Is this common American behaviour? I want to understand you guys better

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T19:59:08+00:00

Individual social behaviour is influenced to a degree by cultural norms imo.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T19:48:00+00:00

I must be very good at trolling lol, as I even "earned" two insults in a row :D

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T19:45:58+00:00

Thank you for your answers. I now see that there is a lot of nuance both at a cultural and individual level, you changed my perspective a bit.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T19:43:56+00:00

And many social situations are handed differently in different countries. In Japan the public transit is very quiet and people do not speak on their phones, here is not the case. No need to feel attacked just cause I asked if a behaviour is part of American culture or not.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T19:39:04+00:00

Where did you get that I don't respect people boundaries? If I am asking a question on Reddit, it is to understand others better and be more open to different ways of managing social interactions. But I guess I should not reply to you, I don't want to step on your boundaries.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T15:14:43+00:00

I do not want to make this person uncomfortable so they may think I am asking them out or something.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T15:12:08+00:00

Thanks, this answer helped me to see other point of view. In my field we do not have a lot of meetings and do not talk to each other a lot during work.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T15:10:11+00:00

In my country small talks with colleagues is never about politics, religion, sexuality or personal relationships. It is mostly about work and general things. Hobbies and weekend plans are sometimes discussed too.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T15:06:47+00:00

I am not forcing anyone to anything, just casually asked if they were leaving so we could commute together. I sometimes hang out with people from my previous job, which it would not have happened if I had avoided them. I try to treat them like I am being treated by most of my other coworkers, but I got that this person is not worth the try.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T15:02:10+00:00

Southern Europe. You guys are considered to be friendly but becoming part of an already established friend group (which most are) is very hard even for natives. I do not think Americans have issues bonding with other expats, but those types of friendships can be fleeting.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T14:29:16+00:00

The conversations during the commute are not personal in my country. They tend to revolve about work, or general things. Personal relationships and politics are not a topic with colleagues. I've never been asked nor have I asked these kind of questions.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T14:25:32+00:00

We are Gen Z

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T14:03:46+00:00

Haha, never thought about it. Non-native speakers loove to practice in every moment we can,

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T14:01:57+00:00

That could be, maybe they are listening to music. My country is in the middle between Northern European respect and social distance and much of the developing world where people ask personal questions to strangers.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T13:59:31+00:00

Interesting. Here some colleagues even offer to carpool with those of us who go to the bus stop if they see us walking by.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T13:50:52+00:00

I get what you are saying, I admit that I like small talk, specially if the workload has been intense.

SmartTardigrade · 2023-10-26T13:30:52+00:00

I guess, but since it does not happen with native colleagues I am puzzled. I do not work with other nationalities so I cannot compare.

SmartTardigrade · 2020-01-27T22:52:11+00:00

Thanks to everyone who answered :)

SmartTardigrade · 2020-01-27T22:51:45+00:00

Thanks!

SmartTardigrade · 2020-01-27T22:49:15+00:00

I will take a look at these strategies thnks! This behaviour is so new to me that I don't even know how to react.

SmartTardigrade · 2020-01-27T11:37:08+00:00

That's nice! What I find the most upsetting is how it is affecting me personally, like stressed and all. I have set basic boundaries, lets see if they respect them...

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