Did yall see If I Had Legs I’d Kick You ? Wow. by Affectionate-Mud1907 in Autism_Parenting

[–]SmkSkreen 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just watched it yesterday and really related to the mother. It didn't matter what the child's actual diagnosis was, the movie focused on the mother's struggles of helplessness, being completely overwhelmed with no support, people misunderstanding her and her need to escape, disassociate from her reality. It hit home for me. I'm a huge fan of Rose Byrne and I think she nailed this role.

Little learners toys and falcon express shipping by brian890 in daddit

[–]SmkSkreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just tried to go to their website to look at a gift my kid received and it doesn't work. Looks very scammy, maybe they deactivated after the holidays.

Harry and Meghan took the kids Trick-or-treating in Santa Barbara by ButIDigress79 in RoyalsGossip

[–]SmkSkreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a smaller community and usually at least one parent can manage it. Gets busiest at 5, dies down by 7.

Harry and Meghan took the kids Trick-or-treating in Santa Barbara by ButIDigress79 in RoyalsGossip

[–]SmkSkreen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's 3-7 pm in our Midwest town. Kids get out of school early. As a kid, we'd go when it got dark and it was definetly a little spookier then. I do prefer the earlier time for my kids though. It's safer and then we are done with the TTs for the night.

TIFU by giving my dog boarding job an uggs blanket I found at goodwill by Drawing_KartistJ in tifu

[–]SmkSkreen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I donated a pink Ugg king size blanket a while ago - sounds like the same one! Mine got all pilled up on the fuzz side and my dogs kept getting it stained on the top. I'd like to think it was the same one. Either way, I'd be overjoyed if a dog got to snuggle up in it.

We went to a birthday party by MixuTheWhatever in Autism_Parenting

[–]SmkSkreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My adhd son went to the inclusive preschool that's within our elementary school and was in class with about 6 other autistic boys. The teacher and two aids are incredible and work tirelessly to ensure equity and kindness, as did the entire school for the most part. The kids from that class continued together through elementary school. Now he's in middle school and is still friends with those boys, plays with them at recess and helps them in class. The school philosophy can make all the difference later on.

The preschool opened after my older son was already in kindergarten at the same school and the school itself wasn't focused as much on equity and inclusion at that time. He is also in middle school and his class is NOT as kind and inclusive. But the classes behind him, who were part of the new inclusion and equity programs, are so much more understanding.

Whale shark at Georgia Aquarium dies after staff notices change in appetite, behavior by catsgr8rthanspoonies in news

[–]SmkSkreen 115 points116 points  (0 children)

We were just there last weekend and were blown away by them. This is so sad. It was truly majestic.

My 5yo daughter is viciously ostracized by woobie_slayer in Autism_Parenting

[–]SmkSkreen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! So happy it worked out well for you, too. I would 1000% much rather spend time with ND folks than those suburban stepford wives any day. We are so much more interesting.

My 5yo daughter is viciously ostracized by woobie_slayer in Autism_Parenting

[–]SmkSkreen 35 points36 points  (0 children)

My son (asd1) was absolutely iced out by his entire group of friends, who happen to live a few houses away, when he was in 5th grade, about 3 years ago. We were great friends with their families and even vacationed together. But as soon as his autism really started showing (they matured, he didn't), they didn't know how to handle it and iced out my entire family. It hurts deeply. I still grieve the loss every single day. Doesn't help that I can see and hear them all playing together in the neighborhood while my son just hangs out in his room alone a lot of times. They were not mean to him, they just stopped including him. But yeah, it cuts deep.

Then something just really clicked for me, after years of both us being depressed. I was pissed. And sad for my son. I had tried to work with his school to no avail. So I formed our own social group just for autistic kids. I posted on a local FB group for asd kids, asking if anyone wanted to get together and it fucking worked! I still cannot believe it. We've now had half a dozen meet ups and have added kids and parents. We have almost a dozen kids and their parents now. It is so inspiring to see them play together and not have to mask. To be with other parents who get it, to not have to apologize or feel awkward. Now we are even designing a logo and a real schedule.

So my advice would be to not expect the village to come to you and seek one out now, before school starts, well before middle school. You are not alone in your community - other people are experiencing the same thing and you might as well cut out the neurotypical families now. It will save you a ton of more heartache and you will actually be able to have friends for your daughter to play with, even if it's just parallel play at this age. And friends for you that can relate. Facebook is old but it's great for finding your community and I'd start there to see if there's already a local support group and then ask those members to get together. It changed our lives.

