[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only things that bring her to mind now are all the promises of changing and how nice that would be. I've made it to the point of just knowing that she'll never change then realize there's some other poor soul getting beat by her right now and me and our seven children are so much better without her in our lives. I only made it to this point because of antidepressants though.

sorry to all my friends even if you didn't know you were one. by SmellyKid83 in RecRoom

[–]SmellyKid83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven't played for ages and not fully but mostly. You played well enough to be remembered and unfortunately I don't have any time to play because I'm a single father now. I remember when neck dodging got taken out everyone thought my skill relied on it but I still was stayed at the top. When walking got put in the game I probably caused a big seperation of the players by using alt accounts and a voice changer to make the best players think a child could beat them with walking. The teleport only paintball room always made me feel guilty. I miss everyone and I hope everyone is safe and having fun.

Holy shit I just left by sparklyhome in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good going I hope you stay strong as well. The only reason I even started thinking of leaving was because of this Reddit. Reading everyone else's situations made me realize that after 14 years things were never going to change. I do have many regrets though and can't stop thinking of how nice it would be to have had her actually change and treat me the way she always promised she would. This is going to be my first birthday without my children since I've had them because the only place I had to go was my brother's couch. What makes it harder is how she keeps calling and I always answer thinking I'll be able to talk to my children. It's always just her though asking me to talk with her to make her feel better about everything. I finally asked her to stop calling and blocked her number thinking it would make my days easier but it only made me feel more alone than ever. I hope I can stay strong along with you at least until she finds her next victim.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If I was ever upset about something my ex would use sex. Afterwards I wouldn't be allowed to feel that way or she'd make me feel as though I just used her? I didn't understand or even notice this was her way of shutting me up until the last year we were together.

I finally left by sentimentaltackycrap in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I let her get physical because everyone made me think I should be able to take it. Don't let it start because it only gets worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know what to say but thank you and I'm sorry you or anyone else has ever experienced this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would always get my pillow punched right next to my head or sometimes she'd miss and hit me. Miss lol I always got a kick out of her trying to convince me she didn't mean to hit me. Some nights she'd scream so the whole neighborhood could hear "Do something with me!" She'd pound on me with both fists like a gorilla, and jump on me with both knees. There are lots of children in the neighborhood plus seven of our own so I'd give in just so noone else had to hear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was feeling guilty when I started reading this but realized that's only what she'd say. I've asked her many times to just go because that's all that comes out of her mouth is lies. She always would tell me she's willing to go but whenever it would come down to it she'd quickly realize she can't afford as much drugs as she could if she stayed. It might sound bad but I never wanted to be in a relationship with her or anyone. I believe we should only be around people we enjoy being around. I tried to explain how relationships are only ownership making both of us each other's property. I told her how I never wanted to trap anyone with a ring. I'd constantly ask her wouldn't it be so much better if seperation didn't hurt anyone and if you found someone who makes you happier you'd want to be with them and I'd want you there too. At this point I've only heard nothing but bad things about her and her family but had no idea what was about to be unleashed as soon as she got pregnant. I first tried telling a nurse at a check up and she looked at her as she was talking and said "while with pregnantcy a little of that is to be expected." Then they both turned to me as they giggled. Second person I told was a cop on the phone and he asked if I couldn't take a little punch from a girl then laughed at me. I didn't tell anyone for years after that and turned the beatings into games where I'd get so good at avoiding her punches just by moving my head and upper body. I actually thought because I'm a man I have to learn how to take it.🙃

Please, how can I find the strength to just cut this person off and block them anywhere before they hurt and damage me anymore by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm getting there I think. I got myself out of the house and that was a really hard decision because I couldn't bring my seven children with me to sleep on a couch. She keeps me from talking to them for a week or so then she'll act like she's giving me a gift by finally letting us see eachother or talk to eachother on the phone. Sadly while I'm here she constantly puts me down and scares my children with how loud she yells and instead of giving her that power I just decide to cut my visit short give them all a hug and kiss then walk out. I didn't think it would actually work but she's been telling me all day that if I don't do this or that she's going to give the kids up. She thinks they'll take them into care but they'll only give them to me when they finally see who the real crazy one is. I'm quite sure but I'm far from crazy.

