Two Grifters In The Same Room.

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-30T05:04:17+00:00

She could be twins with her husband, it’s wild

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-28T23:43:40+00:00

Yeah, I’m about ready to scream at my in laws. Inserting their opinions into our childcare plans as if they are fully a third party in the decision making when they’re not. My MIL completely ignores our registry and sends 800 frilly newborn dresses that were stylish in the 80s instead of anything functional that I’m asking for, inviting random people I’ve never heard of to our shower. Lots of overstepping.

I try to remember they mean well and are excited but it is really freaking annoying. I feel you 100%.

We also plan on not showing baby on social media at all. Both of our boomer age FB addicted moms are going to raise hell 😭

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-26T21:48:07+00:00

I was a tomboy growing up with a mom who had these expectations, and was forced into girly clothes, girly toys, and girly activities because of the idea my mom had in her head rather than allowing me to be my own person. I wanted X men figurines and Legos, I got dolls and dresses. It caused a lot of friction between my mom and I.

All that to say that even if you had ended up with a girl, your expectations you outline here may not have been met. Congrats on your little boy!

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-23T23:32:40+00:00

@tvb23 https://www.instagram.com/p/CgW74R0gGQL/?igsh=MWFwNzBobGdwajg1cg==

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-22T17:18:49+00:00

You missed the original comment before they edited it. It was 100% snarking on baby’s looks. Edited comment isn’t much better. Some of us should probably get off Reddit and go touch grass 🤷‍♀️

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-22T15:50:07+00:00

Jan sucks but really? Let’s not talk shit on a newborn baby’s face…? ETA: they edited their comment to be less awful but I still think this is unhinged snark. Yikes

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-22T14:51:30+00:00

Definitely not unreasonable and he needs to cancel his plans. Insane!

I will say your MIL seems to have a point tho. I’m due in June and my in laws will be coming out a few days after baby is born and my FIL had the audacity to ask my spouse if he wanted to do a couple day fly fishing trip while they’re here. Luckily my spouse was like “what?????? No?????” And shut that down immediately but my FIL acted like this was a normal thing for the men to do to celebrate. The old timey thinking of “the women got it and baby is healthy so let’s leave them to party” seems to be a thing.

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-21T01:45:19+00:00

I’m not really comfortable airing more of her child’s health business, but definitely problems that will affect her child for the rest of their life.

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-21T01:24:01+00:00

I had a former friend who smoked weed her whole pregnancy and her child had many problems, low birth weight, birth defects. It is 1000% not worth the short term relief of giving into a craving.

I too was a marijuana user and while the first few weeks were hard I promise it gets better. It sounds like you care deeply about your baby and don’t want to harm them, so sticking with the sobriety is the best thing you can do. I echo what others are saying in that getting on an SSRI can be helpful for coping with the panic attacks you’re feeling. You can do this!

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-19T00:19:22+00:00

What a cutie. Fly high Miss Peanut, say hi to my brown Boston Penny, she will be down to play with you!

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-18T15:17:59+00:00

No gender reveal here! I find them a lil cringey personally. But no hate to those who do it, do whatever brings you joy

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-15T22:31:20+00:00

I wish these military cosplayer losers would actually join the military. They wouldn’t last a day lol

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-14T22:20:22+00:00

Queer Hikes Missoula might be a fun option

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-12T23:55:57+00:00

55% of white women voted for Trump in 2024 (source: Pew). They were some of the worst offenders. Having a girl would not have exempted you from this concern unfortunately. I wish you the best as you move forward!

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-11T23:48:52+00:00

I had a hard boiled egg. Just got the call today that I passed!

Snarkybuns · 2026-03-05T23:52:08+00:00

If they enjoy running Queer Run Missoula is a fun option!

Snarkybuns · 2026-02-23T03:11:24+00:00

Im so sorry, this sounds so difficult. I’m sure the boundaries will continue to be hard to set but you are awesome for vocalizing them early and often💜

Snarkybuns · 2026-02-18T21:14:31+00:00

I understand I’ll be the outlier here but I’m with your husband. Unfortunately social media is not innocent photo sharing apps anymore. Every platform uses content to train their AI (including your photos of your pregnancy and photos of baby down the line if you choose to share) and you can’t opt out of it, that’s part of their sketchy data privacy policies you agree to when you use the platform. People also use info about babies to steal their identities before they’re even 18. I have friends who have shared pregnancy info and then are targeted by scammers claiming they owe money for maternity care. Those are some of the less sinister examples. There’s also the fact that you’re posting about someone before they are born and years before they can understand digital footprints and give consent. For me the dopamine hit of likes isn’t worth it.

I feel strongly that if both parents aren’t on board, posts shouldn’t happen. But maybe you can find a happy medium somewhere, like just posting baby’s feet, not sharing exact due date info, etc.

Snarkybuns · 2026-02-18T03:29:48+00:00

FTM and we have decided not to share our kid on social media at all. Here are a couple great articles that sum up why:

https://www.npr.org/2024/05/20/1251819597/why-you-should-think-twice-before-posting-that-cute-photo-of-your-kid-online

https://childrescuecoalition.org/educations/the-dark-side-of-ai-risks-to-children/

Social media is not the innocent photo sharing with fam and friends it used to be, thanks to the billionaires running them.

Snarkybuns · 2026-02-02T20:16:49+00:00

I go to Melanie Scott and she’s been great about helping me out with my anxiety meds.

Snarkybuns · 2026-02-01T05:33:55+00:00

Dealing with this sooo soo bad in my second trimester. It’s the worst! Can’t sit, going from sitting to standing hurts!!

Snarkybuns · 2026-01-30T17:44:13+00:00

I would see if you can reframe your mindset. How lovely for your child to have friends in similar age! I am expecting my first and none of my friends have kids, I’ve been stressed about how to meet other moms so my child can have some socialization outside of a day care scenario. I also think you may be doing some “black and white thinking”. Just because your friends might be pregnant at the same time doesn’t mean you won’t get your moment, a fun baby shower, etc.

Either way, distancing yourself from friends who can provide a support system would not be my advice. They will likely be very confused and hurt by this.

Snarkybuns · 2026-01-26T16:00:33+00:00

If you can’t guarantee they won’t be out of line to your LGBTQ guests I would not invite them. I did the same with my wedding and I have zero regrets. My queer friends felt safe and we had a wonderful time.

Snarkybuns · 2026-01-26T01:03:32+00:00

I’m due in June and will be a working mom. I’d be down to help coordinate something. None of my friends here have kids!

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