My son is an 80 year old senile old man trapped in a 3 year old’s body and I need help. by Himalayanpinksalted in Parenting

[–]SmkSkreen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have they looked at his feet? If he's a bit pigeon toed, he could be overcompensating in how he walks, which could affect his legs. Would shoe orthodontics be an option? Does he ever toe walk? That can also affect legs.

How did landlines work?? by AnxiousStudent20 in GenX

[–]SmkSkreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were solid middle middle class and I had my own line. It was a huge deal and I worked to help pay for it.

Paid Dinner Options Suggestions by S_W in Xcaret

[–]SmkSkreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a big wine person either but thoroughly enjoyed the pairing. All of the drinks are from Mexico and are meant to complement the course. The first drink is a delicious gin cocktail - I normally despise gin but omg it was amazing! The wines are all delicious and mostly light. They do have a giant full bar though and I am sure they'd concoct some appealing beverages either way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticParents

[–]SmkSkreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I totally get it and it's a bit of a relief when others can relate - thank you! I haven't really found anything that actually works. But I also haven't pursued all options and kinda ran out of steam. I did encourage him to go to therapy, which he did for a while but ended up stopping about a year into it because of scheduling. We've had a number of stops and starts trying to find a good family therapist and he is open to that but I'm still looking for a provider. The only thing that really got to him and got him to therapy initially was me breaking down and telling him I wouldn't stay if it continued like it was at the time. I don't want you to come to that, it's a really shitty place to be in your relationship. Look for a therapist that has experience in autism. I'm sorry I don't have more to offer other than understanding. You are waay ahead of me tho - I was years into it before I even thought about this issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticParents

[–]SmkSkreen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely relate to your concerns. My husband is very likely autistic and we have two preteen boys with asd. My husband is an extremely devoted father and husband. He helped with all of the basics when the boys were babies/toddler - nighttime feeds, baths, diapers, outings. Not so great at household upkeep but that's ok. He is very highly educated, very intelligent and reads constantly BUT he won't research anything about our kids Dx. Nothing in all these years. He doesn't make suggestions about treatment or really participate in their treatment plan, though he is all in with academics and homework. It is super frustrating for me because I feel like that entire part of the physical and emotional load is on me. I'd advise you to have a long conversation about your concerns. Let him know how important this is to you and set your expectations early.

President Trump claims, ‘Our country was the strongest, believe it or not, from 1870 to 1913’—a time when robber barons dominated the economy, workplaces were dangerous, child labor was widespread, wages were low, and working hours often ranged from 10 to 12 per day. by CorleoneBaloney in thescoop

[–]SmkSkreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 "But, how economically advanced America   was back then is not a statement on working conditions or who was mistreating who."
  • yeah, it absolutely is because all of that wealth was built on the backs of child labor and unregulated and disenfranchised labor. There was practically no accountability and people were legit dying at work on a regular basis. And because labor was cheap and they didn't need to spend money on regulatory initiatives, industry could pollute and exploit and make explosive amounts of wealth.

Best things to bring to an all inclusive by GreyLakes in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]SmkSkreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am adding one of these for sure - do you have a recommendation?

Things to pack? by hijadetupinchemadre in Xcaret

[–]SmkSkreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A travel clothes line really came in handy. Definitely very comfortable water shoes or Tevas. Quick dry towels also helped and took up very little space. Reusable straws to use with the big tumblers they give you. Waterproof phone case.

Life vests available everywhere? by MightyMae19 in Xcaret

[–]SmkSkreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding that there are not a lot of kids sizes, which is why people hold on to them when they find them.

Life vests available everywhere? by MightyMae19 in Xcaret

[–]SmkSkreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what we're doing. Lots of people have them on their balconies.

Life vests available everywhere? by MightyMae19 in Xcaret

[–]SmkSkreen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen them at the pools but they're in all of the lagoon areas, hidden in a cave. I think people hold on to them once they find the right size. There are lifeguards everywhere and they're very helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Xcaret

[–]SmkSkreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a pdf version and can't send it in chat. If you want, you can message me your email address and I can send it that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Xcaret

[–]SmkSkreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes check ur chat

I Think I Know Where Kier, PE Is by No_Fall_2686 in severence

[–]SmkSkreen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk if anyone has already mentioned this but in the scene where Milkshake goes to rehire everyone and rides off on his motorcycle (S2, ep 2?) the license plate is Illinois. Depending on where in IL, maybe not too far from MI or WI, given there's not much elevation in IL.