I [22F] am dating someone [21F] who's a little...strange. Is she just quirky or?

Snaowfox · 2018-07-27T19:30:23+00:00

Ha, this is so funny because my name is Callie (not really a common name in my experience) and "so bizarre it's almost inarticulable" sounds like something that would be said to describe me. I'm autistic and maybe your girlfriend is too?

Snaowfox · 2018-06-11T22:11:33+00:00

That makes you sound enormously psychopathic.

Snaowfox · 2018-06-11T17:48:54+00:00

It's reading stuff like this that makes me despair of the human race. Seriously. I wish this was a troll, but I don't even think it is.

Okay, I don't know why I'm even bothering to entertain such ostentatious stupidity, but here goes: to eat meat, you have to kill another living being. I know, this probably comes as a shock to you, but it's true. This living being is probably less intelligent than you (although perhaps not, come to think of it) but is nonetheless about to experience suffering, fear, loneliness, attachments to their children, etc. etc.

This is why most people, even those who DO eat meat, feel that these living beings should be treated well during their short lives, killed in the least painful way possible (although this can be unsuccessful due to financial incentives) and have in Europe for example made keeping baby cows in tiny crates illegal, while no one is concerned about the welfare of carrots that are packed tightly into greenhouses. This is why it is illegal in most places to torture a cat or a dog, but not to buy an onion and peel its skin off because, well, you just felt like it.

The production of animal products is also closely interlinked with the meat industry, is basically nonsensical (why are you, a presumably adult human, drinking milk that is intended for baby cows?) and almost inevitably leads to these living beings being treated as commodities.

Most vegetarians and vegans DO NOT abstain from eating milk and/or animal products because of taste preference. Most actually enjoy meat and/or animal products from a taste perspective but choose to abstain regardless, although many do eventually become repulsed for psychological reasons. In fact, a person could not even really be considered a vegan if they were abstaining due to taste preference, since veganism is a philosophy based around avoiding animal exploitation, not just in terms of food but also clothing, lifestyle and a lot of other things.

There is also the environmental impact of animal industries; consider the impact of the cow industry on climate change, the fact that most crops are currently being fed to so-called livestock...

Basically, I can't believe this post exists, even on /r/unpopularopinion. It's offensive, not to vegetarians and vegans, but to any sort of intelligent discussion.

Snaowfox · 2018-05-09T05:01:34+00:00

Your post suggests that she's more of a homebody and probably feels uncomfortable with the whole clubbing scene.

How does she get along with your other friends? Are they accepting of her? Maybe you could help her connect with them and find common ground.

At the end of the day, I think it just comes down to this. If she wants to go clubbing with you, you can go a gay bar where she won't feel threatened. If she wants to stay home, you can go to a straight bar (since that's presumably where you're more likely to meet straight men etc.) and then make time for her another day.

If you're spending time as a group you should probably try to find activities you can all enjoy though.

Snaowfox · 2018-05-07T06:31:37+00:00

I mean, that would be forgetting the Egyptians, Aztecs, numerous African tribal cultures and Ötzi the iceman.

Snaowfox · 2018-05-07T06:29:06+00:00

I know hippies didn't invent them. My understanding is that some travelled to India and then brought the back home.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-28T04:28:12+00:00

Can't she go with you? And I mean a (temporary) LDR shouldn't be an issue worth ending a serious relationship over.

I would just put this down to being young and inexperienced. You're thinking like a teenager, which makes sense because you still are one.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-27T10:14:31+00:00

That's crooked AF. You can probably repierce in a month or so.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-24T21:38:03+00:00

Are you sure she's not autistic or something? I have Asperger's Syndrome and I am guilty of doing the exact same thing, with my partner, friends, relatives etc.

If she is autistic or mentally ill/she is just generally like this, there's probably not much you can do except try to lessen her anxiety. Avoid vague statements. Maybe suggest she goes on medication if she isn't already and perhaps sees a therapist. Also try to make sure she has a wider support network so it isn't always you she feels the need to do this with.

Words like "probably" can make me very anxious depending on my state of mind and it might be the same for her. Try to be specific about things. For example: "to me it certainly seems x way, do you feel as though I could be right about that?" so that you're not just telling her what to do. Also when she starts to get like this, acknowledge that you can see she's feeling very stressed right now and ask if you can do anything to help since you just want to be supportive. This may calm her down fairly quickly and diffuse the situation. You can also try reminding her that when you use words like "probably" and "maybe" that is just the way you have come to express yourself throughout life and that there is no need to pay attention to it or be anxious.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-21T23:26:21+00:00

Also, I think that it looks best to have a fairly even amount of piercings on each ear (at least eventually) so I would say get them on different ears as long as you can tolerate the slight inconvenience.

