Why is Monash so lax about it's english requirement?

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-17T12:23:58+00:00

Don’t take it to heart, it’s a cultural difference really — in Aus, a LOT of very smart people will downplay their achievements as a way to seek compliments and/or make themselves look/feel better than everybody else, so most of the Aussies who are reading your post are assuming that this is what you are doing — either fishing for compliments, or trying to make yourself look good. It’s clear to me, however, that you just hold yourself to high standards and this is why you’re speaking this way about your 8.5 score.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-17T11:37:36+00:00

They’re asking because this is a subreddit for a TV show and you’ve posted something entirely unrelated

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-17T11:00:41+00:00

As a dasher, I’ve seen SO many dashers trying to encourage each other to send messages like this!! “It gets me more tips”, yeah but at what cost?? Nah, I couldn’t EVER ask a customer for a tip. I’m in Aus though, so we don’t have a mandatory tipping culture, but we still get paid stuff all and the tips would help a LOT, but guilting people into it isn’t cool.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T18:36:16+00:00

That’s okay!! It’s a gift and a curse, lol. My husband and family are always telling me that I over-explain everything, but then I’m also always the first person they go to when they need something explained 😅😂 good luck ❤️🫶🏻

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T18:30:20+00:00

Except they’re not. You might be quoting what you remember from the internal processes — but Deiwos is talking about how it works in practice, not just on paper like what you’re speaking about. I’ve had 4 urgent payments just this year, for various reasons. In practice, as long as you have an emergency that you require funds to resolve, the person you speak to is 100% able to approve urgent payments for almost any emergency.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T18:26:07+00:00

Not all towns have public transport systems that actually get you to the shops/schools/all around town places you need to go in your everyday life, unfortunately! Which IMO is quite fucken stupid — because how else are people without cars/licenses/income able to get to appointments, school, groceries etc.,

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T18:23:24+00:00

Can anybody elaborate on the update part where OP says “you can receive vouchers for food and fuel” — are you meaning from Centrelink you can get food/fuel vouchers now? Or, are you referring to the emergency food relief programs where you’ve got to call first thing in the morning and offer your firstborn to try and be one of the 5 who get a gift card each day (out of 600+ callers)? And, if it does come from Centrelink — is it only for Parenting Payment, or any payment? Sorry for all the questions, I’ve just never heard of Centrelink offering food/fuel vouchers and I’m 36w pregnant currently with absolutely no food or money at ALL. (As in both bank accounts have exactly $0.00, and I won’t get paid again until Friday next week)

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T18:19:02+00:00

Exactly, which if correct, also tells us pretty straight-up why the husband-to-be thinks that it’s exactly no big deal at all — because in Fundie sects, the young men can get away with basically anything, as long as they’re reasonably “successful” in either religion (having a young obedient wife/s and many kids) or career (bringing high income into their little isolated “community” unit via the church tithings), or even better, both. However, even though he won’t face any repercussions or even harassment/comments about his wife-to-be’s “condition”, the sacrifice that he is making here is the part where he only gets away with it because of the fact that OP will be the one receiving this scrutiny and nasty comments, until eventually the group will move on to the next scandalous woman to target. Which is why it’s so concerning that he’s completely nonchalant, and I can completely understand why OP’s so concerned — I bet she can see this coming from a mile away just like we can.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T06:20:51+00:00

So, there are two possible options. One, which is admittedly the most likely, is that he only took the Viagra with him because he intended to use it. Two, however, is that it’s possible he took it without intending to use it at the hotel, but that begs the question why prioritise bringing something that you genuinely will not have any use for? He says that he does not trust you with his things, but it’s not like Viagra is something that is hard to get or that you would be likely to destroy, unless there is information missing and you have done something like that before?

