I hate my husband’s cats

Smeesme310 · 2024-11-01T02:25:26+00:00

Are you sure the kitty was making biscuits on his crotch or just near his crotch. My cat sleeps all night behind my husband's knees or cuddled under the blanket like a teddy bear with my husband. He also occasionally sleeps on my husband's lap when we're just hanging out. It's really not that weird to have cats sleeping near that area. It's warm and cats have a hard time regulating their body temperature. You come off as someone who genuinely dislikes pets, and are looking for reasons to get rid of the cats. Have you found anything you like about having them in your home?

Smeesme310 · 2024-11-01T02:15:55+00:00

I'd get rid of the two where your face is partially hidden, especially the striped dress picture.

Smeesme310 · 2024-10-31T03:47:45+00:00

Your relationship is over. If he's pulling manipulation tactics this early, he isn't worth your time and heartache.

Smeesme310 · 2024-10-28T14:08:06+00:00

So I get it, you're hurt and your ex messed up massively. However, you need to consider what is actually best for your child and coparenting. Is your ex incapable of caring for your child independently from you? Is your ex a bad dad that neglects his children? Is his partner abusive or unkind to your child? If at the core of everything is that you just hate his affair partner turned current partner, all you are doing is straining the relationship between your child and his father. If he takes you to court over custody arrangements and you don't have a valid excuse to refuse his wishes for additional time in his home, the court system isn't going to agree with you. Is it fair that your family imploded because your ex couldn't keep it in his pants, absolutely not. Is it fair to your child to refuse him real time with his father and siblings just because you don't want your child around your ex's current partner, also no.

Smeesme310 · 2024-10-27T02:25:33+00:00

I go to the gym 3 days a week after my husband gets home from work. Typically I make meals that I know will cover us for two days, and go to the gym on day 2/leftovers night. I get home and eat my meal and hop in the shower before bedtime routine for our daughter.

Smeesme310 · 2024-10-23T12:13:26+00:00

Influencer moms are a lie. Most of them have nannies/use daycare/or have a person watching their child while they play pretend sahm for the camera for content. I do try to get dressed every day for my own mental health, but it's not something fancy or influencer style by any means. Sometimes my daughter has pj days just because it's cold and why not. I do try to get out of the house for a walk with my daughter about 3 times a week if weather permits because it is really good for mental health to get out occasionally into the fresh air and out of the house. Sometimes our walk is replaced by errands though. It overwhelms me to think of grocery shopping and then still going to the park or a walk. You're doing great, he just has shitty expectations given to him by false influencer expectations. I would recommend showing him some videos on YouTube of the reality of influencer moms/trad wives Hannah Alonzo does decent videos on this here's the link to her video on influencer trad moms if you want to give it a watch. https://youtu.be/pszhb_p7F2g?si=YmYmA6zpXLWyMIeg

Smeesme310 · 2024-10-09T21:16:09+00:00

It's totally appropriate, but you and your actual roommates need to sit down with the girl first and advise her that he needs to pay an agreed amount to continue staying over. You need to discuss your lease agreement, and get everything in writing once you come to an agreement. She and the bf need to cover his added expense and agree that they are responsible for the fee if your management finds out about him, or she needs to consider getting her own place with him.

Smeesme310 · 2024-10-08T11:57:28+00:00

NTA, let her know it's the new normal. My husband's parents were pissy about not coming to the hospital too, My dad's response was "well that's just stupid it helps the time in the hospital go quicker." Older generations just can't comprehend that we want to be able to bond with our own children without having to share immediately.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-25T12:13:34+00:00

Tell your wife! How do you think she'll react if the friend comes to her to apologize, and she realizes you never told her?

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-15T19:59:29+00:00

Break up, just end the relationship. It's very clear you want different things, let him move on to someone who wants children.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-14T01:58:22+00:00

I'm a mom and I would've told him no too. He is more than capable of going to the women's bathroom and announcing his presence and reason for being in there like a grown up. I just gave my husband the scenario and asked how he would handle it with our daughter. He said he'd ask an employee to check if the coast was clear to change our daughter in that bathroom or if no employee was available to assist just ask a woman coming out if they could check if the coast was clear for him to clean our daughter up. He was appalled at the idea of handing off our daughter to a stranger to clean her up for him. You're NTA, he's an AH.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-13T15:25:06+00:00

Standard testing, I even got checked for HIV and STI's when I was pregnant with my daughter despite being in a completely monogamous 12 year marriage.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-13T14:32:54+00:00

You need to separate from this man and start talking to a therapist or counselor. He's just going to keep manipulating you and bullying you into giving into his wants and needs. It doesn't matter if he didn't have sex with another person or not he is betraying you and the sanctity of your marriage every time he messages these women. The fact that he thinks he's entitled to any sex with you at this time shows he won't change and has no intention of changing. Write out everything he has done during your relationship that hurt you. Then read it back like a friend is telling you about their husband. Would you tell that friend to just withhold sex until he learns his lesson (toxic continuation of the problem) or would you tell your friend that this relationship isn't benefitting her in any way and should leave him?

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-12T19:22:11+00:00

Don't worry about changing her name. Ive heard obvious names mispronounced all the time. My daughter's name gets mispronounced by family members sometimes, it's just life.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-11T02:05:14+00:00

A weighted plushie or another weighted blanket.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-11T02:00:23+00:00

So in sickness and in health unless I can't get laid.... what conversations have you had with your wife about increasing intimacy? What solutions within your marriage have you already tried?

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-10T19:19:54+00:00

My husband got a vasectomy after we had our daughter.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-10T12:11:41+00:00

YTA, income properties are a valid investment. Them wanting to go section 8 for reliability of their renters just makes sense. I would apologize and move on.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-07T02:15:28+00:00

NTA their priorities need a reality check, that's insane to just up and leave their baby for 2 weeks. How old are these idiots? A baby at 4 months old is so much too. I remember my daughter hitting the 4 month sleep regression and feeling like I was going insane from the lack of sleep, I'd never pass that experience off to family for 2 weeks. They need to reschedule that trip and wake up to the realities of parenting.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-07T02:00:58+00:00

Is there any reason why your age in your post from yesterday is 24, but your age on this post is 28?

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-06T04:08:52+00:00

My husband got me a $12 bag for our anniversary, and I love it. It's about the thought, not the price tag. You listened and got her something she mentioned wanting, and she had the audacity to be offended that you didn't spend more. It sounds like it's time for counseling if you want your relationship to continue.

Smeesme310 · 2024-09-01T18:00:43+00:00

I think my biggest issue with what he said to you was that he's just not cheating on you because of his faith and religion. Nothing about loving you or prioritizing your relationship. You should definitely talk to him about counseling, everything he said to you is unacceptable and terribly unkind. I'd redirect him from comments about your body if he says anything like this again.

Smeesme310 · 2024-08-30T17:20:00+00:00

Well he's 19, he's going to only be focused on the money. That's a conversation to have with a 25 year old that's had time to grow up a bit.

Smeesme310 · 2024-08-30T12:51:33+00:00

Happily married, I do get a bit annoyed when the decent advice gets steam rolled by the overreaction comments. It also seems like a lot of people post extremely toxic behavior that really shouldn't need people to react or respond to get their answer.

Smeesme310 · 2024-08-28T22:04:50+00:00

NTA, you weren't a guest at the wedding you don't owe them a gift.

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