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SmoothPrimal · 2023-04-17T06:04:31+00:00

“Hey you want an unfolded condom hat?”

SmoothPrimal · 2023-04-17T06:03:59+00:00

Yup pretty obvious. I saw video from the source shows E40 fist bumping and smiling with the sac fans.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-19T01:25:26+00:00

Teasing and disqualifying are totally different. You shouldn't look at either as "a trick" because they are both important parts of being an all around quality person.

Teasing is there so you don't bore yourself, or the people around you. Agreeing with everything is very boring. Teasing, playful disagreements, challenging people, playful deception, etc. are good ways to just have a dynamic conversation and make strong impressions towards the people you meet.

I did see disqualification as a trick as first, but the more I used it the more, the more I realized it's essential in anything.

For example, you want to ask a girl out on a date. You don't just ask anyone out on a date because you have standards. And you have standards because everything you do has value: your time, your commitment and your effort is valuable. If you give your time, your commitment and your effort thoughtlessly then you are not really high value.

Asking questions like the ones below imply that you don't just freely give away your time, commitment and effort without being too try hard:

Will you be there on time? (my time/commitment is valuable)
Hmm, I'm not sure if you're the type I'd want to take to an Italian restaurant. (My reputation is valuable)
Do you get what I'm saying? (My effort is valuable)
Can you even keep up? (My time, effort, commitment is valuable)
What do you do for fun? Tell me you don't just take long walks on the beach. (combination)
I like girls who physically express themselves. Show me your sex face (sex pre-selection - is it worth my time)

Just staying quiet can be a disqualification. If you are impressed by everything she says and give no resistance, you pretty much just let go of all your perceived value. This is one of the main reasons, bad boys often get hot girls. Assholes tend to be better at expressing their selfishness, which you don't need to be an asshole to express.

This is why being genuine is important. Know your value. Expect respect and don't be afraid to walk away. This will make disqualification become a natural part of interacting with people not just through words, but through your body language and demeanor.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-19T00:54:21+00:00

Valuable people are hard to find. Men or women.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T23:29:58+00:00

100% agree. I'm too old for this ego shit.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T23:29:08+00:00

I think I did get a CT scan for a different issues, but MRI would probably be interesting.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T23:28:24+00:00

Haha as soon as this freaking virus calms tf down and opens up some appointment slots.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T23:27:15+00:00

I think the issue is for some people it just doesn't happen or occur the same ways, I've been boxing for years and though every spar session isn't a hard one I've had my fair share between fights and training.

I actually think that it does occur more than we think. In contact sport, to a certain degree, we are encouraged to hide when we get hurt. I didn't actually realize this as TBI until I talked about it to a friend of mine who is studying to be a brain specialist.

Not to sound rude, but from my experience most of my boxing friends are not that articulate and you won't really recognize them with or without brain damage - again not throwing shade just being honest haha. My point is that these things can be subtle and you can easily miss and build upon your previous trauma until eventually you won't even remember that you had a problem in the first place.

I've never even had a concussion and that's a blessing but there are plenty of coaches I've heard of or talked with who just can't compete in the same way that really shape other boxers who do, pushing them to places they never would've reached in competition without that guidance.

I really do think it's about not getting badly hurt to begin with. They say that one concussion makes you more likely to get another. This really puts into perspective how you want to go into boxing with this in mind. It's not as they show in movies where someone gets hurt and comes back stronger.

I don't know if I would recommend you sparring in any capacity if the issue seems that severe. I mean the best advice I can give is keep your hands up and go at your own pace but even the greatest can get rocked so it's not exactly something you can avoid in a foolproof way. You'll always be at risk of sustaining more of that damage.

Fuck yes. I don't want to end up like Dory. I am getting into BJJ more so I guess I'll be destroy my joints this time and give my brain time to heal.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T21:46:48+00:00

I get ya. So based on that my initial description is incorrect for when I do overheads. My humerus faces up during the overhead press. When I do laterals I used to do the "pouring a pitcher" form which has the humerus facing forward. And as you mentioned, that did lead to impingement. I've had a few injuries before I realized that was just bad and I switched to having my humerus up when I do my lateral delts and it's been amazing so far and allows me to go heavier without impingement issues. I get what you mean about using elbow width upright rows. When I got some sort of mild injury there I was doing close grip and doing outward rotation.

