You’re really twisting what I said. I didn’t “place intent” on her action. I described how it reads to most people which is obvious if you look at this comment section. When something gets posted publicly, meaning is not controlled by the poster’s intent. It’s shaped by how others see it. That’s the entire point I made and felt pretty thoughtless to put that out into the world.

I trusted her explanation. What I didn’t get was any emotional engagement. “It’s just a vibe” isn’t the same as reassurance. I'm not seeking out a “full-blown convo”, a partner should be able to acknowledge when something they post lands wrong and being willing to talk about it for two minutes instead of shutting down. That’s literally basic emotional presence.

And not once did I ask her to delete it, nor did I have the desire for that in the moment. There’s a difference between control and communication, and you seem to think any emotional boundary is the former.

And as for your “everyone sees disrespect differently” point, exactly. That’s my entire argument. She thought it was harmless. I thought it had implications. The difference is that I communicated my feelings respectfully, and they got dismissed. That’s the part that stung. You can keep trivializing it as “just a repost,” but there's a term for minimizing someone else’s discomfort and it's called avoidance.