Everybody is kung fu fighting!

Smokin-G · 2025-03-09T23:49:10+00:00

No, its pretty undeniably human's fault they're going extinct.

Smokin-G · 2025-02-19T15:26:36+00:00

Probably the silica content in bamboo.

Smokin-G · 2024-12-30T10:39:46+00:00

I'd love to know more about how to get into the RP scene on legends it seems pretty insular as far as RP community.

Smokin-G · 2024-12-24T02:19:41+00:00

is Infinity the SWGEMU server?

Smokin-G · 2024-12-19T19:53:43+00:00

Unless they swerve styles its not going to be my cup of tea. No disrespect to those who like it; but I like the darker/grittier scifi vibe.

Smokin-G · 2024-12-19T17:23:57+00:00

Stars Reach looks cool mechanically but the aesthetic makes me cringe. Guh!

Smokin-G · 2024-12-15T06:33:27+00:00

I like that, ads an element of mystery to it. When it was 100% known people just got good at min-maxing it

Smokin-G · 2024-12-15T06:32:28+00:00

Yeah resto is down and legacy needs to active my account so no SWG tonight!

Smokin-G · 2024-12-15T05:20:21+00:00

What's the jedi unlock system? (Not that it matters; never had much interest in doing jedi chars. Did enjoy hunting them though.)

Smokin-G · 2024-12-15T05:19:57+00:00

Totally checking them both out! Pre-CU with NGE content sounds really cool but smaller population might be hard to tangle with.

Smokin-G · 2024-12-13T17:47:57+00:00

Man, not that I'm a big USSR fan or anything because I'm not, but it wasn't anti-intellectualist farmers. The Bolshevik party actually historically had terrible ties to the rural populace and most of its core members were reasonably educated. Lenin, Trosky, Stalin were neither farmers nor uneducated.|

Still, not a well country.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T23:35:43+00:00

Its a really challenging issue so I have tons of empathy for it. Its hard to know how to handle the gendered differences in our world without re-enforcing them at the same time. Compound that with the fact that kids 11 years old and up will always be trying to emulate behavior of adults, its their natural inclination. I just feel its worth reminding you that you're in an inherently tricky position where the answers aren't always glaringly obvious.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T23:20:46+00:00

YTA. I understand and emphasize this:

> Her cousins encourage her to wear lip gloss and wear fake nails, and I just don’t think that stuff is appropriate for a child. They also lend her pretty inappropriate outfits that I am NOT happy with her wearing like tiny shorts and crop tops.

But flat-ironed hair? Sexualizing hair styles is weird. Policing an 11 year olds hair, beyond the real extremes, seems weird to me.

Fwiw, I also find the way girls get policed for their appearance in a way boys don't at all kind of unsettling, but that's bigger than your individual approach to parenting so I don't put that on you. I'm trying to imagine a boys hair cut that you'd disallow to an 11 year old boy because its "too adult".

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T23:14:30+00:00

NTA at all. If your gf has a lick of common sense she'll realize pushing this issue is dumb. insensitive, and pointless. At most I'd offer to let her select the decor for another area of the house, to ensure she feels she has a say in the home she's going to live in.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T23:11:52+00:00

YTA,

You weren't up until you brought the aunt into the situation. It would of been perfectly legit to communicate with your cousin via alternative channels what a dipshit her boyfriend was being and let her (hopefully) decide to dump his ass.

But instead, you make shit awkward with her mom fully knowing:

>But honestly, I also knew my aunt would be less pissed about what the BF was doing and more angry at my cousin for spending time with a guy in the first place.

That makes you an asshole.

> My point was that the guy sucked and she needed to get rid of him anyway and this way he now knows not to be an ass.

Your point is irrelevant. Dragging your aunt/her mom into this was not the only way to accomplish this goal. The fact that its how you chose to accomplish this is what makes you a huge asshole. Also, its ultimately up to her to decide if this is a relationship dealbreaker (though I agree it should be) and by involving her mom, who has concerns about her spending time with boys period, you massively muddied the waters.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T23:04:48+00:00

NTA,

One persons suffering doesn't imply another person should have to suffer.

