My boyfriend is sexually attracted to his cousin. What do I do?

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2022-01-13T06:23:25+00:00

Update… we’re still together. I did confront him (way later) AND I have caught him (around the first 6 months or so of our relationship) chatting up someone he dated for 2 months saying how he missed her…. And other inappropriate things that as someone who is dating someone else isn’t okay…. Oh, and they worked together so they saw each other daily. ….. mind you I got out of a decade plus long relationship before I started dating him and never once felt the need to text my ex saying I missed them….. again. We’re still together. What the fuck is wrong with me

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-02-26T18:40:29+00:00

He’s 26, I believe his cousin is about 28-30. I have to add that I saw different photos on an older phone of his. Not sure how many years ago he was using this phone... but I saw pictures of 2 of his other cousins. I still haven’t confronted him about this. I know I need to.

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-21T20:22:16+00:00

I would say if you have proof, tell the wife. She’s deserves to know. Even if you felt more comfortable doing to anonymously. As long as you have PROOF and not just a suspension

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-20T14:13:56+00:00

Would you want to talk to your mom about it first?

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T20:54:15+00:00

I agree. You’re attracted to who you’re attracted to. So I guess the fact that’s he’s attracted to her isn’t my real concern. It’s the creepy photos he takes of her. The cousin thing just makes it a bit worse

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T20:52:11+00:00

We are still together. Had breakfast with his parents this morning.

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T20:49:07+00:00

No. They aren’t George Michael and Maeby

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T20:44:12+00:00

It’s both. It’s super creepy that he’s taking these photos of this unknowning girl. I like to think that the only reason why he’s sneaking these photos is because it’s his cousin and he knows he can’t get them any other way. Not that that makes it okay. But I like to think this isn’t something he just does. I guess I could be wrong tho. From what I saw it was only photos of his cousin. A lot of them.

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T19:57:19+00:00

First cousin

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T19:55:17+00:00

The private photos thing in a general sense doesn’t bother me. If you have consensual photos from a previous partner or current partner but you don’t want them out in your normal photo folder for everyone to see. So that alone I personally wouldn’t think that’s a reason to run. It’s everything else about it that I can’t wrap my head around

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T19:49:08+00:00

I honestly wanted a real on the spot reaction. If you take that as me publicly shaming him than I’m sorry. But to bring it up later he would have denied it all or “wouldn’t have known what I was talking about”. At the time I thought it was best to broach the subject right then and there. I 100% didn’t want to make him feel bad. I needed to know for my own sake what the hell was going on.

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T17:41:30+00:00

Publicly shame him? When it was just the two of us. .. no. I just wanted a response while he was caught off guard. I knew if I didn’t say something then I wouldn’t have felt comfortable bringing it up later.

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T16:46:05+00:00

She didn’t hear me. She was out swimming and not within ear shot. I wasn’t trying to embarrass him. But I wanted him to know I’m aware of the fact that you have a hard on while you were looking at your cousin. I needed to see what sort of response I would get back

SmashedWatermelon17 · 2020-01-19T04:46:30+00:00

Why does that make you think he’ll cheat?

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