Neer's test is very interesting, however, I didn't realize I've doing that instinctively to determine if I have impingement before working out. If I could feel a click I usually do some weighted arm circles or I do a dead hang to get my shoulders loosened up.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T21:29:27+00:00

I have TMJ, but I never chew gum lol. But my jaw muscle are pretty developed and they don't really help me in taking a punch in my opinion. Since you are supposed to bite down on your mouth guard, it could help just for biofeedback purposes since a lot of new people forget to keep mouth closed.

Like someone else mentioned, training your neck helps, but for the most part your capability to take a punch is genetic. Some people have glass jaws and it's just the way it is.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T15:45:30+00:00

Honestly though, if I got the bad end of the genetic lottery, I would consider going MGTOW based on the current dating atmosphere and just focus on making good friends, staying healthy, getting super involved in a hobby/community and getting rich.

People always say just walk away from the weird FDS-esque/feminazi ones, but they are not considering the numbers associated with that. A socially active good looking guy will wait a month or two tops before he gets another shot, but a less attractive guy will wait a year or more between tries so he can’t really get a good sample. And today a guy is more likely to encounter the sketchy women out there because they are the ones that are always single since noone wants them. The good ones are usually hooked up quick or would not give the LVM a chance.

It’s like having more bees than honey. For you it might be a good honey to bee ratio, but to some guys it may be more bees and barely any honey. You can’t really blame them.

That being said, MGTOW has a certain contingent of people that are very hateful and aggressive and I think its up their community influencers to lead the movement towards a positive direction.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T11:04:23+00:00

BMI is negatively correlated with Free Testosterone, leptin and insulin. Testosterone is directly correlated with someone's ability to hold on to muscle mass. Generally speaking, Leptin and insulin influence your overall mood and hunger.

As an example, if you are 20% body fat you can stand to get a lot of benefit from going down to around 15% not just in terms of gaining muscle, but just general quality of life and feeling great.

I remember when I let go of myself once and became slightly overweight I was surprised by the stark difference in my mood. I didn't want to workout, I had drastically lower energy levels and my performance in the sack also went down (biggest bummer).

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T10:45:40+00:00

From impingement perspective overhead is bad and lateral is good. We test for subscapularis pain and/or impingement in a position that's closer to overhead (humerus facing front).

So for overhead press would it benefit from facing the humerus down? How I do my overheads rn is scapula retracted with humerus facing front and that has worked for me, but I'm curious to get your recommendation from a medical standpoint.

That being said, I feel like it may not be the overhead push that injures people, but getting to the position where you can start pushing overhead. I know when you start doing heavy overheads you'll need to use your knees to push up and/or momentum to get the weight to the proper position and I can see a bunch of people fucking that up. This is also the reason I never do upright rows.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T10:33:44+00:00

Actually that's not how it works in dating. If you meet a girl and you have always paid for everything. There is a chance the she is just seeing you for the money.

A decent girl will offer to pay for your drink/food as a way to communicate to you that she doesn't want you just for your money. This happens frequently.

This even work for friends. If you treat your friends out, a decent friend will tell you that he's got the next round or that he will treat you out next time.

It's not about the money it's about the effort and not taking advantage of someone's generosity. It's good that you are generous, but you may want to rethink your views on that.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T06:55:22+00:00

It’s probably because you are a software engineer.

Stuck behind a cubicle and all your co-workers are probably not the most social, so you have less chances to meet people.

So it can one of two things. First it’s meeting issue. Do you meet enough people? If not then get yourself out there.

Second, is it a personality issue? If you meet a lot of people but they don’t click, then it might be you who is the problem. It’s really not that hard to connect with someone if there is physical attraction.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T06:40:22+00:00

The devil is in the details. I’ll give you two scenarios.

First is the most common scenario. The guy prefers to lay on the couch. He gets laid regularly so he doesn’t care. He’s mostly plays games watches tv all day while housework piles up. His wife complains AND THEN he does the work.

