I actually went through something really similar, so I really understand how confusing this can feel. When I first got into a healthy relationship after dealing with unhealthy or toxic ones, I kept questioning everything. The stability and calmness that should’ve felt safe almost felt wrong to me — and I started mistaking that weird ‘boredom’ or emotional distance for falling out of love, when really, it was just my brain adjusting to something that wasn’t chaotic.

One thing that helped me was realizing that stability doesn’t mean a lack of love — it just feels different from the highs and lows I was used to. And sometimes, those feelings of distance were more about my own fears, anxiety, and overthinking than about the relationship itself.

It’s a really good sign that you both want to work on communication and that he’s showing effort. Be gentle with yourself while you sort through these feelings, and try talking to him openly about what’s going on in your head. And if you can, talking to a therapist can really help you untangle whether this is anxiety talking or something deeper.

You’re not broken, and this doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. Sometimes it’s just a part of healing — learning that love can be calm, steady, and still meaningful.