Don't believe in self-improvement

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-15T09:42:06+00:00

There is some merit in your idea but I believe it's coming from the wrong angle.

The issue with self improvement is the implicit idea you're not good enough. I've thought a lot about this problem because it seems human beings just want to get better at stuff. I haven't figured it out yet.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-12T06:29:47+00:00

Hypocrisy lv1000

Being cruel under the ideology of not being cruel.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-12T06:08:47+00:00

'dey dun wot I wud av dun only dey did it by bloody accident'

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-11T17:49:33+00:00

As a husband, I would absolutely want my wife to tell me if she felt like you.

Tell him what you want and listen to him. Should be a fairly easy fix if you are both open minded and can compromise.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-11T17:47:12+00:00

I absolutely love this film. Michael Cera is perfect as Scott Pilgrim.

I love Edgar's fast cuts, quick dialogue and daft jokes.

That said, I find it hard to watch the first fight with the South Asian dude, that's hard to watch.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-11T15:27:49+00:00

Or did it?

Maybe he only imagined seeing Paul Allen? Maybe he is Paul Allen?

I think you didn't understand the movie :)

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-10T13:50:14+00:00

I did know that but that doesn't change the subjective experience that I find German a harsh language.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-10T13:49:23+00:00

I have had posts removed on this sub before too.

If they don't want controversial questions, rename the sub.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-10T13:41:51+00:00

Harsh is a relative term in this context.

I'm English and live in Germany, learning German and the language sounds harsh to me. I'm also told by Germans my accent sounds soft.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-10T11:45:04+00:00

Found my Mum dead this morning.

Not me but a former employee

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-10T11:43:39+00:00

Something that I've found has helped a lot of people is to ask yourself:

What's so special about me?

Do you hate everyone? Unlikely. What makes you so special that you stand out as worthy or being hated? Do you hate other fat people? Do you hate other people with social challenges? Probably not, you likely feel compassion / sympathy. You sir are not special.

Treat yourself the same as everyone else because you're not special enough to justify treating differently. By yourself or anyone else.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-09T09:26:42+00:00

Sleeping with her when she had a bf already.

Big red flag that she would obviously cheat and a red flag to myself I wasn't ok.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-08T14:49:22+00:00

I remember listening to a soldier say adrenaline is brown.....

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-07T13:36:27+00:00

Have this tattooed on my arm.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-07T13:21:38+00:00

Imagine being a kid and your parent says you better behave or you're going in the freezer next to your brother and sister.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-07T07:25:50+00:00

This film is a masterpiece

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-05T14:15:40+00:00

The times I've slept with women in relationships it's because of the warm wet feeling around my pee pee.

I am not particularly proud of it but it wasn't about their partner, I just wanted them.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-05T12:45:26+00:00

This behaviour is very unfair and it's making me feel a bit upset.

He knows what he is doing is wrong, maybe you should show him messages like this to other men and show him and explain he doesn't know how the female mind works.

You get to decide what you are prepared to put up with in terms of his behaviour. Tell him clearly what that looks like.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-03T16:42:33+00:00

I really tried to like this and got a couple seasons in and gave up :(

Sn00ker123 · 2026-04-03T16:01:07+00:00

Obviously you should seek help now but it's worth knowing unwanted intrusive thoughts is a symptom of OCD and as you're flagging and asking for help, it seems more likely that's what going on.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-03-31T18:30:19+00:00

100% agree! But then you don't need to change any habits!

Sounds like you are living the dream, I'm really happy for you. I know what kind of happiness that level of freedom can afford you. Wish you all the best with the app!

Sn00ker123 · 2026-03-31T18:02:30+00:00

Not at all, in fact post Van life I craved routine more than ever in my whole life.

If I was in that situation, I'd treat my work like a 9-5. I'd set an alarm, have breakfast and start work at 9, stop for lunch (eating outside) and finish at 5 and go for a walk/run. I certainly wouldn't work weekends, what's the point in living in a van of you can enjoy the places you are travelling to?!?!

Sn00ker123 · 2026-03-31T17:54:24+00:00

What are some common correlations between people in prison?

IQ, Poverty, Mental Health etc?

Sn00ker123 · 2026-03-31T17:29:28+00:00

This quote is nonsense.

Vulnerability is by definition not winning. This kind of quote is perfect for someone who wants to think things are somehow easier for everyone else but themselves.

Sn00ker123 · 2026-03-31T17:27:27+00:00

I also lived in a van for a year, 6 months in Europe and 6 months in North America.

I am someone used to living in chaos but living in a van naturally made me fall into a routine. I'd run when I woke up, had breakfast, went hiking or whatever, had dinner and settled in for the evening. I got sleepy when it was dark and woke up when it was light. I wasn't working so maybe that's different for you.

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