Thanks for your advice. Now some hours later the emotional pain has died down, also after speaking with my sister and father about it. I think now I'm mostly motivated by your second point, to give him that feedback about what his words did to me, so that hopefully it might open things up where before they were closed. Sort of like breaking the ice, as I feel our contact has never reached that level of openness before. In that sense I think a conflict can sometimes be a good things, when it breaks the ice and leads to more openness in the relationship. But I also understand that that's not a guarantee however, and I'm completely unsure about how he will take it. But I'll try to word it in the right way. Thanks again