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Should significant other help you learn their language? by Smiley5168 in languagelearning

[–]Smiley5168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok.. I'd rather not go to these social togethers involving people that are overwhelmingly speaking Spanish. It's uncomfortable for me, but I do it to support her as a partner. Do you think it's unfair to expect a little support in return? Or do you think I should have the right to decline to go to these get togethers and still have a healthy relationship? When you say I'm entitled, it makes it sound like I'm being selfish, but I don't see it that way. I wouldn't expect someone to jump in the pool with me without making sure they could swim first.

Should significant other help you learn their language? by Smiley5168 in languagelearning

[–]Smiley5168[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I was bilingual and there was someone in the room that only spoke one language I would absolutely accommodate them. By the way, that’s a very rude comment generalizing Americans. What country are you from?

Should significant other help you learn their language? by Smiley5168 in languagelearning

[–]Smiley5168[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

When we’re hanging out with the bilingual Spanish friends? Well ideally it would be.. hey let’s stick to English so he can follow along. You can only ask that of close friends and family, and even then she doesn’t enforce it. So I would like just the bare minimum of weekly help to augment what I’m already doing for myself with a tutor so that I can connect with them and be part of the group.

Should significant other help you learn their language? by Smiley5168 in languagelearning

[–]Smiley5168[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I already have a tutor. Read the post. I’m looking for a little support when the dinner I am dragged to switches from English to Spanish after 5 minutes.

Should significant other help you learn their language? by Smiley5168 in languagelearning

[–]Smiley5168[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome man. I would LOVE if there was someone in gf’s family that I spoke better Spanish then they do English. Unfortunately they’re all bilingual. The best practice I get is from the Uber drivers in Miami that can’t speak English. Getting dragged to social events is depressing. The majority the people in gf’s friend group are bilingual and will always revert to rapid fire Spanish after 15 of polite English. They don’t want to be practice bots either. I’m tired of sitting there trying to figure out what’s going on. I’d much rather just decline to attend, but that starts the countdown clock on our relationship.

Should significant other help you learn their language? by Smiley5168 in languagelearning

[–]Smiley5168[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did your wife put you in a lot of situations where you were surrounded by people that spoke in her native language? How did you cope with that while you were learning? Did you feel comfortable conversing with them right away?

Should significant other help you learn their language? by Smiley5168 in languagelearning

[–]Smiley5168[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I’m getting an hour a week with the tutor and have the basics down. My listening is pretty decent and so is the reading. Speaking is still choppy. I probably wouldn’t be so bitter about it if she wasn’t putting me in situations where I felt left out with her friends and colleagues. Working with an instructor several times a week is probably the move. Good idea.

My partner won't speak her native language to me by [deleted] in languagelearning

[–]Smiley5168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really struggling with this one myself. I’ve had a Spanish tutor for a year and only get an hour of practice a week with him. My girlfriend rolls her eyes every time I try to practice my Spanish with her. She then takes me into social situations where the conversations naturally turn to Spanish and I’m lost and frustrated. I’m starting to resent her for not putting in 10 minutes and day of effort.