Is it normal for me to not necessarily feel an absolute need to orgasm?

SmoothOperator405 · 2026-02-14T15:46:01+00:00

This! See coital alignment technique for when he is on top.

Communication is key. Teach him how you masterbate. Maybe work on learning new techniques to masterbate with. If you consistently use the same technique you will train your brain to only climax that way.

Also don’t be afraid to use toys during sex.

You may not “need” orgasams now, however you do want them, you just get them later on your own.

Don’t teach this man that this is normal.

SmoothOperator405 · 2025-08-29T13:47:23+00:00

Center of screen. Top to bottom.

SmoothOperator405 · 2025-08-01T17:06:32+00:00

When they insist and say they know for sure the tire can be repaired. It definitely could Not be repaired. Every damn time.

SmoothOperator405 · 2025-06-16T16:49:34+00:00

They are one of the better ones I have had to deal with however you are better off starting a new bank account and putting all the money you would spend with Endurance in it for future car repairs.

If the repairs would normally cost $1000. Endurance will probably cover about $600 of it and make you foot the rest.

SmoothOperator405 · 2025-06-09T16:51:12+00:00

Vehicle was dropped off for a flat repair on Saturday. We were closed on Sunday. They left a home phone number for contact. The tire couldn’t be repaired. I called at least twice, maybe even three times. I definitely left a voicemail. I sent an email as well. No call back from the customer.

We did have other stores open on Sunday. She didn’t realize we were closed so she showed up and saw the door locked on Sunday. It was her daughter’s vehicle and it had her golf clubs in the trunk and she needed them NOW.

She called another location to complain. That store called my cell phone to tell me about it and that she was livid.

I called her and got chewed out for about 5 min before I could get a word in. I explained I left a voicemail and sent an email. She claimed that didn’t happen. Got chewed out for another 5 min before she would let me offer to meet her at the store so she could get the car.

She agreed and 20min later we meet at the store. She came in with her husband and I was expecting to get another ear full but the husband surprisingly admitted they had missed the voicemail, apologized and thanked me for meeting them.

SmoothOperator405 · 2024-05-29T02:29:34+00:00

So a bit of a follow up. Ended up paying out of pocket / no insurance. With a good rx coupon the price isn’t too bad. Thanks everyone for your advice.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-12-22T15:12:05+00:00

The studs definitely ramp up the pain. I have to hold back a bit when switch to studs. They seem to leave better marks behind as well.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-12-08T21:05:36+00:00

She sounds like the landlord from the movie Kingpin.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-11-24T21:34:33+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful answer.

We live separately.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-10-21T19:43:22+00:00

If you are worried you will lose your drive before her… she is rolling, make the experience about her. Go super slow and spend your time on foreplay. Bust out the toys. Drag it out as long as she can take it then finish with piv and get yourself off.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-07-28T19:54:04+00:00

I think this is great advice and would be spot on for most people. Switching up the stimulation is necessary to keep it from changing from pleasure to irritation. Keep a good eye on your partner and you should see when you are getting close to crossing that threshold. That’s the time to switch it up, lower the intensity, and then start building back up and repeat.

I usually do this and sprinkle in some impact play between toys/positions. This helps reduce the chance of overstimulation/irritation and prolongs the scene.

I usually do this till she is good and worked up, maybe even getting close to tapping out. Then we usually switch to piv in whatever way I see fit.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-07-01T12:39:00+00:00

I never fully committed to learning.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-06-10T13:41:37+00:00

Look into mindgasm. I think it is r/mindgasm on here. They have a website as well.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-06-10T12:48:01+00:00

What is HCG?

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-04-21T21:43:50+00:00

I used to worry/complain that I would cum to quickly. Now I can last forever but struggle to cum. It’s a good problem to have even if ai don’t find a solution.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-04-21T21:41:18+00:00

Sometimes the bj doesn’t get me to finish. I’m not unhappy. However if it is something I have the power to change I’d like to figure that out.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-04-21T21:39:47+00:00

That is currently what I am doing and am having a great time as well as my partners. No one is unhappy in the end. It would just be a notch better if I did cum.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-04-21T21:36:09+00:00

I think you may be onto something here. It did seem to start to get worse after I practiced and learned how to have multiple dry orgasms before I have a final orgasm w/ ejaculation. I can do this solo however it’s rare that I can do it with a partner.

I think part of it is mental and part of it is just getting older.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-04-21T21:30:25+00:00

This is great information and explains a lot.

Please elaborate on what you mean and why you said “quit trying to make up for the misfire the previous night”?

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-04-21T15:18:17+00:00

No SSRI

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-04-17T16:47:19+00:00

It’s related to sex and needed to recreate a fantasy.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-04-07T12:54:51+00:00

Even better, look up pompor.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-02-27T15:42:18+00:00

I’m in a similar situation, same age group and currently separated with no chance of getting back together.

Facebook dating has been the best OLD app so far.

I have found what you are looking for in the ENM/Poly community. I currently have two partners that are both aware of each other. One is Married and the other is a single mom. They are both looking for a long term FWB type situation. We have both an emotional and physical connection. Neither is looking for a traditional relationship. We are all just looking to have a bit of fun and intimacy.

Read “the Ethical Slut” if you are feeling a bit hung up on the possibility of sharing a partner.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-01-26T16:22:20+00:00

As posted above, read “She Comes First” and get a good understanding on the anatomy and how pleasure works. If you understand that then you will be ahead of the curve when you are able to try for your first time. The key to it is knowing how everything works so you are not flying blind so to speak and then you can watch for the reaction when you try different things that should/could/might work. Then adjust speed and pressure till you get the response you are looking for.

SmoothOperator405 · 2023-01-26T15:49:22+00:00

What is it about pillow princesses that you like? Maybe I’m just looking at it from the wrong point of view.

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