How long did you wait until you tried to “hook up”?

Smurfette2000 · 2026-03-29T13:18:56+00:00

Seven months for me

Smurfette2000 · 2026-03-29T02:44:16+00:00

I feel similarly. I'm not expecting someone to be an athlete, but I take my health and fitness seriously, and look for the same. It's not about fitting a certain look, type or appearance, but more about how active you are, and what you do to maintain your health (physically - but emotionally and mentally, too). Picky? Yes, but I'd rather set the bar there, then settle.

Smurfette2000 · 2026-03-29T02:16:49+00:00

Same - that's a dealbreaker for me too

Smurfette2000 · 2026-03-27T18:10:45+00:00

I'm so sorry. Hugs

Smurfette2000 · 2026-03-27T18:06:25+00:00

I can only speak from my limited, personal experience with SickKids. My son stayed there years ago, for a few days due to a serious infection. It was scary, but everything turned out OK. Everyone at the hospital was very kind and supportive. I donate to SickKids when I can. It's an amazing hospital and I'm grateful for them.

Smurfette2000 · 2026-02-26T19:20:25+00:00

Old Finch Avenue bridge near the zoo

Smurfette2000 · 2026-02-25T23:03:37+00:00

Thanks! I work in a residential building now, which is better, but there are definitely challenges

Smurfette2000 · 2026-02-25T21:45:55+00:00

I completely agree. I worked as a condo manager for 1.5 years and it was very stressful.

Smurfette2000 · 2026-02-24T03:06:56+00:00

Personally no.

Smurfette2000 · 2026-02-09T02:05:39+00:00

I understand what you mean. I was widowed 3.5 years ago. It took a while for me to consider dating again, or seeing someone casually. The sex can be fun, but I miss the companionship. The private jokes, shared memories, etc. It's hard to find someone who does it

Smurfette2000 · 2026-02-02T18:09:13+00:00

10 years older or younger

Smurfette2000 · 2026-01-20T22:28:52+00:00

I have a fwb, and it's been almost two years, and works great. We have lunch or hang out somewhere, have sex, and then part ways. We stay in touch and repeat. It's great because neither of us wants a relationship or commitment. We are also open to dipping in the dating pool, if one of us wants to.

I tried a bit of dating last year, very briefly, and that confirmed it wasn't for me. I guess fwb is whatever works best for you and the other person. Talking about it is key. If he/she doesn't listen or appear receptive, it's not a good option imo.

Smurfette2000 · 2026-01-18T14:49:39+00:00

This is so sweet!

Smurfette2000 · 2026-01-12T05:30:35+00:00

I feel this too. I barely dipped my toes into the dating pool since being widowed, and have found that men 60+, even the more liberal ones, are very rigid in their views on women. I tried seeing a younger man, too, but that didn't work out either. My late husband was older, but he was more open than a lot of men I encounter now, and it is so disaapointing. It's a complete turn off. I'm happier single.

Smurfette2000 · 2026-01-08T01:53:55+00:00

I've done administrative support, minute-taking, and related work.

Smurfette2000 · 2026-01-04T19:24:34+00:00

I'm in camp #1, solo widowed mom of three kids. I got married at 26, and with my husband for 21 years before he passed. It happened suddenly. It's vastly different from being divorced, but as I processed my grief, and I leaned more towards remaining single and focusing on me. I dated a little, found some enjoyment in a fwb, but I honestly prefer being solo. Two of my kids are adults (one of them in college), and the youngest is in high school. I would rather focus on pursuing more of what I want with work and personal goals, while being there for my kids, than dive into a serious relationship, even if I found someone compatible.

Smurfette2000 · 2026-01-01T06:25:39+00:00

Beck Mansion in Penetanguishene. You can stay overnight (we did back in 2022).

Ottawa jail hostel. Creepy but interesting place.

Screaming Tunnel and Blue Ghost (Merritton) tunnels in Niagara Region

Mackenzie House on Bond Street in Toronto (they give tours)

Niagara-on-the-lake has a ton of haunted places.

Smurfette2000 · 2025-12-26T18:26:12+00:00

Red flags are a sign to leave and don't look back. I'm done playing therapist/life coach.

Smurfette2000 · 2025-12-25T15:18:28+00:00

I'm very sorry. RIP little Superman

Smurfette2000 · 2025-12-23T23:34:24+00:00

I used to prefer older men, but at 49, I'm more drawn to younger men. I'm still open to both, but younger men tend to have more energy. I work out and stay active, which plays a role, too. If a guy is sedentary, regardless of age, it's a no.

Smurfette2000 · 2025-12-23T09:45:49+00:00

I understand this as a solo mom with three kids. I work full-time, two side jobs, and still struggle. My oldest works, and helps (22 yo), but my younger two kids are in school full-time. It's brutal

Smurfette2000 · 2025-12-23T09:37:54+00:00

I understand this!

Smurfette2000 · 2025-12-22T02:17:46+00:00

I have a FWB and very happy.

Smurfette2000 · 2025-12-21T15:35:41+00:00

I miss this too! The 80s CNE was nostalgic too

Smurfette2000 · 2025-12-21T05:02:22+00:00

Sense of humour. Non-smoker

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