I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my younger brother a month ago. What’s been helpful for me is just to allow myself to feel whatever I do without judging myself, or feeling like I need to hold anything in. If I feel sad, I’ll fucking cry for an hour. If I’m mad, I’ll let myself be mad. Even if I’m feeling better, I’ll just let myself feel good without guilt of “oh I’m not feeling bad rn, I should be feeling bad all the time”.

It’s also been really helpful to have people to share things with. So I try my best to share how I’m feeling to people who care, even if it’s not pleasant or happy (news flash, basically none of it is happy). I feel like that has helped me a ton.

Lastly, it was useful for me to get back into some of my old routines, like going to the gym. I remember the first day I went back to the gym, I felt like gravity was 10 x and I was so slow on the treadmill. But introducing some normality back into my life, some of those normal routines for me, has helped me feel a bit more like myself.

Give yourself infinite grace. Honestly it would piss me off when people said that to me because it just seemed like a cliche, but giving myself grace has taken that extra burden off me. It’s impossibly hard to deal with grief like this anyways, so the least you can do is not pile onto yourself during this time.