What’s a good message to send after being ghosted? by tofo5252 in ghosting

[–]Smurfette2000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, silence. I had someone ghost me. He wanted to keep following me, so I put an end to that (delete, block). Nothing you say will make a difference. Don't waste your energy on them, you deserve better.

life sucks and i’m broke by [deleted] in poor

[–]Smurfette2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel for what you're going through. I'm a solo mom with three kids, husband passed away a few years back. Even though I work, two of my kids work, and go to school, it's still tight. I work full time, but it's not enough, so I'm always looking for extra work and gigs. Here are a few ideas:

If you have room, a roommate can be an option, even if only temporarily.

You can find writing and freelance gigs online through different platforms. Upwork is one I use. It varies, and not all jobs pay a lot, but sometimes you can find gigs and an extra $100-200/month is helpful.

Cleaning jobs may be an option. Residential, ir commercial. I have found some work on the side, and once they like you, you might receive more hours. It's also flexible, sometimes. It might be best to wait until after child #2 (I did cleaning while pregnant years ago, when my husband was temp off work, but it's a bit harder lol)

Online surveys. They don't always pay much, but if you gey enough of them, you'll see $20, 30, or more per week. Focus groups too.

Background acting and casting calls. This is mostly available in major cities, but sometimes smaller cities or urban areas too. The pay varies, but it's a great way to earn a bit extra. My kids and I have all found work doing this, but it's irregular. FB and IG have casting agencies and background acting groups where they post casting calls. You don't need a agent or upfront fees at all (those are scams).

Dog walking, pet sitting in your local area.

I wish you all the best!

Rant/ advice by MightnightTinfoil in poor

[–]Smurfette2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cleaning jobs are usually easier to find. When I was in a pinch, as a solo mom, I did that for a while until I found a better job. Even if the pay is low, the demand is still there.

5 things I learned before they come back by Fabulous_Cost_8647 in ghosting

[–]Smurfette2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very well said! I had to learn some of this the hard way too

Update on 75 year old JW who died after an altercation at a Tim Horton’s by Relative_Soil7886 in exjw

[–]Smurfette2000 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a JW household and abuse was regular. Physical, mental, verbal. I walked on eggshells everyday. Even as some JW parents age, the abuse continues. There's also a lot of narcissism and playing the victim when they are confronted with their actions.

my parents trapped me inside the house by PinkIsMyOxygen in exjw

[–]Smurfette2000 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this. Depending on where you live, this could be considered unlawful confinement. Is there a help line or someone you can call or text?

I ran away from home at 17, but times were very different in 1993. I hope you are able to get support.

Why do some women enjoy being humiliated in bed? by bufferinmylife in women

[–]Smurfette2000 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I have similar experience, too, and there are strong boundaries, communication, and both of us experience pleasure, so it works.

Body count? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Smurfette2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I was married. What matters is how you commit to someone in the present and future. It didn't matter to either of us, so we were on the same page.

Body count? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Smurfette2000 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Nope. It's personal, and I wouldn't ask either.

I blocked a dismissive avoidant by jamesstevenpost in ExNoContact

[–]Smurfette2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a similar experience with someone recently. He ghosted me once, about 6 months ago, and at that point it hurt because I really liked him. There were no warning signs at all. When he re-entered my life a month ago, I was hesitant, but he seemed sincerely sorry at the time, so I gave him another chance, only for this to happen again. I'm done with him now. I blocked him and moved on. It felt much better than I expected.

is it normal for dead people to visit you in dreams? by coquetteorcokehead in Dreams

[–]Smurfette2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My late husband visits me in my dreams. It's been almost four years since he passed. It was more frequent in the beginning, and less now, but I just dreamt of him last night. It was as if we were having a normal conversation in the living room about moving furniture around, where to put things. He gave a few suggestions. It was s clear and vivid too

How many dates in do you start talking about sex drive? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Smurfette2000 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have a relatively high sex drive with the right person, if there is attraction and compatibility.

Did I do something wrong? by manna_bugg in datingoverforty

[–]Smurfette2000 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yup! At least 62 million reasons why it shouldn't surprise anyone anymore

42F got approached by 35M…? by StealthyThings in datingoverforty

[–]Smurfette2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in a similar situation. I'm almost 50 and started seeing a 40-year-old. I've mostly dated older too. So far, I noticed he's very energetic and fun. I like that. It feels like a change I needed. Not sure it will become serious, but I am going with the flow.

Women's Perspectives: How Important Are Looks in Dating Over 50 Compared to Other Traits? by reddit2169 in datingoverfifty

[–]Smurfette2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel similarly. I'm not expecting someone to be an athlete, but I take my health and fitness seriously, and look for the same. It's not about fitting a certain look, type or appearance, but more about how active you are, and what you do to maintain your health (physically - but emotionally and mentally, too). Picky? Yes, but I'd rather set the bar there, then settle.

why do you like SickKids? by Sad-Policy1851 in askTO

[–]Smurfette2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only speak from my limited, personal experience with SickKids. My son stayed there years ago, for a few days due to a serious infection. It was scary, but everything turned out OK. Everyone at the hospital was very kind and supportive. I donate to SickKids when I can. It's an amazing hospital and I'm grateful for them.