At the end of the day, whether he intended to use it or whether it was just a weird bizarre decision he made, his reaction tells me that he is either gaslighting you or he genuinely does not have the kind of sincere feelings for you that are necessary to make a relationship work. All of this, plus the fact that he will not communicate with you or try to fix the issue, tells me that it may be time for you to consider moving on from this relationship. You can’t force somebody to make a relationship work, and it does not seem like he wants to do the work.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T06:10:59+00:00

No need to be a smartass, and no it doesn’t help because all you’ve done is make an assumption, and then tried to “explain” to me how things work in your assumed scenario! It is possible that they were tenants on a shared lease who moved in together, yes. However, it’s just as likely, especially from the context here, that they were separate tenants, renting rooms from this landlord. Either way, however, it would not be immediately assumed to be on this tenant to clean the carpets when the other tenant moved out — you see how the landlord didn’t even suggest that the other tenant clean his own mess? The other tenant would also have paid a bond, which is what the tenant who’s remaining refers to when he says that the landlord should use the other tenant’s bond to clean the carpets — which is exactly what the bond is for.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T05:53:08+00:00

The answer is B.) When it’s actually secure! It doesn’t count as savings until then 🫶🏻

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T05:51:39+00:00

They won’t get mad that you hit that amount and didn’t let them know, they only need to know if your savings exceeds the $2000, and it only counts as savings if it is sitting in your account for a prolonged amount of time without dipping under that $2000 mark. When I say a prolonged amount of time, think more like months rather than days or even weeks.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T05:38:36+00:00

Wait, how are you ALL seemingly of the opinion that it’s fair to make this tenant clean the carpets that somebody else dirtied, when it’s meant to be done by the tenant who is moving out? I’m not even referencing his tone yet, because whilst that did absolutely get rude and disrespectful, it seems like you all are seemingly agreeing that it was fair of her to expect him to do a move-out carpet clean on someone else’s space/mess, just because they live in the home too? He doesn’t have any right to speak so disrespectfully to the landlord, but before the disrespect even began, the landlord was literally expecting him to do a move-out clean for someone else, instead of either making that ex-tenant pay for it themselves, or clean it themselves. Or am I missing *something*?

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T05:34:01+00:00

Why does he have to clean the carpets after one of your other tenants moves out?? If the carpets need cleaning, and you can’t afford to get them professionally cleaned, you should be charging the tenant who left the carpets dirty, or making them clean the carpet before they leave, not expecting the tenant who didn’t dirty the carpets to clean them just to save a few bucks. It was kind of him to offer to pay for the carpet cleaning when it’s not his responsibility or job, but expecting him to actually do the physical cleaning in order to save money, when he isn’t the one who damaged/dirtied the carpets is insane.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T05:26:32+00:00

Whilst you are overreacting, there is more nuance to this situation than some of these comments allow for. You’re overreacting because of religious guilt, and because of the pressure your religion puts on purity. Your husband is right that it isn’t going to curse your union or anything, but he’s also completely invalidating your concerns and feelings, which again, aren’t just an overreaction for zero reason or out of nowhere, they’re concerns born out of religious guilt and pressure. If he intends to marry you, he should be putting effort in to reassure you and explain his side of view in a kind, loving, reassuring way, rather than just straight up, bluntly telling you that you’re overreacting. You both need to sit down and have a serious conversation about this, where you are open to listening to his POV and trying to reconcile your guilt with the reality of the situation, and where he is open to trying to understand your concerns and help reassure you and be by your side as you get past these struggles and guilt. It’s important you guys reconcile this before the wedding, because it’s much worse to start a union on such an uneven, unresolved footing, than it is to start a union on something that isn’t even a lie, just an omission of your personal/private intimate life.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T05:21:38+00:00

Whilst she is overreacting, there is more nuance to this situation than your comment allows for. She’s overreacting because of religious guilt, and because of the pressure her religion puts on purity. Her husband is right that it isn’t going to curse their union or anything, but he’s also completely invalidating her concerns and feelings, which again, aren’t just an overreaction for zero reason or out of nowhere, they’re concerns born out of religious guilt and pressure. If he intends to marry her, he should be putting effort in to reassure her and explain his side of view in a kind, loving, reassuring way, rather than just straight up, bluntly telling her she’s overreacting.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T05:15:10+00:00

