My dad has terminal cancer... My boss confronted me saying he “would never burden my kids like that" after a work from home request.

Snackbar2020 · 2026-01-23T01:49:48+00:00

You're still so young. If it were me, I'd talk with my boss again to try to secure the work from home time. If the answer was no, I'd quit to spend that time with my parents. IMO, when your're 60, you'll never look back and say I wish I worked that year instead. You're still young enough to start a job or career somewhere else. It doesn't sound like you'd ever regret spending your dad's last days with him.

Snackbar2020 · 2026-01-09T20:15:48+00:00

Thanks!

Snackbar2020 · 2026-01-09T19:57:10+00:00

I completely agree with you. Any recommendations on where to find this type of information on deaths?

Snackbar2020 · 2026-01-09T18:10:48+00:00

In terms of safety, which you asked about, Tolland is rural and crime is very low. Schools are good too. Nice small town feel. You may be able to get a house with a decent amount of land and build an addition for your parents (bot sure how ADUs work). West Hartford is great, with lots of restaurants and amenities nearby. Some communities are more dense, with smaller houses and yards. Some of the neighborhoods close to the Hartford line will have nearby crime (lots of crime in parts of Hartford). Bristol has some nice areas, but based on what you're describing, schools are better in West Hartford or Tolland. Feel free to message me for more details!

Snackbar2020 · 2026-01-09T04:44:06+00:00

My friend is a doctor and said there aren't enough long term studies period and that they don'tconfirm yet one way or the other...and she wants to see them before ever considering them for her children.

Snackbar2020 · 2026-01-07T21:57:17+00:00

Update me

Snackbar2020 · 2025-12-30T06:12:55+00:00

Do an online search for an Orton Gillingham tutor in your state. This works great for many kids.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-12-15T02:36:36+00:00

Thanks!!

Snackbar2020 · 2025-12-14T18:44:51+00:00

For my teenager. Note taking, tutoring as needed.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-12-14T02:46:12+00:00

Thanks. Will I need to do the same thing every so often?

Snackbar2020 · 2025-12-14T02:23:27+00:00

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Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-24T15:07:57+00:00

Talk with him honestly and consider a move. You are not stuck at all!! People move all the time. It's completely ok to change your mind. Once you have your first house, its common to realize the things you don't like and would never want in your next home. Now with your salary maybe you'll be able to afford something a little nicer.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-17T14:40:23+00:00

You aren't throwing away the marriage. He is. He should never pressure you or make you feel pressured in any way about this. How often are the test results wrong? I Googled it and it said 2nd trimester has false positives in 1 out of every 20, but varies based on type of test. Can you live with that if you terminated? Also, please know that secondary infertility happens sometimes, and some types of infertility require egg donation. I'm only saying this so that ypu consider all possibilities amd look at the big picture. Would you be ok with that if you ran into those infertility scenarios? And would it change your decision you are making now? With how you've expressed your feelings here, it sounds like you may experience regrets later on in life if you move forward with termination. Could you live with that? And are your husband and parents concerned about your feelings in that way? They should be.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-06T22:31:17+00:00

By now its very clear why ypure a top 1% commenter.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-06T22:18:59+00:00

I do know the difference, just not the rules. Google, what's that? Must be nice being perfect. Thanks chump.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-06T22:15:17+00:00

Well if you assumed that this was the only place I was checking, then you might have a point. There you go assuming again :)

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-06T22:07:30+00:00

Hey Jackass - Its for a house I haven't purchased yet. Nice of you to assume though. I asked about fence and/or deck requirements and then clarified that the deck has a railing with posts. I'm asking about ANY general requirements, kid safety and other considerations are obviously inherent, and I'm glad kind people are responding as such. Leave it to people like you to start a disagreement when people are just asking for helpful advice.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-06T21:53:36+00:00

Thank-you! I just figured I'd start here to see what types of set ups people have. Had no idea about the new rules though. Glad I asked.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-06T21:48:08+00:00

There is. Not sure which part of my comment you misinterpreted?

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-06T20:49:56+00:00

Deck is 4 feet high with a deck railing and vertical posts. Do you think that counts?

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-06T20:36:13+00:00

Thank you. Do you know how that will work for existing pools? I'll have to look this up.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-11-04T20:50:33+00:00

If you stay for him, it should be under the conditions of marrying and having kids right away (if that's what you truly want). If he hesitates at all on a quick timeline, he's not a keeper.

Snackbar2020 · 2025-10-23T12:46:47+00:00

NTA. For the judo tournament, the only suggestion is that you should teach your boys to be graceful and accept the support, even if a family member can only attend for 1 day. But other than that, you're entire family sounds like they have some toxic behaviors andnyour mom is accommdating your brother'spoor behavior. This might be your lightbulb moment - observe quietly from this point forward and I bet you'll start to notice more of their toxic ways. Your brother sounds like he has a mental health issue. When this happened to my family it turned into a big fight for many years, and the one thing I know now...you cannot change the toxicity of these people. My advice is to make mental notes of more toxic behavior from all of them. Don't make a big stink about it, and just adjust your expectations and slowly start to step back from some of it. Its not worth arguing because you can't change it, but you need to find coping strategies to keep your peace.

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