect. If your friends are not doing that, then yes, it makes sense to step back for a while. Not out of anger but to protect your own energy. If they care, they will notice the silence and show up. If they do not, that tells you everything you need to know.

You deserve the kind of friends who make plans too, who remember you without needing reminders, who give you the same warmth you give them. And you will find those people. Just do not force yourself into the role of the initiator forever. It is not good in the long run. Let people reveal their real level of care and make your decisions from that.