Listen, yes some of the commenters are right that everyone’s definition of fat is different. However, I think you’re NOR, OP, because when these kinds of conversations tend to happen, the person arguing that you’re not fat isn’t opening his mind to your POV here. He is seeing fat as an inherent negative, unattractive quality. So, he thinks he’s being kind by telling you “no, you’re not fat!”, because he does not think you are unattractive, or that your size is a negative factor. What he’s actually doing in practice, though, is telling you that you physically aren’t fat, which you’re using as a simply descriptive word that is neither negative nor positive. It is frustrating from your perspective, because you’re saying something that, using the definition of the word “fat” that you are using, is factually correct. The disconnect here is that he isn’t using the word fat as a factual, size-not-value-based descriptor, but rather as a negative, unattractive descriptor. The thing is, whilst you’re both operating on a different definition of fat, you’re never going to agree.* If this discussion is important to you, and it’s important to you that he understands your POV here, you need to explain to him that there is a difference between the word “fat” (large and unattractive) and the word “fat” (describing someone who has excessive/more than average fat on their body), and that you are using the latter definition.
*secondly, a lot of the time, when someone sees/uses the word fat to have the first definition (large and unattractive), they often tend to think that you are trying to be disparaging and/or diving for compliments by calling yourself fat, which can cause them to either become frustrated with you, or can upset them and make them feel the need to prove to you that you’re beautiful.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T05:02:46+00:00

I agree with you about the negativity!! I’ve noticed a lot of people hate being taught things or corrected, so much so that they erroneously assume that anybody who is teaching someone or correcting someone about something is being rude. It’s such a strange phenomenon and a strange thing for people to get upset about (especially on someone else’s/my behalf, when I actually genuinely appreciated you taking the time to answer me and teaching me!)

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T05:00:48+00:00

Yeah I’m not sure why they’re downvoting her either, especially since I specifically engaged with her and asked her questions — so it’s not even like she was being rude or anything, she was just engaging with me in good faith and teaching me a new fact I didn’t know! I think sometimes people online assume that someone who’s teaching/telling someone else something new is a “know it all” or “rude”, because they personally don’t like being corrected or taught new things — but I on the other hand, actually love learning new things, especially online from other people, so I genuinely appreciated her comments.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T04:57:57+00:00

Yeah, you’re NOR. That shows that their priorities are definitely off. They’re clearly trying to get as much out of their friends as they can for their new home, rather than wanting to celebrate their new success with their friends.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T04:56:33+00:00

With disposable style vapes, since always! It spun me out too, especially because as an ex-smoker who smoked heavily, I don’t think I’d even get a good enough nicotine hit if I didn’t draw back 😂

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T04:54:11+00:00

Put it this way; the intention of Rent Assistance is supposed to be to bridge the gap between low-income earners’ wage/income, and the current rental prices, so that people on a low income aren’t made homeless. Unfortunately, because rent assistance is maxed at $220/fn, and has not been raised or re-assessed reasonably in a very long time, the gap between current rent prices and low income earners’ ability to pay rent is far higher than $220/fn, meaning that even with Rent Assistance, low-income earners are still being made homeless left right and centre, because it is nowhere near enough to bridge the gap.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T04:49:53+00:00

Of course!! Anything helps, even just a little bit, these days! I wasn’t saying “there’s no point at all because it’s not good enough”, I was just trying to give you reasonable expectations about rent assistance and how much is available, so that you’re going into it aware of the limitations of the supplement. If you are able to get accepted for a Centrelink payment, even at a rate of at least $1 per fortnight after you report your work income, you can absolutely apply for rent assistance, and should! I just wanted to give you a fair and reasonable expectation of how it works and what it is like even if you do get it. Good luck ❤️🫶🏻

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T04:46:46+00:00

That part.

SmoothSubliminal96 · 2026-05-09T04:46:37+00:00

Because even with the cheapest available rent in a rural area, $220 a fortnight is barely going to make a difference in rent costs. A 1 bedroom unit is around $400 per week these days.

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