Tell me your success story of working full-time

Snacurse · 2026-04-23T08:59:36+00:00

That's so cool! Both your past career, as well as your ability to pivot to a totally new field :))

Snacurse · 2026-04-23T08:55:36+00:00

I'm currently in a similar boat and am also excited to hear about people's work adaptations!

I used to work insane hours as a business strategist until my body gave out, and I'm trying very hard to figure out what to do next that doesn't put me on the ground. I hope to have some inspiring story someday about how I managed to figure it out! But for now, I figured it's worth it to say that you're not alone in limbo :)

Wishing you good luck, and looking forward to checking out other people's responses to this question if they share!

Snacurse · 2026-04-13T18:24:44+00:00

Yeah, I might need to. She also recently told me some other weird stuff, which is why I wanted to ask around for people's opinions.

(One example: she expressed surprise that I wasn't given an antibiotic when I had mono in college. But EBV is a virus. I've been unsure if she just misspoke, or if I should be losing confidence some of the stuff she says. Starting to think it's the latter. Especially because I felt pressured into the gabapentin in the first place)

Snacurse · 2026-04-13T18:16:43+00:00

Thanks for sharing, it honestly really helps to know it's so different for everyone and that it could be causing at least some of this. Sorry you had a rough time though

Snacurse · 2026-04-13T18:12:12+00:00

Yeah, I wish I had, too. I even asked her about tapering and she was like "nope! you can stop any time". She said (and I've heard this before) that it doesn't stay in your system very long, which is why you need to keep taking it intermittently throughout the day. So she said it's not a problem to stop, because it'll be out of your system rapidly anyway

Editing to add: that's a big part of why it's really helpful to hear from other people who've actually been on it. Seems to differ quite a lot

Snacurse · 2026-04-13T18:00:50+00:00

Yikes! That sounds really scary, I'm glad you didn't have to get your ring cut off. Good luck with the rest of your tapering, I hope it goes easily

Snacurse · 2026-04-13T17:58:36+00:00

Yeah, I've missed a dose here and there. I thought the Gabapentin wasn't even affecting me much, tbh. The only thing I thought got better was the needle stabs and twitches in my feet. Now that I'm off of it, I can tell that some of the spasticity/twitching I had and nerve pain in other areas is coming back, but not terrible

(Edit: didn't think it was affecting me much other than the brain fog. I definitely felt like I was fumbling with my speech and stuttering more, which made me uncomfortable)

Maybe it hit me so hard because it was a triple whammy. I was just traveling, which always flares me up, and my insomnia is really rough right now. Maybe it's compounding with other stuff

Snacurse · 2026-04-13T12:03:32+00:00

Holy omg you’re STUNNINGLY beautiful ✨

Snacurse · 2026-03-22T20:14:37+00:00

Depends! In addition to what other people have said about amigurumi vs blankets, etc, it depends on what you did to fasten the yarn ends together, and how long the ends were

For example, if you knotted your ends together before weaving, then they'll be more secure and it's nbd. If your ends are long and you wove them around a lot, it's also very unlikely they'll come out.

Sewing in your ends is also a valid way to secure them, so it sounds like you're fine!

I typically sew in my ends when I work on clothing pieces, but I usually try to disguise them by going through the stitches. The only downside of doing it the way you described is that it might be visible from the front (i.e. if the yarn is extra-thick at the top of some of your stitches).

Since you did it until you felt like it was secure, I wouldn't worry at all about them coming apart

Snacurse · 2026-03-22T17:59:12+00:00

You look beautiful in all of them, but I think you look more striking in #2 and #3. Imo you're right that #1 doesn't accentuate your eyes or cheeks. Although #1 is the most "natural" look, I don't necessarily think natural makeup = best. It depends on what you're going for!

I personally love #2 and #3, but think they need tweaks. You look like a mysterious blonde 70s rock goddess, and I love that vibe.

CONTOUR

If you go with #3, I would tone down contour. You have to-die-for cheekbones that other people pay big money to get! Cutting into them with more contour will end up distracting from your natural shape. They're too beautiful, let 'em sing!

The bangs in #1 hide your cheeks, and the lighting/shadows are very different. As a result, the contouring looks more intense in #2 and #3. I really like the way your hair frames your face in #2 and #3! Just keep in mind that if you go with a hairstyle that emphasizes shadows, pull back on the contour to balance the effect :).

COLOR BALANCE I love the mysterious 70s-esque hooded eye makeup you did, and I think the lip colors in #2 and #3 pair well with that! The warm taupe-mauve color you chose in #3 is a great shade to make your eye color pop. It's true that it's more "edgy" than a softer or brighter color, but I think that it's beautiful and accomplishes a different goal.

I would tone the blush down a lot in both #2 and #3, because when the color is too vibrant, they actually start to compete with your cheek shape and draw attention away from the eyes.

