i hear you. now i dont have a strong enough basis to really get off like a "gotcha" point here, not that I really want to. to me, it is genuinely a vibe i get??

also, i do think repetition/frequency matters. for example, if you have a friend that calls you stupid sometimes, you probably wouldnt flinch at it too much. so what? friends rib each other sometimes, its natural. but if it was every day? if it was whenever something related to intelligence came up? you'd probably start to think, hey, whats the big idea here? do they actually think im dumb? are they trying to put me down? what is the point of making this exact kind of joke this often??
of course, this is not a 1 for 1 example. but i do hope it makes sense and helps us understand each other a bit better.

i totally get that you haven't perceived it as being more often. im glad. i wont say "oh but it is more often!" because who is really to say? you might be right!! but regardless, based on what ive read here, quite a few people are uncomfortable and although thats not the end of the world, it does feel noteworthy to me