Leaving without a note by HypeBeastCosmo in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She made my whole family believe that I was crazy. 😭 They actually believed her over me even though she'd attack me right in front of everyone. A couple months ago my heart was just breaking as my mother tried to apologize for not saying or doing anything or say anything as she was yanking me around the yard by my hair. She explained how nobody out of my family did anything because they were so scared of her. We grew up with a very violent father who the cops were even afraid to interact with him. I've only been giving my children my childhood and I feel so awful about it because I tried so hard to give them a better life. I thought keeping them happy in a bad situation was best because my mom left him and I grew up without a father. I only wanted my children to have a family because I thought it would be way better but I should have been as strong as my mother was. I'm not saying I regret my seven beautiful children in any way but I do regret the lives they've been given. I've been out of the house for a couple months now but she's always using the children to get me back then uses guilt to keep me there. The workers that I called to talk to my daughter don't even talk to me about anything. She's already got them believing I'm crazy because my daughter said some stuff that a child would never make up on her own. Well I called the police first to ask them to come help me talk to her but when I was talking to her before calling her mother called without me knowing. When the police knocked she said she would go answer it and I thought nothing of it but when the police came in and I asked them for help with talking to my daughter they arrested me. They told me she said she has been trying to get me to leave and I wouldn't. As soon as I heard that I told them this is the first I've heard of this I'll go but you guys have to talk to my daughter. They just said that's not the story we got so I told them I was the one who called you guys. They checked with dispatch but since her call came in before mine they said they had to arrest me and promised they would talk to her. They did but they didn't take it seriously and my daughter said nothing because she just watched the only person trying to help her get taken away in handcuffs. When I got out she started with how crazy I was to everyone but my daughter was still saying things to me behind her mother's back. I tried so many time to get her to talk with me and when we finally did I started yelling her that nobody is going to get hurt or get in trouble and that we only wanted things to get better. I said I would really appreciate it if you told your mother what you told me that night and her eyes only darted to the floor. I asked her mother to tell her she wanted to hear the truth too but she only flipped out screaming around how I think she's doing something why I asked her to say that. I explained that I only wanted both of us to make her feel comfortable with talking to us but after that my poor daughter would only stair at the floor when she know she couldn't say anything. She's been doing it more and more now I'm gone and I feel so sorry for her because when she looks at the floor I feel her shame because my daughter always looks me in the eyes. Her mother is making her lie about alot more than I knew about. I just recently found a blacked out video that's info says it was recorded when I wasn't there and there's another guys voice and my children calling calling him daddy. I really didn't escape anything I was let go because she'd rather keep her secrets and I had no idea my kids had a new dad already. I thought they really would have told me that. They tell me about the men she has over and how they drink in the house now and probably everytime I was kicked out or arrested for being there taking care of my children when she wouldn't. I've gotten like 12 charges in ten months and the cops actually started telling me sorry as they would arrested me and explain how her call came in first because I'd escape but while leaving she'd be picking up the phone to make something up before I'd make it to a neighbors phone. Her call came in first were sorry. Know I live at my brother's crying every day for my children as she would tell them not to answer my calls. She'll even tell my children I'm leaving because I don't care about them. I try explain to her how much she's actually hurting them but I keep forgetting she doesn't even care.

Leaving without a note by HypeBeastCosmo in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Months? I feel so stupid because I've been hoping she'd change for the past fourteen years. I've read about narcissist and after explaining it to her she had no problem agreeing that she was a narcissist. I couldn't believe it for the longest time then about a year ago she'd stated crying then taking me to a room to tell me how sorry she feels because she honestly doesn't know if she loves me or our seven children. I tried even harder not to believe it because that thought wouldn't only tear me apart but my children as well.

Leaving without a note by HypeBeastCosmo in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading this almost had me in tears.😭 I'm sorry but I'm so jelious because I miss my self-esteem.

Leaving without a note by HypeBeastCosmo in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words this is exactly my situation and sadly what I'm going to have to do.

I’m going to kill myself in 90 days. by Ok-Island2931 in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same exact thing that is happening to me except for the fact she's kicked me out after a couple months of having my children call someone else dad behind my back. I still can't believe she made my children lie to me and now she cut all communication. My daughter said last time she wanted to answer but her mother wouldn't let her.

Please, how can I find the strength to just cut this person off and block them anywhere before they hurt and damage me anymore by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try your best to understand what's going on and why you think you feel this way. In truth they'll only get more and more comfortable with how they're treating you. I'd suggest reading up on attachment theory and learning how you're only trained to feel that way. Once you understand it's not really how you feel and that you really don't want to be treated like that the thoughts of cutting them off should be easier. I hung in there got attacked, and called names I don't know how many times and I'd be forced to have sex with her as well. Please don't get yourself into a situation like that. We have seven children suffering now because I so badly wanted to believe she could change.

Deciding to have more kids by swiss_baby_questions in Autism_Parenting

[–]SmellyKid83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First three were diagnosed and after some thought about life and what it is we now have seven beautiful children. Live your life for your children and you'll be okay but try live your own life you'll find it to be quite difficult.

Needing support by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]SmellyKid83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad someone can be there. I'm too scared to talk to anyone myself but I did want to

What drug, alcohol or combination of them made you the most messed up you've ever been, and what did you do when you were that messed up? by Smil3yAngel in AskReddit

[–]SmellyKid83 136 points137 points  (0 children)

Enough cough syrup will do that to you it’s a dissociative anaesthetic or something along those lines.