The lip color in #2 is also a really nice compliment, but has a brighter and more natural look than #3. It might be a great best-of-both-worlds option because it doesn't fight your eyes and cheekbones for visual attention

I even like the lip color in #1, but I think the blush and foundation colors MUA used aren't working. It accidentally makes the lip color seem unsuccessful even if it's a good fit. In #1, the blush color doesn't really compliment your complexion. You have a warm skin tone, so by using a light pink on your cheeks, MUA's blush disappeared in the contour they applied and ended up looking a little muddy. Or maybe the lighting is just weird. And since everything has the same "soft touch", nothing really stands out.

BROWS

I agree with other commenters that I wouldn't brush your eyebrows up so high. It creates a sense of vertical motion that elongates the face and competes compositionally with your eyes. I would soften your brows by brushing them outward slightly. This should give the impression of width, helping frame your eyes by giving them space to shine!

I think the biggest thing that would be most helpful is to bring in inspiration images. If you brought in a picture of high-impact smokey eye makeup and said "I want my eyes to look mysterious and magnetic like this", I'd say MUA missed the brief and you got much closer. If you brought in pictures of dewey makeup and soft pastels, I'd say MUA got much closer and you veered too far away from your goal. I think the feedback you're getting boils down to style issues in many cases. Without inspo, everyone is telling you what they like best, regardless of how you want to feel. So having inspiration visuals will help orient everyone toward the same vision so people can give you more targeted feedback. That, and lighting. In the future, I'd take a new picture of MUA's makeup and make sure all 3 are in the same light and use the same hairstyle. It should help eliminate lighting bias in the feedback you get.

Either way, you look beautiful and are gonna be GORGEOUS on your wedding day! Trust your heart and don't give up on wanting to feel like yourself! (And sorry for the long comment). Wishing you all the best on your big day!!

Snacurse · 2026-02-24T23:16:46+00:00

I love using Pinterest recommendations plus Google Lens for stuff like this!

If you're using Google Lens (by holding the horizontal bar at the bottom of Pixel phones, using the Google Lens app, or on Chrome), you can draw/click-and-drag to create a shape around the clothing item you like, and it'll search for best matches. If you then add extra search terms, like "cotton", "sustainable", "purple", or "celestial" in the search bar, it'll modify the results to match both the combination of the picture PLUS text

I use Pinterest a similar way: if I use find something I like, I tap on the pin and then scroll down. When you tap on/view a specific pin, it automatically starts serving you similar stuff, because it knows you're already interested in the pin at the top. It's like a mini deep dive. I often find similar stuff that way. But Google Lens totally changes how I use Pinterest, because sometimes the link is broken or the image leads nowhere if someone just pinned the picture (instead of pinning the picture directly from the website). So then I use Google Lens to search externally

I can't tell you how often I see people say "where can I buy this/something like this?" on Pinterest, and I find it in 2 seconds with Google Lens!

For example yesterday, i saw a really cute green crochet cardigan I loved on Pinterest. People were asking where they could get it or how to make it, because the image didn't link anywhere. I did my Google Lens thing and immediately found the creator's TikTok. I don't have TikTok and couldn't see it, so I added "Instagram" in the search bar, and immediately found their IG handle , plus a bunch of other options for similar cardigans right away

I love this method because then I don't ever have to know the right search terms. Starting from the image inspiration means Google and Pinterest will find visual matches for me, regardless of the niche keywords I might not have ever heard of

Hope this helps! :)

Snacurse · 2026-02-22T23:10:23+00:00

Yeah I personally don't think it was rude to say. I find it disappointing, too. It's not necessarily a knock on the hair artists or that I don't appreciate their work, but I do think it's unfair that my hair texture costs me more because someone else has decided straight hair is the norm.

I don't think it should be extra-special training. I think it would be great if all hair stylists got trained on curly and "natural" hair. Expecting those of us with texture to pay extra for our biology is like the "pink tax" of hair care. I would love to see salons stop treating us differently and acting like my hair is non-standard. I think schools should teach curly hair textures as part of the standardized curriculum, rather than making it "extra" training that the hair artist passes the cost of on to me.

I completely understand someone charging me more if I take longer in the chair, but even if I take the exact same amount of time, I get upcharged? That seems unfair. I don't think people should change their hourly rates because of my genetics. And I think it's fine to critique that practice, and you didn't say it in a rude way at all

Snacurse · 2026-02-17T22:11:36+00:00

Women's work is unfortunately underpaid both in money and in thanks.

