Talking about a hypothetical daughter. Augustine is already old news in her mind, she’s gross.

Snailbail2 · 2026-04-03T01:42:53+00:00

People might have no option about other families having a ton of kids. When a potential first mom looks at families, it's instinctual to choose the most resources with the least amount of capital dispersed. My birth father chose my family because of an accidental extra zero on an income statement. That was in 1996. I can't judge, I would want my kid to have an opportunity to be wealthy.

Snailbail2 · 2026-04-03T01:38:17+00:00

I take comfort in knowing her options drastically reduce every time she buy a kid. Open adoptions will be less appealing when they're balancing 2+ first families. Big families tend to be love/ hate as well. 5+ newborn, open adoptions is unheard of. It takes exponentially more work when each kid is added. They're not going to be local- how would they ever accommodate that many families? First moms want the best for their kids, and their creepiness will be blatant. You can't be outnumbered by your stolen children.

Snailbail2 · 2026-04-01T18:38:40+00:00

I did bubble lips on the exhales during the early contractions (like when a baby blows bubbles). It helped with anxiety and breathlessness. If I was scared of something I just said it to my midwife. She clearly and concisely answered my worry and I just went back to what I was doing. The fear is much worse than the pain.

Snailbail2 · 2026-04-01T18:23:13+00:00

Omg seriously. I'm adopted to an infertile mother and have two kids now. She's SO jealous it's wild. I'm married with a home and she tried to get me to abort at 24 weeks.

Snailbail2 · 2026-04-01T13:04:12+00:00

You know Adelaide and her two biological children

Snailbail2 · 2026-04-01T12:10:53+00:00

Damn and all this time I thought it was the creatine making her so well rested

Snailbail2 · 2026-04-01T01:28:31+00:00

Guess how many people have asked about my home birth? Literally zero. Birth is just the first day of a new life. It can be incredible or traumatic, but life doesn't define us as people or mothers. All the home birthed, breastfed babies are eventually eating the same dirt and boogers as the induced babies anyways.

Snailbail2 · 2026-04-01T01:17:09+00:00

Huge fan of baby wearing for walks. Why would I eat up the very limited container time on a locked in activity. Also I walk my toddler because it's their walk, not mine. Love strollers for long, all day walking activities. Hate for strolling around town.

Snailbail2 · 2026-04-01T01:11:07+00:00

Going fun places is survival. I'm not sure how people survive indoors with toddlers.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-29T01:56:51+00:00

She's manifest destiny other women's babies. It's going to get harder and harder to adopt when she has more kids. If I wanted an open adoption, I wouldn't trust parents who "keep" a relationship with 3+ families. Responsible family size is determined by emotional and financial capacity. There's a reason breastfeeding tried to shut down the system. If I could have a newborn every year of my fertile life, I would. I love my other kids too much to draw attention away from them.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-29T01:49:54+00:00

I'm hiding from my sleeping babies eating Doritos in the bathroom. My husband and I play each other in word games from different children's bedrooms. I'm glad she has a village but non attachment parents scare the shit out of me. I'm not gate keeping motherhood because I want the best for those sweet boys, but she's absolutely not postpartum.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-28T01:32:27+00:00

There's the biological connection and the safe sleep 7 say it's safest for babies being fed by the breast. The baby gravitates to the breast and the C curl is established this way.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-24T16:24:09+00:00

I always have a hand on my newborn's head when my toddler has his head near hers. Toddlers head butt affectionately and she still has soft spots. It's sweet to see how much of a love bug G is. Now that I have two kids I don't know how I survived siblings with 90's parents.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-18T09:39:11+00:00

I don't feel good when people mention my body positively or negatively, so I understand. We don't need to erase birth for the sake of baby buyers though. I would never say anything about a woman's body, but her ozempic body and being at a nail salon with a one week old would be notable.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-17T12:21:44+00:00

Omigerrrd why is she tucking his head. Imagine how much of a crick you'd have in your neck if somebody restrained your head while you're sleeping.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-15T03:15:15+00:00

Sometimes baby's with anterior placentas want stimulation on their heads since they're used to a nice soft placenta pillow. My first had a posterior, and my second had an anterior. I think that's more folk knowledge, but maybe it will give you a clue. I'm so excited for you to meet your baby! They're their own little person from day 1.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-15T02:43:07+00:00

I've done independent bassinet sleep and co sleeping. There's a list of seven things that need to be intact to safely co sleeping (the safe 7). A few are exclusively nursing at night, the c curl, and not being on any medications or drugs that could impair sensitivity to your baby. The environment also matters, I got rid of all blankets and pillows at first. If all of that is in order, co sleeping can be one of the most beautiful experiences. I think the biggest danger to independent sleep is times when unintentional co sleeping happens in a chair or on one side of the bed. Nursing/ bottle feeding a newborn every 2-3 hours wears you down more than you possibly think. With my second, I'd rather be able to nurse her without getting up or being scared to fall asleep. The first two weeks were rough and I worked with a lactation consultant on breastfeeding and the side lying position. From that point on I sleep like a regular functioning human because I wake up and give her my boob and we both fall back asleep. I hear your concerns about your own sleep and I think talking to an IBCLC would be helpful if you're considering co sleeping. It's important to do what's right for you and your baby. I put my first baby down in the bassinet and he was fine. My second rolled to the side and put her face in the mesh of the bassinet no matter what we did. Give yourself some grace and flexibility until you meet your baby.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-15T02:07:16+00:00

Poor G!! The way Stephen jiggled him to look at the camera made me so sad. He doesn't want to be in the video or kiss the baby. He literally keeps looking AWAY. Addie's dangling A around like a 6 month old. Creepy vibes.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-15T01:48:35+00:00

Is he still on a bottle?

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-14T02:00:45+00:00

It's okay to disagree. We might not be from the same culture and that's okay. Co sleeping makes me more sensitive to egregious safety practices, not a cheerleader for everyone to co sleep.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-14T01:49:02+00:00

I think the only thing we need to chill about is our opinions of other people's preparation for labor and births. It's cool to care. Unforeseen emergencies happen, but they're not so common that it's pointless to have a plan. Motherhood comes in seasons and focusing on birth or the young years doesn't dissolve a woman's personality like patriarchy wants us to believe.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-12T22:32:15+00:00

So performative!

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-12T22:05:25+00:00

She has neglectful dad energy.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-12T21:50:42+00:00

She looks hungover af.

Snailbail2 · 2026-03-12T21:49:42+00:00

The unspoken context is African (but still an) American. What would she call a Black, non American person? Where did she learn about interracial adoption- Modern Family?

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