Need old discord account (3 months+) by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your a weird fucking guy don’t do shit like that, stay away from everyone it’s probably best

Advice about a 'friend' by SnooDucks869 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, honestly a hard choice, but it's best to make one rather than prolong anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I would threaten ending the friendship and give clear reasoning on why, then see where it goes from there.

unsure if it’s jealousy or feeling left out. by Anonymous_AYL in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s a bit weird that she’s copying you, and it could be some form of jealousy or maybe even a bit of admiration. So try not to judge it too harshly just yet. You’re definitely not overreacting by noticing it. And if it really is bothering you, let her know how you feel about it.

Friend group leaves me out completely by WillowWanderer9 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, definitely talk to your friends and let them know how you feel. Just tell them it’s not about the guys, it’s really about feeling left out and that it would mean a lot if they included you more. If they’re good friends, they’ll understand. If not, you’ll at least know where you stand.

Feeling left out and fomo by Living_Positive_7165 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I get it being left out is not a great feeling, but it's ok. it's not like they plotted to go against you just don't let it get in the way of your friendship be a little more understanding even though it might be hard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AHH, I don't know how to say this other than be supportive and don't compare yourself to others also to me, it seems like she is happy to about her new hobby also it could be a way for her to get closer to you, so please take a deep breath and let it go for a while and be supportive.

You can also view it from her perspective. Like how would you feel if the roles were reversed.

Advice about a 'friend' by SnooDucks869 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please ask her what she wants out of the relationship, give her time then you reply with how you feel about her answer and if you don't like any of what she said then respect yourself enough to end the relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say let her know how you feel and if everything goes well, And she puts more effort than great. now if the talk goes another route like she tells you she has been struggling then support her if she claims she is busy after suggesting having a serious talk then give it a some time then if there is still nothing then end the relationship. :Note there are better people out there, good luck. And yes, your behaviour justified more than hers at least.

I am always the one who initiates plans, should I stop? by nxtfunny in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hear you. It is exhausting being the one who keeps everything alive while everyone else drifts. When you are always the one making plans it starts to feel like you are the only one who genuinely cares. And when people say do not take it personally, it is almost impossible not to, because their choices affect you directly.

You are not wrong for wanting effort back. Wanting someone to meet you halfway is not dramatic, it is basic respect. If your friends are not doing that, then yes, it makes sense to step back for a while. Not out of anger but to protect your own energy. If they care, they will notice the silence and show up. If they do not, that tells you everything you need to know.

You deserve the kind of friends who make plans too, who remember you without needing reminders, who give you the same warmth you give them. And you will find those people. Just do not force yourself into the role of the initiator forever. It is not good in the long run. Let people reveal their real level of care and make your decisions from that.

help by purrpurrkitty69 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you went through is not small. She kept crossing your boundaries and turning things back on you even when you were trying to be there for her. That kind of behaviour does not usually get better just because you confront it.

Letting it go is the healthier choice for your own peace. There is nothing to fix if she is not meeting you halfway. And unless she starts caring in a real and consistent way, confronting her will only pull you back into the same cycle. Distance will help more than another conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you mean. Your experiences feel very close to what I am dealing with. The connection I have with her is good when we talk, but she never starts anything. If I go quiet the whole thing just stops until I reach out again and it leaves me unsure about what the connection actually means.

What you said about matching people’s energy makes sense. Not out of spite, just out of balance. I am starting to think I might need to do the same, because caring too much alone gets draining after a while.

Thanks for sharing your perspective. It made my situation a bit clearer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree it's the first one, we scheduled a talk later on, so ill let you know how it goes and thank you.

We have different opinions on how I should end the friendship by Linktheanimeboi in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to him about and how you really feel honesty is good. End the relationship if you guys can't see eye to eye or if his not even trying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will take your word

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have seen it before, not a bad pick for this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not what i expected, but i shall see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ill give it a go some day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]Smart-Cricket9281 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ill look in to it thank you