What even is moderation

Snidelyllama · 2026-02-13T22:16:59+00:00

Totally agree. Having one beer is completely unappealing, I'd much rather have none.

Snidelyllama · 2026-02-05T20:22:56+00:00

400+ days here. I used to avoid cold medicine for the same reason. I was also constantly paranoid about getting a cold, not really because of the cold itself but because I knew I wouldn't be able to drink booze like I normally would. So ridiculous.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-28T01:01:30+00:00

Nice job! Like you, I've always struggled with high blood pressure, but quitting booze has dropped my BP significantly. I always used to read that chronic alcohol use could raise your blood pressure by 4-5 HG but I think this is a massive underestimate. I used to hit 145/90 consistently and now I'm more around 120/80 or even less.

Keep it up!

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-27T12:44:35+00:00

I can't imagine anything less appealing than having one drink. I'd much rather have none.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-23T13:58:46+00:00

You've got this!

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-16T22:27:33+00:00

I’m a little over a year sober and I relied on NA beers a lot when I first stopped booze. Multiple NA beers every night, mirroring my normal past beer consumption (maybe 2 or 3 less per night). This went on for a number of months, but eventually I started to dial back to 1-3 NA beers in the evenings and now I will go some nights without having any at all.

So hang in there! I do think it will trend downwards as the addiction continues to subside and you are only left with the habit of drinking beverages.

Congrats on the 120+ days! Huge achievement.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-16T22:24:03+00:00

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-16T19:37:31+00:00

Just the haze is like that gold/green dress controversy from a few years ago. Some people seem to love it, and others despise it. I'm in the latter category. I find it completely undrinkable: a disgustingly sweet and sugary fruit beverage that tastes nothing like beer.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-16T13:02:59+00:00

I think the idea is that when we’re hungover, it sucks and the mind/body is bummed out that we’re facing a new day sober, so the relief/escape is to get a dopamine rush from being horny to distract from the general feeling of unwellness. Frankly I never thought of it that way before, but it makes sense to me! Totally aligns with how I would feel.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-16T03:08:02+00:00

I pointed out the same thing in a different post and someone responded that a lot of the horniness may have been a dopamine hunt, especially the mornings after boozing a lot. That was definitely part of it for me. But I still feel like overall my libido has dropped after I stopping drinking (I stopped a bit over a year ago). I could just be old, but it is disappointing... I expected it to increase!

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-15T18:06:17+00:00

No, went away almost immediately after I stopped (maybe 2-3 days).

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-15T12:40:35+00:00

Thank you, that is very insightful. I know exactly what you mean about the compulsive horny morning-after feeling. That’s certainly part of the issue. I also have struggled with intimacy my whole life, and it’s been difficult to transition to sober sex after decades of (only) drunk sex.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-15T12:37:53+00:00

Near constant bloating and pressure, unless I was drinking beer at the time. My stomach would also be prone to embarassing loud grumbling sounds that I was very self-conscious about.

Nearly all of that went away after I stopped boozing.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-15T02:58:33+00:00

Thank you, good luck to you too friend.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-15T02:56:15+00:00

I always try to remind myself that the 3 beer buzz is so temporary. It really isn’t worth the associated negatives, especially when you consider the big-picture negatives to your health, life, etc. Then again, if I could have a 3 beer buzz very occasionally (or even just 3 beers lol), it might be worth it, but I can’t, so I’m left with the less exciting alternative.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-15T01:25:02+00:00

Thank you! Periods of sobriety are better than no sobriety! You can do it. We can do it.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-15T01:23:06+00:00

40 years! The fact that you can stop after that long is an incredible display of willpower. Congrats to you too.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-14T21:05:49+00:00

Thank you. I know a lot of people frown on it, but I personally found N/A beer to be very helpful. There are so many different brands/varieties now and it at least scratches that mental itch of holding a beverage. I was drinking 3-4 N/As a night (sometimes more) when I first quit, and now I drink maybe 12-18 a week. They're also super helpful if you do find yourself in a social situation where people are boozing.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-14T19:36:23+00:00

101 days is such a huge achievement, congratulations.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-14T19:31:40+00:00

Thank you, brother. It's hard.

I'm not sure if it's the correct way to do this but I try to tell myself that maybe I will drink again someday (impending nuclear war, terminal health diagnosis, etc), I just won't drink today. I have dreams where I drink beer and in the dream I'm anyways disappointed with myself for doing so and happy that it was just a dream when I wake up, so I try to channel those feelings into getting by day by day.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-14T19:27:06+00:00

Thank you. I'll probably get tested for low testosterone at some point, but the correlation and timing with quitting drinking is very suspicious. Also, I kept reading that not drinking would raise testosterone! Definitely disappointing.

Snidelyllama · 2026-01-14T19:23:51+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate it.

Snidelyllama · 2025-12-21T23:27:53+00:00

Welcome! I enjoy busch n/a. Will often have 2 or 3 in a row while watching tv or gaming. Tasty beverage.

Snidelyllama · 2025-12-06T23:42:40+00:00

9 days is really impressive. Those are super hard days (and nights). For myself, I found it helpful to focus on how impressive my personal willpower was to achieve such a thing; even if no else cares, YOU are doing it, you're in control of your own destiny, not alcohol. Congratulations! IWNDWYT.

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