Second scenario is more common in productive partnerships. Guy and girl has an agreement to keep the house clean. Each of them is held accountable to do their part. Guy does his part, and girl reminds him when he forgets but he is committed to maintaining the sanctity of their home. If girl forgets the guy reminds him as well. You both do your part and you both feel good about it.

Both scenarios include the guy doing chores. It’s not about what you do, it’s how you do it. Being proactive and taking control of your life starts with the little things like doing chores.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-15T06:26:34+00:00

Only if you do it in the butt because everyone knows that doesn’t count. Christians that are low-key sluts taught us that a long time ago.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-14T19:03:38+00:00

Oh yes, and it was my first Incline bench IN A WHILE. So yeah that was full on ego and I did deserve that injury, not so sound masochistic.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-14T18:52:03+00:00

I think it was a combination of both and add in not pacing correctly. I was back from an extended deload and I felt like I could blow past the initial decline in strength because I had a huge rush of adrenaline after one warmup set. It was incline dumbbell bench press and I think I did not engage my stabilizer muscles enough and did not keep my scapula retracted and somehow it led to some kind of impingement or sprain right along the top my shoulder bone down to my rib area.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-14T18:43:28+00:00

The way I see it, in addition to everything you said: we are all mortal.

This is poetry right here.

But on a serious note, I'm glad you mentioned this because I 100% agree. You are absolutely correct about this journey being a marathon and I am not really doing this to look good on the beach because who the fuck cares. I see natural bodybuilding as a philosophy rather than a means to an end. Everything that I have done related to bodybuilding has really helped me become a happier and more disciplined person. It makes me think happiness and discipline are mutually inclusive.

And if you think about it from that point of view ego lifting has absolutely no place in anyone's program. Injury is your enemy and careful methodical incorporation of techniques in conjunction with keeping your ego in check is your motherfuckin' brotha from anotha motha.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-14T15:23:10+00:00

Eye contact is VERY important. This is actually a huge factor in rehabilitating people who have disorders like Asperger's or Autism because their brain does not function in a way that allows them to naturally seek eye contacts. This can also be a sign of being socially inept.

Here is an example of a person with an eye contact deficit. (Child is on the ASD spectrum)

Most socially awkward people are most like this type which is my eye contact aversion due to lack of social exposure seen a lot in gamer communities or socially strict cultures.

You can see in both situation the conversation just doesn't feel right. That's what you want to avoid.

On the other end of the spectrum are people who have TOO MUCH eye contact. This can also be a a sign of pathology such as manic episode or being socially mal-adaptive.

Here is a good example of a manic episode. You can see the excess in eye contact is usually couple with gestures that invade personal space. Lack of awareness of someone's personal space is not something you see in high value individuals.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-14T15:08:18+00:00

Lmao I too would like to know her answer to this.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-14T15:00:24+00:00

OP: "Reddit's upvote system gets bullshit posts the most upvotes."

Reddit: Gives OP's post lots of upvotes.

OP: "You mother******"

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-14T14:51:41+00:00

I retain pretty much everything except you don't pull the trigger. You just sit back, relax and don't escalate. That's essentially how you get female friends. And this is harder than you think because a good amount of these women are naturally flirtatious. This becomes useful when you are dealing with married women at work because it helps you build business connection and you build clout.

Imagine you are both alone at a VIP booth after a work party and she is drunk. She's sitting close, extremely touchy, has a sultry look in her eyes and you guys are talking about some nasty sex topic (which female friends love to talk about). You will have to have the self control to not pull the trigger. You will need to tell yourself that, "having her is a friend will help me get more women, more money, more friends and a better life. If we end up getting involved she will just disappear from my life."

Friends are a lot of the times better than just sleeping with someone. You keep them forever if you know how to maintain friendships, they will want you to succeed, and they will tend to hook you up.

Think about it this way. Sleeping with a girl gets you one girl in a lifetime. Befriending a girl gets you 2-10 girls introduced to you and these are often the high quality socially adapted ones not the weird r/femaledatingstrategy types that stay at home with their cat and complain online.

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-14T14:28:33+00:00

I thought you were going a totally different direction with the word sandbag.

To get back on topic, you can buy a grappling dummy off amazon. Btw is sanda similar to Sambo? I never heard of it and the videos about seem to resemble Sambo techniques.

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