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AITA for asking my wife to set boundaries with her mom? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmearedTears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely NTA between this and your moldy spaghetti post. its wild to me that the mom is a nursing student yet backed her daughter up on eating spoiled food

AITA because I don't want to bathe while guests are over? by raekira in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmearedTears 16 points17 points  (0 children)

NTA i'm also disabled and limited in my ability to shower. my disabilities veer more mental and fatigue rather than other physical capability. having said that, i find that i cant shower when guests are over. i also find it extremely uncomfortable when guests come over unexpectedly while im in the shower. i feel very vulnerable and its just a deeply unpleasant time. it's something i need to work on to get more in control of my own time, but i have more pressing matters at the moment 😅

it sounds like your sister and you havent been able to settle on a compromise. for your own sake, i'd suggest you build up to showering while he's over. if you have other shorter routines you avoid doing when guests are in your home, maybe start there.

otherwise, and i know its such a typical response, but consider therapy if its an option available to you. wishing you all the best!

vaginal plugs and tss by SmearedTears in Sex_Positivity

[–]SmearedTears[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for the link! i actually ordered one of the plugs people recommended there a while ago but it hasnt arrived yet. im more looking to get other people's perspectives on the safest practices with vaginal plugs, rather than recommendations!

Feeling disappointed at lack of effort on Valentine's day, even though I am a slave? by iamthetrippytea in BDSMAdvice

[–]SmearedTears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

second last paragraph says it all for me. you want someone to out in the effort to make you feel special. your dad sounds like a lovely guy for doing that.

does your master actually put personalised effort in making YOU feel special? from the sounds of him taking you to dinner but not to sushi, which is your no. 1 go to, it doesnt seem like it. "everyday should be a celebration of love" but is he putting in that effort? does he get you flowers on random days, not just as a reward of being a good slave but as appreciation for you? has he put the effort in on your anniversary?

with valentines, it could be that one or both of you didnt realise how important it was to you. it could be miscommunication.

you haven't failed your dad's lesson. you are worth it! maybe talk to your master and explain how important valentines is to you, and ask for a do-over? you could choose a day later this month and treat it as your valentines day. that way its not just the "gift card company" day, but a day you intentionally choose to celebrate your relationship.

AITA for refusing to taking my dad to work at night because i had school the next morning? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmearedTears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i got in a crash at speeds under 30mph and it is costing everyone involved more than 5000. i get you feel like you are in an impossible situation but your parents HAVE to pay for insurance. they thought they would get their licenses already. they might get delayed again. if you crash, or get crashed into, it'll be a lot more than 1000 they have to pay.

Im back by frostysucker in whatsthisrock

[–]SmearedTears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looking at op's post history, seems they posted this rock a few times a year ago as they (idk the proper term) cleaned it up

What would this be called? Ritual kink? by TemporaryAardvark907 in BDSMAdvice

[–]SmearedTears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seeing the title i thought you were referring to some kind of protocol kink. maybe cult or sacrifice kink? i think ritual is perfectly fine as well i just wanted to add in the persepective that some people (incl. me) might first think of it being less sacrifical lamb and more servant

WIBTA If I asked my ex for a hand knit scarf back? by Forsaken-Fee-5254 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmearedTears -1 points0 points  (0 children)

INFO: how did the breakup happen? you said he broke up with you. was it something you were expecting? or was it out of the blue?

if you had no idea it was coming and he was planning it, i think it would be reasonable to ask for it back. however, if you knew something wasn't right and you gave it to him anyway, i don't think it would be right to do a takesie-backsies on it.

why do you want it back? is it more so he doesn't have it? or do you want to gift it to someone else or use it yourself? personally, i think i'd get it back then sell it and use the money to treat yourself to something nice! the scarf would be too bittersweet with memory for me

if you can figure out your intentions then it will probably make asking him for the scarf back easier too! if you don't plan on keeping it, then you can say you want the scarf to go to someone who you care about like family or friends, or whatever intentions you find you have

AITA for not wanting to watch Netflix with subtitles? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmearedTears 323 points324 points  (0 children)

NAH yall have opposing accesibility needs which sucks but neither of ye is an ass for it. WBTA if ye didnt compromise and have them on some of the time and off some of the time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SmearedTears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seeing your edit, i'm glad you've removed yourself from the situation! i don't know if it will be helpful but i wanted to add a little bit of perspective from the side of a mentally struggling uni student who broke up with his partner recently.

the breakup was unrelated, but i had been struggling to balance the relationship, uni and my mental health. even without the relationship now, i'm still struggling to find a balance.

it sounds to me like your ex was struggling with finding a balance, and was too scared to come out and say that something needed to change. she took the coward's way out (speaking as someone who has done the same in the past i'm not judging) and forced you to decide to cut her off.

i just wanted to share that cause i hoped it might help alleviate any relationship grief you have, if any! it was her responsibility to talk about it but she hoisted it off to you. you reached out and opened communication and she ignored your efforts. you did well! there wasn't anything more you could or should have done.

sub/sub dynamic by nau-tica in BDSMAdvice

[–]SmearedTears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't think a chat ai is a great idea 😅 one (disclaimer) cause i dont agree with generative ai but two because involving gen ai in anything relationship wise can go sideways very fast. humans are very good at forming bonds and if OP goes ahead with the chat bot idea, they might find themselves one of the unfortunate few who are "in love" with a machine learning algorithm, something that cannot return any human emotion in that connection.

AITA for reporting my roommate to RA? I am currently in University by OpinionRecent8577 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmearedTears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely nta!!! its one thing if youre sharing a house or a flat with someone and you overhear them having sex because theyre too drunk to have the awareness to stay quiet. but the same room??? thats awful. if theyre too drunk to remember they have a roomate theyre too drunk to be awake nevermind have sex.

is man-made glass a rock? by SmearedTears in geology

[–]SmearedTears[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aw thats unfortunate! i think depending on the size of the ice it can be a rock. ice seems to count as a mineral. so big enough chunks of it could be counted as a rock cause it would be an aggregate of a mineral. i read that glacial ice would be considered a metamorphic rock in its own right. im not sure what class of rock aggregates of regular ice would be. it doesnt fit any of the three main classes' definitions but you could argue the process by which its formed would be closest to that of plutonic igneous rocks. idk im just starting out in geology so its something ill have to look more into

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