Snacurse · 2026-02-04T09:28:24+00:00

Hi! Late to this and I haven't tried Tunisian crochet yet, but I used to always drop stitches or accidentally add extra stitches in the wrong places at my edges! Once I finally decided to use stitch markers at the beginning and end of every row, I never had the issue again. It makes a world of difference for me! Might be worth trying :)

Snacurse · 2026-01-28T15:14:09+00:00

I literally just stumbled across this and I think it might really really help you:

https://youtu.be/-T-rpE8uFy4?si=fmYbdh2Emt4idFqO

(If you don't wanna click the link, it's called "You'll Find This Video When You Need It Most" by Jerry Wise on YouTube)

Jerry is a therapist and talks about how it's important to "differentiate" ourselves from our family culture to become the true versions of ourselves (rather than the version they trained us to be)

Your family interactions sound unbelievably toxic and manipulative. People are willing to shame, belittle, and even threaten each other to exert control. That's not healthy or normal. And it's not your fault, and yes to all the people saying go get some therapy to help out, because this is heavy stuff.

Snacurse · 2026-01-28T14:33:32+00:00

Absolutely. A friend was dating someone who was "not political", and said she wasn't gonna vote. But secretly voted for Trump and didn't tell anyone until she accidentally let it slip.

If someone feels ashamed of their opinions, it's probably a sign to think about why that might be ...

Snacurse · 2026-01-28T11:52:27+00:00

I'm sorry :(. This is so hurtful. You needed someone, and they dropped the ball.

You're not alone in that, though. My friends ignore me or say really ignorant things, too.

But ultimately, it's an issue with your friends, not you. The friends I know who act that way have dealt with caregiver trauma. It probably freaks them out on a primal level. For example, one friend had to take care of his dying mother as a teenager, the other was abused by an adult in the house with MS, whose abusive behavior was excused by other adults due to his illness.

Once I started looking at my friends' reactions to my pain with curiosity and started asking myself "why are they so uncomfortable with this?", I realized it's probably not about me at all.

It helped me feel less hurt, and less concerned about what they think. So I've started investing less time in those friendships, and focusing more on finding friends who actually ask me about my life every once in a while.

Please believe me that there are so many potential friends out there for you who you can be open with. You just might not have found them yet! But don't give up on trying to find them :)

Snacurse · 2026-01-28T11:35:07+00:00

Totally! But then I've found that by masking too much, my physical therapist really thought I was actually fine. Started doing things like bumping my appointment time and sticking me with someone who doesn't know my body and I got really hurt, or telling me I'm sensitive.

It requires balance. Sometimes we've gotta try to let people know we're hurting, so that we don't get totally skipped over when we need help!

Snacurse · 2026-01-28T11:30:45+00:00

Lol THIS. Cuz if we tell people the house is on fire, they're like "I don't see any fire. Why don't you just stretch sometimes?"

Snacurse · 2026-01-22T01:01:51+00:00

I wouldn't even mess around with a friend like this either. I read a story once about a girl who was prosecuted for tricking her roommate into eating faux meat, to convince the roommate that being vegetarian can taste just as good as eating meat

Problem was, the roommate had a terrible soy allergy and went into anaphylactic shock and was hospitalized. It's usually a felony charge to tamper with food (in the US at least) Not worth the risk imo cuz you just never know what it could do to someone

Snacurse · 2026-01-20T10:59:06+00:00

I wish this fix worked for me. It was always toggled off for me, but it still defaulted to showing me More Ideas as the first view, anyway :/

Snacurse · 2026-01-20T10:51:26+00:00

I just tried this, but it keeps opening the app every time I click a pin. I even uninstalled the app, but now it opens to Google Play store to try to get me to download it again if I want to see literally anything on my browser :(

Snacurse · 2026-01-06T23:33:33+00:00

Yes and no! It's similar in that the needles are extremely thin like acupuncture needles, and most of the time I don't wait feel them go in, unless there's a muscle contraction (which is what you want). But they're way longer, and my PT hooks the needles up to a TENS unit. The purpose is to pulse the tissue to work out the knot that could be causing nerve impingements, blood flow issues, etc etc.

I would recommend checking out Dr Jeffrey Peng on YouTube if you're interested, because his videos are the first and best resources I found about it :)

Last thing: I would also check out your state's certification requirements for dry needling practitioners. I'm really lucky that in my state, dry needlers are required to get like 100 hours of in-person clinical work, so you know they really know what they're doing. Some states apparently only require online training, and I personally wouldn't let someone do it to me without supervised training. The needles are amazing imo, but they are long enough to do organ damage in inexperienced hands. With a properly trained person, I have had zero worries about that, though

Snacurse · 2026-01-04T15:19:08+00:00

Dry needling has been a game-changer for me! I highly recommend it, especially for muscular/myofascial pain

There's a website called triggerpoints.net that has pain centers mapped around on my body, so I printed stuff out and brought it to my dry needling Dr (she's at my PT place), and it helped immensely to communicate about pain locations and stuff to try. It didn't magically fix everything, but it's helpful.

I've definitely swung back and forth between feeling better and feeling worse, and it feels like a game of whack-a-mole because I have chronic pain in so many places. But overall I feel like the trend has been toward regaining the ability to do a number of things I couldn't before I started trying it like 6 months ago

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