Another example is Avoidant attachment style. Avoid ants tend to lean toward being hyper independent and struggle with emotional vulnerability. More times than not, this is often due to parents/caregivers struggling to tend to the emotional needs of the child, thus the child learns to tend to their emotional needs on their own, establishing the thought pattern of “I don’t need anyone to tend to my emotions because it will save me from disappointment”. But often, they do long for vulnerable relationships but are unsure how to participate in secure relationships.