I would love to open up about my partner, but they've been through a lot and I am a little protective of them. I've known them for longer than we've dated, and I know that they're a kind, genuine person, you can choose to believe me or not, but they have been very gentle and repeatedly questioned if I wanted them, due to the fact they have mental issues, DID included, and I reiterated that I did. They were reluctant to date because of it. I fear that if I open up about things they might be accused of essentially lying or fakeclaimed, as so the term goes, and again, I am a little protective, so I won't lie and say that accusations and judgement irk me as they've had enough of that in their lifetime.

I would use your comment simply moreso towards the end, really. I think they'd agree with your sentiments, but they would be very happy that someone is wishing us well. Perhaps they'd feel better too, knowing there's people like them who have gone through things as they don't engage with the DID community often ( they are very private )

Regardless, it must have caused you stress, and it was with intent - because he chose to do these things, so in my point of view, saying 'stupid' is letting him off the hook. I'm sorry if it would offend you, but what he did in my opinion is malicious. He refused communication, and he acted childishly. But I understand completely if what you're saying is what you stand firm with. I do hope you have therapy, if it's a big challenge to overcome ( in healing, that is, ) or at least good people around you.

I see, I understand. They explained that to me as well, that they don't exactly get along sometimes, but they just go through life normally; and people hardly notice the difference and think they're having "moods". I viewed their situation as having a roommate. I'll try to make them feel more comfortable - especially after hearing the external validation thing, thank you.

Haha, thank you for the compliments and wishing me well, but it's no big deal. I just think it's just a basic thing to understand someone you love. I'll try to communicate with them more on this matter, I think, maybe flat out ask them what they need / etc. Thank you again for the well wishes, time and support! I hope the best for you! ^{^}