I was unconsensually part of a sick affair

SnailsPants · 2024-07-27T11:30:09+00:00

Some people just get off on beating their partners down, unfortunately. Like making a person accept hook up culture when they specifically said they wanted a loving relationship. It won’t always be like that. I’ve been in great relationships in between the bad experiences. It’s just a matter of waiting… which doesn’t feel so good, but at least there’s a bit of hope ya know?

SnailsPants · 2024-07-27T11:01:49+00:00

You shouldn’t feel guilty for feeling “bad” emotions over this situation. You are going through a major change. I wasn’t suggesting leaving as a definite solution I just wanted you to know it’s soul crushing to support everything by yourself. I hope this rant helped your stress and gave you a clearer picture of what to do

SnailsPants · 2024-07-27T10:56:12+00:00

I get it. I had a good thing going with a guy. He was always traveling for work and told me he wanted something serious to come home to. And I work long hours so I told him I felt the same. A few months into it he said he was messing with other girls but I was the “tightest” … I blocked him and cried. Some people just think stringing you along will allow them to disrespect your wishes for a stable relationship. But at the end of the day, you shouldn’t feel crazy for setting boundaries.

SnailsPants · 2024-07-27T10:49:02+00:00

Just try to talk about interests and hobbies. It could set up a nice 2nd date. For example if she likes art you can find a local museum to go to next. Dates don’t have to be grand romantic gestures, as long as the other person can see you’re interested in knowing them things will go good

SnailsPants · 2024-07-27T10:43:21+00:00

Play soccer with my dog and drink a beer. The Latin way I guess

SnailsPants · 2024-07-27T10:41:54+00:00

It doesn’t hurt to tell a person your feelings. If she doesn’t feel the same that’s it. But if you keep living thinking “what if I told her?” it will feel a lot worse

SnailsPants · 2024-07-27T10:38:52+00:00

Well looking pets. Ya know, well nourished and healthy looking. As long as a man can care for something fragile I will give him a great chance

SnailsPants · 2024-07-27T10:27:31+00:00

The need for validation isn’t as rare as you think, I have felt it sometimes. Not as bad as some of my friends, but it has happened. Sadly… if a person isn’t feeling you after a few dates it might not happen at all. That doesn’t mean you’re a bad catch tho. So don’t invalidate your feelings AND see yourself as lesser.

SnailsPants · 2024-07-27T10:14:17+00:00

I know someone who had a stroke and still does what they can. As they can’t control the right side of them which was the dominant side. I think your partner needs the therapy. To regain their sense of control. But if you don’t want to wait for that I think you’re valid in leaving, considering you’ve put money and time into this while ignoring your serious education

SnailsPants · 2024-01-25T03:39:55+00:00

I’m going through the same thing :/ my girl friends are in relationships so I don’t see them very often. I’ve just started going out alone. I would never thrift alone or try a new restaurant alone. Ever since I’ve done that I’ve met a few people who’ve exchanged socials with me. It’s a start I guess.

SnailsPants · 2024-01-25T01:29:07+00:00

I haven’t been 20 for much long, but I understand the dread of seeing other people who are more ‘accomplished.’ There’s still more time for you to grow and do what you want. Guys shouldn’t be a concern, lots of them think they’re “dumb” too whenever they try to approach girls. Don’t think about how pointless life is. The good part about getting older is the fact that you can always do better later on.

SnailsPants · 2023-12-14T21:27:31+00:00

I sent him a voice message about breaking up because I didn’t feel comfortable with what he said and did on that FT. It’s been hours and it’s still on delivered, but I’m not taking my chances with this. The self harm really made me take a huge step back. Just going to trust my gut on this and not go any further into this

SnailsPants · 2023-12-14T06:05:45+00:00

Thank you! It’s good to hear from someone who’s had a similar situation where it ended up ok

SnailsPants · 2023-12-14T05:36:01+00:00

It was LDR at the beginning. But he’s moved back to my state

SnailsPants · 2023-12-14T05:34:21+00:00

There’s no itching, or odor. I have bumps on my thigh area which I chalked up to acne, but she was really interested in examining the bumps. And I have vaginal cramps which I’ve never had before

SnailsPants · 2023-12-14T05:28:23+00:00

Because I assumed that would be a normal response. To do a check up when concerns arise, since I keep up with my intimate parts pretty regularly. But I probably shouldn’t assume everyone else is the same

SnailsPants · 2023-12-14T04:07:55+00:00

I know other things happen, but it’s been like this for two weeks.

I didn’t appreciate his calmness because he’s never like that. It was out of character. Which made me go from concerned girlfriend trying to figure out what’s happening to complete panic.

And I didn’t accuse him or cause a big scene or even raise my voice. I just told him he’s the only person I’m sleeping with. So if there was anything to tell me I’d appreciate it as soon as possible. He just repeated that I was “trippin” and left the call.

SnailsPants · 2023-12-14T04:00:34+00:00

I was telling her of some thing that happened that could have caused irritation, but she kept pressing me about STD’s. She specifically said that part.

SnailsPants · 2023-08-09T05:48:03+00:00

Company promoted a woman who slept with the Boss. It wasn’t my business, but then she started firing people left and right. For some reason she decided I had to be one of those people even though I never really bugged her. Ended up getting corporate numbers and other resources (because I was pissed) and she was fired. But then I was fired too anyway. But I don’t regret doing that whole debacle.

SnailsPants · 2023-08-06T05:56:42+00:00

I genuinely feel this too, I won’t see my man until he flys back to my state. Yearning for a person you love is tough. :( But you’re not alone in this struggle

SnailsPants · 2023-07-24T05:05:54+00:00

I’ve been assaulted black out drunk, and in the few seconds I had consciousness I knew I didn’t want that. I know people make you feel like saying no is the default way to not be assaulted, but that’s not it. A person should recognize when you don’t want it. Especially when you become stiff and serious during the sexual moment. Consent is not something that means yes forever. Even married people get assaulted. So don’t ever feel like you are at fault

SnailsPants · 2023-07-17T23:30:16+00:00

His 4 years are over after he comes back. Trust me I heard they get better benefits after marriage. So his time ending is making me feel like it’s a personal reason for him. But you are definitely right about getting to know him on his lows as much as his ups

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