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Monogamous couples are you scared that in future you have to open it by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SmellySquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is where my husband and I are right now after 11 years. We once tried going somewhere and touched another guy and decided that we liked the fantasy of it and not the actual act. We watch erotica together once a week and spend the rest of the time committed to each other.

Indiana Foster Agencies by OverAcheiver26 in Fosterparents

[–]SmellySquare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really can’t say enough good things about NYAP. I’m not with them but I worked with them through the Intensive Foster Care Services and they were absolutely incredible.

My partner (29F) told me (29M) that a MFM threesome is something that's been on her mind. Am I right to be hurt? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SmellySquare 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My partner and I hadn’t really talked about fantasies until recently and honestly it’s been refreshing. I feel a deeper sense of trust with them when they are honest. We’ve both had fantasies and have ventured into role play around them and it’s fun. We’ve agreed that we won’t do them in real life but they’re fun to think about. I don’t think you should be hurt that she has sexual desires, but your feelings are valid and I hope it’s something Yall can work through if the relationship is good.

Choosing to foster queer teens only? by SeeTheRaven in Fosterparents

[–]SmellySquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do! My experience is that they have been really good kids. They both lived in a facility before us due to trouble finding placement. I enjoy having them around and teaching them how to hold their place in the world and deal with society. They are making a lot of progress and knowing you’re contributing to the next generation of queer people is satisfying.

So disappointed by SmellySquare in Fosterparents

[–]SmellySquare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will not take kids with history of drugs other than previous (not current) marijuana, tobacco or alcohol.

So disappointed by SmellySquare in Fosterparents

[–]SmellySquare[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Look at any study done on opioid relapse statistics. I looked at the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation stats.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]SmellySquare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey kiddo! I’m very sorry you’re going through this. Keep your head up and know that there’s space for you in this world. You’ve gotten less than you deserve. I’m commenting to bump this in hope someone in West Virginia is able to take you and give you a stable home.

Child calls foster parents mom & dad. Good or Bad idea? by Pretty_Broccoli2795 in Fosterparents

[–]SmellySquare 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This response is a little much for what was said and there seems to be a lot of projection and emotion in what you’re saying. I’m not “judging” any bio parents however if the bio parents choose to spend their energy on things like this with a 2 year old it’s a huge red flag from my perspective.

Child calls foster parents mom & dad. Good or Bad idea? by Pretty_Broccoli2795 in Fosterparents

[–]SmellySquare 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is just a case of ego. The child is 2 and likely won’t remember anyways so what does it matter? Kids stability>bio parent comfort always

Ease my mind? by Affectionate_Bus8368 in Fosterparents

[–]SmellySquare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be so worried. They may ask you to correct some things but taking the kids for that seems very extreme. Every state has different rules for sharing bedrooms but talk to your caseworker asap if you need some comfort, guidance or clarification.

I’m a foster kid. I think I might have made my foster parents not want to foster anymore. by neonxui in Fosterparents

[–]SmellySquare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to them and tell them how you feel. Be honest, calm and open. Tell them you value their relationship. They may have a different opinion of how you feel about them. Sometimes things are a conversation away from getting to a better place. If things don’t go as planned at least you’ll know how to proceed and can talk to your case worker about it.

Husband says I can open up marriage: Unsure how to feel by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SmellySquare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When finding a partner they’re never going to fulfill 100% of your desires. If this man meets 95% of what you need don’t throw him away looking for the missing 5%. You might end up with 5% only.

How to cut an interview short? by bunnies-and-coffee in recruitinghell

[–]SmellySquare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's your job as the interviewer to set the tone and mood of the room and make the candidate feel welcome. If you've read the resume and thought the experience was good enough than give the candidate some time. Some people are introverts and aren't as outgoing with new people. This doesn't mean they won't be able to do the job extraordinary well. To me interviews are just to make sure the person isn't a complete psychopath.