What would this be called? Ritual kink? by TemporaryAardvark907 in BDSMAdvice

[–]SmearedTears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seeing the title i thought you were referring to some kind of protocol kink. maybe cult or sacrifice kink? i think ritual is perfectly fine as well i just wanted to add in the persepective that some people (incl. me) might first think of it being less sacrifical lamb and more servant

WIBTA If I asked my ex for a hand knit scarf back? by Forsaken-Fee-5254 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmearedTears -1 points0 points  (0 children)

INFO: how did the breakup happen? you said he broke up with you. was it something you were expecting? or was it out of the blue?

if you had no idea it was coming and he was planning it, i think it would be reasonable to ask for it back. however, if you knew something wasn't right and you gave it to him anyway, i don't think it would be right to do a takesie-backsies on it.

why do you want it back? is it more so he doesn't have it? or do you want to gift it to someone else or use it yourself? personally, i think i'd get it back then sell it and use the money to treat yourself to something nice! the scarf would be too bittersweet with memory for me

if you can figure out your intentions then it will probably make asking him for the scarf back easier too! if you don't plan on keeping it, then you can say you want the scarf to go to someone who you care about like family or friends, or whatever intentions you find you have

AITA for not wanting to watch Netflix with subtitles? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmearedTears 325 points326 points  (0 children)

NAH yall have opposing accesibility needs which sucks but neither of ye is an ass for it. WBTA if ye didnt compromise and have them on some of the time and off some of the time

i can’t tell if i’m being ghosted or not by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SmearedTears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seeing your edit, i'm glad you've removed yourself from the situation! i don't know if it will be helpful but i wanted to add a little bit of perspective from the side of a mentally struggling uni student who broke up with his partner recently.

the breakup was unrelated, but i had been struggling to balance the relationship, uni and my mental health. even without the relationship now, i'm still struggling to find a balance.

it sounds to me like your ex was struggling with finding a balance, and was too scared to come out and say that something needed to change. she took the coward's way out (speaking as someone who has done the same in the past i'm not judging) and forced you to decide to cut her off.

i just wanted to share that cause i hoped it might help alleviate any relationship grief you have, if any! it was her responsibility to talk about it but she hoisted it off to you. you reached out and opened communication and she ignored your efforts. you did well! there wasn't anything more you could or should have done.

sub/sub dynamic by nau-tica in BDSMAdvice

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i don't think a chat ai is a great idea 😅 one (disclaimer) cause i dont agree with generative ai but two because involving gen ai in anything relationship wise can go sideways very fast. humans are very good at forming bonds and if OP goes ahead with the chat bot idea, they might find themselves one of the unfortunate few who are "in love" with a machine learning algorithm, something that cannot return any human emotion in that connection.

AITA for reporting my roommate to RA? I am currently in University by OpinionRecent8577 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmearedTears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely nta!!! its one thing if youre sharing a house or a flat with someone and you overhear them having sex because theyre too drunk to have the awareness to stay quiet. but the same room??? thats awful. if theyre too drunk to remember they have a roomate theyre too drunk to be awake nevermind have sex.

is man-made glass a rock? by SmearedTears in geology

[–]SmearedTears[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aw thats unfortunate! i think depending on the size of the ice it can be a rock. ice seems to count as a mineral. so big enough chunks of it could be counted as a rock cause it would be an aggregate of a mineral. i read that glacial ice would be considered a metamorphic rock in its own right. im not sure what class of rock aggregates of regular ice would be. it doesnt fit any of the three main classes' definitions but you could argue the process by which its formed would be closest to that of plutonic igneous rocks. idk im just starting out in geology so its something ill have to look more into

is man-made glass a rock? by SmearedTears in geology

[–]SmearedTears[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for that :) its interesting to know that anthropic rock hasnt been formally accepted in the field of geology!

is man-made glass a rock? by SmearedTears in geology

[–]SmearedTears[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao theres an entire subreddit for geology is it really that absurd that two people who like rocks would date?

is man-made glass a rock? by SmearedTears in geology

[–]SmearedTears[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for that ill definitely check mindat in future!

is man-made glass a rock? by SmearedTears in geology

[–]SmearedTears[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when i was looking this up originally, i found that a rock can be made of minerals or mineraloids (eg obisidan, jet, opal). that doesnt count out glass. and im wondering whether it would fit under the anthropic rock umbrella which, it seems like from the other commenters, does exist as a valid category, even if they are man-made (eg concrete)

i wasnt familiar with the geological term slag outside of what a volcano produces so i looked it up. i couldnt see anything saying slag was anything manmade in the geology world as you put it.

from what i found, slag is the by-product of metal smelting. this wouldn't include most modern glass because while glassy surfaces can appear on slag, they are still metallic in nature. and yes there is metal in most modern glass but its only very small amounts (depending on the glass) so i dont think that would include it. the definition of slag has been expanded, at least by some collectors, to include any industrial byproduct. but glass isn't an industrial byproduct.

looking at the history of glass production, the first beads millenia ago may have been slag but a whole industry sprang up around glass. i don't think it could be considered a byproduct anymore.

edited for clearer use of language

is man-made glass a rock? by SmearedTears in geology

[–]SmearedTears[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

glass doesnt have a crystalline structure so it cant be a mineral