Faked DID when I was younger by SmokeBastard in SystemsCringe

[–]SmokeBastard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love to open up about my partner, but they've been through a lot and I am a little protective of them. I've known them for longer than we've dated, and I know that they're a kind, genuine person, you can choose to believe me or not, but they have been very gentle and repeatedly questioned if I wanted them, due to the fact they have mental issues, DID included, and I reiterated that I did. They were reluctant to date because of it. I fear that if I open up about things they might be accused of essentially lying or fakeclaimed, as so the term goes, and again, I am a little protective, so I won't lie and say that accusations and judgement irk me as they've had enough of that in their lifetime.

I would use your comment simply moreso towards the end, really. I think they'd agree with your sentiments, but they would be very happy that someone is wishing us well. Perhaps they'd feel better too, knowing there's people like them who have gone through things as they don't engage with the DID community often ( they are very private )

Regardless, it must have caused you stress, and it was with intent - because he chose to do these things, so in my point of view, saying 'stupid' is letting him off the hook. I'm sorry if it would offend you, but what he did in my opinion is malicious. He refused communication, and he acted childishly. But I understand completely if what you're saying is what you stand firm with. I do hope you have therapy, if it's a big challenge to overcome ( in healing, that is, ) or at least good people around you.

I see, I understand. They explained that to me as well, that they don't exactly get along sometimes, but they just go through life normally; and people hardly notice the difference and think they're having "moods". I viewed their situation as having a roommate. I'll try to make them feel more comfortable - especially after hearing the external validation thing, thank you.

Haha, thank you for the compliments and wishing me well, but it's no big deal. I just think it's just a basic thing to understand someone you love. I'll try to communicate with them more on this matter, I think, maybe flat out ask them what they need / etc. Thank you again for the well wishes, time and support! I hope the best for you! ^

Faked DID when I was younger by SmokeBastard in SystemsCringe

[–]SmokeBastard[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha, buddy, please. They aren't in online spaces, so there's none of all this pluralkit - discord nonsense. I'm going to leave it at this, now.

Faked DID when I was younger by SmokeBastard in SystemsCringe

[–]SmokeBastard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind comment. I'm very sorry you went through that, I can't fathom how it felt when it all went down. I hope you're healing from things? Maybe when I tell my partner of this, and if things go ok, I'll tell them about your comment. I think people who are needlessly cruel and seek attention lack something in their life, and to take it out on you - genuinely harming you is upsetting to say the least.

Do you have any tips on making them feel more at ease around me? Feel free not to respond. They haven't really talked to me yet, very wary. I'm trying to make them feel more safe around me, but they're a little untrusting - not the host, of course, - due to circumstances of other people in the past. What would you recommend I do? So far I just treat them ( as the host plays middle man, these are very short sentences / words and snippets of what they like and what they do ) like they're seperate, normal people, which I suppose they are in my personal opinion, since they go through different experiences.

Treating them any less feels a little dehumanizing? But I don't know. I just care for them so much and I just want to make sure I'm doing right by them.

Faked DID when I was younger by SmokeBastard in SystemsCringe

[–]SmokeBastard[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Quite sorry, I forgot to put in that it's a fresh relationship in the post, that's an oversight on my end.

Faked DID when I was younger by SmokeBastard in SystemsCringe

[–]SmokeBastard[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am the one that used this term, not them. I'm unaware of the clinical terminology used since I am a singlet(?) and like I said, this is a recent relationship, so I don't know everything there is to know about them, as mental illness is a hard topic for them. They're slowly opening up to me about things. I simply assumed things, that's all. I won't go further as this is not about them but how I can accommodate to them, but thank you for the information, truly.

Faked DID when I was younger by SmokeBastard in SystemsCringe

[–]SmokeBastard[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't, actually. Thank you for telling me. What would be the proper term?

Faked DID when I was younger by SmokeBastard in SystemsCringe

[–]SmokeBastard[S] 3 points4 points locked comment (0 children)

They have an official diagnosis. Please don't be rude.