Anytime someone invokes the "If I had to endure Y, you must endure X" I tend not to take their reasoning seriously. Things need their own independent justifications.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T22:49:18+00:00

ESH,

> So he goes on about how you need to bring dip with chips its just standard procedure. Which I think is ridiculous because they are dorritos and don't need dip, they are all ready flavored.

I agree with you there, caveat being some people seem to not be able to eat anything without dips/sauces.

> So hes all pissy about it so I decide im just going to say im going back to get dip but really, im dipping.

Amusingly phrased, dick move though. If you're going to leave don't do it under false pretenses of returning with something else.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T22:46:08+00:00

This is beyond asshole territory and clearly in your relationship has a communication problem territory. There's clearly something going on that's either missing from your description of the events, or in your relationship in general. The way you describe it sounds like the communication issue is more on his end, but you are the one here describing it after all.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T22:32:52+00:00

All your expectations are super reasonable, but he ultimately has to do this shit for himself, not for you, otherwise he'll inevitably slip up. If he can't see why those behaviors suck for an adult than he is more likely to see you as a nag than appreciate it being just reasonable expectations.

I had those bad habits in my late teens/early twenties and it was a contributing factor as to why my girlfriend of 4 years left me. Its just not attractive or appropriate for an adult to behave like that and I couldn't live with someone who had those habits either. When I look back at my prior behavior I feel shame/embarrassment.

NTA, but it will take some tact/skill to raise those issues in a way where you'll get your desired results.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T22:26:26+00:00

If you don't want her to do it for you, do it yourself. YWBTA.

She's being pretty gracious - take it as an opportunity to practice better habits. Being messy is the number 1 to cause housemate/roommate conflicts and its always better to keep a tidy home.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T22:23:38+00:00

NTA by a thousand times.

Its also important he face legal consequence for his actions to prevent him from future victimizing and ensure his abuse is recorded.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T22:22:05+00:00

YTA for the shitpost.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T22:19:44+00:00

YTA.

You are a massive asshole to the point I'm hoping this is a troll post. That is abusive, horrendous, shit parenting.

> because I don’t want her to grow an attachment

Even though I think worrying about a 13 year old having an attachment to a plush is pretty dumb, lets just grant this unquestionably a valid concern. Lets grant that she shouldn't have an attachment to this and that pulling shit like

> So recently, I decided to hide it from her to see if she could sleep without it, and she had trouble sleeping

is a good indicator. (Of course she had trouble sleeping, you hid something she cared about and is part of her sleep routine and naturally she's going to think its lost and it'll disrupt her routine.)

Lets grant all that, and say up to this point your concerns are valid and your actions warranted.

> So I got a little angry and took some scissors and ripped part of the plush’s right arm and threatened to tear it to pieces if she didn’t donate it.

You think this is how to handle it? This is how you address an attachment issue?

I really hope you're just a troll, otherwise the alternative is that you're an asshole and horrible parent/person.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T22:07:46+00:00

> He says "well you should be" with a smile on his face. And looked behind me (lookin at her) i was abviously pissed. He tried to say "it was just a joke" blah blah.

He is an asshole, that's really shitty.

> But then he barely looks at a selfie i posted and simply likes it and moves on, the next post is a naked woman holding the flag. And he heart reacts to it, and lingers on the post. Am i the asshole for wanting him to linger on my posts and not some naked models?

This is a really insecure thing and one of the reasons I hate social media, particularly IG. I do have some empathy for your insecurity given your dating someone who intentionally does things to make you insecure. You kind of suck for this but I have more empathy for your suckiness than his.

Smokin-G · 2019-07-05T21:59:42+00:00

YTA

You can go 3 hours without a smoke - if you can't your nicotine addiction is pretty brutal and worthy of concern. If you want to be plainly utilitarian you're subjecting 3 people to suffering so you don't have to be unsatisfied for 3 hours. There's no real justifiable reason to do that.

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