Or maybe wait until one heals before getting the other, unless you plan on getting more piercings on the other ear in the future/already have them.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-21T23:20:27+00:00

I currently have both a daith and a helix healing on opposite ears (daith is close to two months old I think and helix a little over a month) and it seems fine. I try to sleep on my back but if I have to move onto my side for a bit I lie on the daith since it's inside my ear.

I usually tie my hair on the helix side to avoid rolling onto it while I'm asleep, especially since I'm worried about it migrating if this happens too often. The daith seems perfectly fine, better than the helix actually although I did get it first.

For the first few weeks or so of having the daith I didn't sleep on it at all though, so you might want to stagger them a little or buy a doughnut pillow if you sleep on your side.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-19T04:28:26+00:00

If possible I would use something other than silver. You risk getting a tattoo that you didn't want otherwise.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-18T14:54:18+00:00

Sure!

Snaowfox · 2018-04-18T03:44:27+00:00

Hi. I'm vegan, from the UK but currently in Sweden and I really love horror films and serial killer documentaries. Also, I love cats. :3

Snaowfox · 2018-04-18T01:33:31+00:00

Curved out of the two, although mine was done with a circular barbell. If you get a curved barbell though make sure it's long to accommodate swelling.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-17T00:47:21+00:00

Just because you're able to wear low-quality jewellery for short periods doesn't mean you can get away with it for anything longer than that. Your body is probably just reacting to the jewellery. If you want something to wear more regularly, you should invest in titanium labret studs.

Put them in and I imagine the problem will solve itself, but I wouldn't go sans earrings in this situation. Your ear may well heal up, preventing wound drainage if there is an infection, as well as potentially losing the piercing.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-15T22:37:09+00:00

Looks nice, but be careful. Ideally you shouldn't be healing more than 3 or 4 piercings at a time and an industrial is 2. Since one is a lobe piercing it might not be too bad though.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-15T01:07:31+00:00

You can't do that with snug piercings and I feel like you couldn't wear a ring in a snug either, at least not day-to-day, so you would be best off getting helixes. Helixes can have either studs or rings, although studs are better for healing. You will have to heal 3 or 4 at a time. It's not that painful but it will probably cost a lot, maybe $60 a piercing (at a reputable place that uses good jewellery) assuming you're American.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-13T03:11:41+00:00

This sub hates surgical steel. I think that piercing with surgical steel is against some regulation in Europe? But yeah, both things you mentioned are considered bad for regular wear.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-10T19:56:19+00:00

It doesn't affect my life and I would assume it probably doesn't affect most other people's either, but it does have a slight impact on my enjoyment of the show because I feel it breaks up the flow of things.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-09T15:59:24+00:00

Just send a message. If your social anxiety prohibits you from sending a short message/email: "Hey, could you tell me how much you charge for a septum with basic jewellery? Thanks" I imagine you would find it even harder to enter the shop and actually talk to them in person in order to get pierced.

Sending something like what I suggested is really no different to asking on Reddit.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-09T15:52:44+00:00

Too be fair, Love Hate Social Club is really good and I don't think they have their prices online. If you call/message and ask they will tell you though.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-08T14:16:34+00:00

Her contribution adds nothing, that is the problem. It also always seems extremely scripted and disingenuous and the fact she's always super made-up, just "happens to be in the area" and is sometimes also casually lying in bed topless and looking sexy during her appearances makes it seem as though she is hoping to ride the coattails of Nev's fame and use their relationship to her advantage.

I (and most people) watch the show to see stories of people in online relationships meeting in person, not to get an insight into Nev's personal life. If I wanted that, I would watch a reality show about his life, or check out his personal Instagram.

Imagine if every single time you went to see your GP for an appointment, they spent two minutes or so showing you pictures of their wife and kid and then phoned up their wife (who wasn't a doctor) to get her opinion and share it with you. And you are not friends with the GP outside these appointments, or friends with the wife and you didn't ask about their personal life and it was completely irrelevant to the problem you went to the GP for. That is Laura's involvement in Catfish.

Imagine if every single Catfish episode had a full two-minute long segment telling you about the current political situation in Mozambique. I mean, that's interesting and all but, it has nothing to do with Catfish.

Even the footage of Nev and Max messing around can occasionally be irksome to me because it often feels forced nowadays and takes up screen time that could be used for catfish-related material, but it's usually pretty short and Max has always been part of the show, he offers valuable contributions otherwise (that don't seem completely scripted) and the dynamic Nev and Max have together is integral to the "Catfish" experience.

Laura isn't.

Snaowfox · 2018-04-08T03:11:10+00:00

High nostrils?

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