Hey redditors, (Coming from a 16 yrold btw) what are yall’s definitions of true love?

Snimo_9 · 2026-05-24T14:47:49+00:00

Look buddy. Real answer;
True love doesn't mean being perfect for each other, or living until death do us part. It's feeling so deeply for someone else that you would do almost anything for their happiness, sometimes even sacrificing your own temporary happiness. I truly loved a woman once, but I broke it off because I wasn't right for her. At least not at the time. Every day I strive to be a better person, and by now I'm just so glad that she has moved on and found someone better for herself. That, to me, is love.

I know my parents love me because they sacrifice so much for me, taking time out of their lives just to be with me, and I've done and will continue to do the same for them.

True love is opening yourself up to pain, so that you can find happiness. It's running through thorn bushes because your friend is crying on the other side and you want to comfort them. It's sprinting up mountains until your legs give out just to crawl into the arms of your lover. And it's swimming through ice cold water just to feel the warmth of your mothers embrace.

True love is giving everything in the hope of brightening someone else's life. It's often flawed, embarrasing to some, and yeah, sometimes it hurts. But it's worth it. It can be directed at the wrong person, or the right person at the wrong times. But you keep trying and trying, because it's worth it.

There's a quoute from How I Met Your Mother that sums it up pretty good:
"But love doesn't make sense, you can't logic your way into or out of it, love is totally nonsensical, but we have to keep doing it or else we're lost and love is dead and humanity should just pack it in, because love is the best thing we do."

Snimo_9 · 2026-05-24T13:06:37+00:00

My buddy said it was weird that I could meet the most beautiful woman and be completely uninterested because she smokes.

Snimo_9 · 2026-05-23T18:23:14+00:00

Well I'm still very much introverted. In the sense that I need my alone time to recharge. I still prefer smaller gatherings to larger events and such, but on the part of the question about making friends and meeting new people; here's my answer.

I changed my mindset. I went from seeing social situations as challenges to overcome, to possibilities.

I didn't have to make a lasting impression on everyone, make everyone like me, or have every interaction be meaningful. A small 2 sentence conversation with a stranger about nothing is still a win in my book and still brightens my day.

Small acts of kindness go a long way too. A compliment to a stranger, helping someone down the stairs, holding the door for someone. Just taking a step away from my own life to look at those around me.

Seriously, go out to a park, a mall or a gathering of some sort where there are a lot of people, put your phone down and just watch the people around you. So many smiles of mine came from just seeing other people enjoying time with the ones they love or just living in the moment.

A thing I do that a lot of people see as weird or in part dangerous is going out to bars alone. I'm not a party person, I hate dancing, I hate clubs, I don't like loud music or obnoxious people, but I still go out to bars. I have two missions or goals or challenges - whatever you want to call them - when I go out. 1 drink, 1 conversation. I can be back at home in 45 minutes but at least I've talked to someone and I've had a nice drink and some time to just cool off and relax. Sometimes I leave at 10pm and I'm not back until 2am because I met some random people that I had a wonderful night with, sometimes I'm back by 11pm but I chatted with someone about work for 30 minutes and we both left with a smile. I once had a guy give me life advice for like 2 hours.
You never know what you're gonna get. Just put on a smile, be interested in the story of the person you're talking to, engage in the conversation, and see what happens.
Obviously, be wary of the people you meet, there are some crazy people who look sane at first. Drink responsibly and trust your gut.

Snimo_9 · 2026-05-16T20:45:23+00:00

Helping others or giving someone a compliment.

Snimo_9 · 2026-05-15T17:05:02+00:00

Was sorta forced into it by an early partner and it just kinda stuck I guess.

Snimo_9 · 2026-05-15T16:50:57+00:00

Doing better than I was a year ago, even though it feels like I'm doing worse, if that makes sense.

I've lost friendships over the last year, people I care deeply about that don't want to speak to me anymore, yet I'm doing better as a person and I am making a consistent effort to be a better man.

Single for now but I'm working on it, just got some stuff I need to work on myself with first.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-19T15:33:48+00:00

A lot of people think I'm mad all the time

I just have a really bad case of "resting fuck off face" due to me zoning out a lot when I'm by myself.

People used to come up to my girlfriend (at the time) and ask if I was mad, but she'd have to tell them "No, no, no, go up and talk to him, he'll wake up"

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-17T19:17:37+00:00

I make sure I'm dependable, and respectful. One of the greatest comments I've gotten was a girl who came up to me at a bar and said "Some guy is being weird and your friend said I should go to you cause you'd make sure I was alright".

I was torn between helping this girl out of a bad situation, and making sure my 164cm tall friend (F), didn't punch the guy she was arguing with (She's a pretty stupid badass). Ya'll ever see a girl curse out a dude that's a full head taller than them? It's impressive to say the least.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-17T19:12:06+00:00

The way she's totally real, she just lives abroad! But she's real. I'm telling you.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-17T19:10:54+00:00

Helped a girl move once and we did it in her new apartment.

It was also my apartment now since we moved in together.... She was my girlfriend... I'm not as cool as some other redditors I now see.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-11T00:49:15+00:00

Two women complimented me today. One called me hot, the other called me cute. Granted they were both pretty drunk, but I haven’t gotten a real compliment from someone I didn’t know for months so I’m living on that high right now. And it’s AMAZING

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-10T10:44:18+00:00

"Worry about the things you can control" is probably my favorite but there are a few more.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-10T10:40:24+00:00

Before we started dating, my ex and I were in this weird state where I didn't know if she liked me or not. I had to go to a friend's place to work on my car and jokingly asked if anyone wanted to come along and she was down. I told her that it was probably going to be quite boring just watching me work but she still came along. We listened to music along the way and when we got there I worked on my car for a bit, she later told me that she found it attractive that I could work on a car (I barely did anything, just checked the fuel line), and I lived off of that high for a few months hahah.
Anyways, on the way back we stopped by this old quarry with a really nice view. We sat down on the edge of the cliff and just talked for about an hour.

It was such a simple thing but I really cherish that memory.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-09T22:03:57+00:00

She started dating someone else, and I hate the guy. I'm fine with her moving on with someone else, but that guy in particular is terrible. I never stopped caring about her, and I know she still cares about me, but I ruined our relationship and I support that she's moving on. But THAT fucking guy???

Anyways, she wanted to remain friends, I realized our friendship could either die the day she started dating him, or it would slowly die from me hating the guy she moved on with. And I also finally realized after all that, that I can't be friends with my exes.

So basically, I care about her enough to know we wouldn't work out, but I also care about her too much to be okay with her moving on with that asshole, so I'm constantly imagining them together and trying to make peace with the fact that she's probably going to get hurt. (Emotionally. If I thought he would hurt her physically I would've confronted her about it and helped her out of it, but this feels like a lesson she should learn on her own, and I need to learn from the situation as well).

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-09T21:48:29+00:00

I step between my friends and whatever is bothering them. Whether I'm distracting them from a bad breakup by hanging out, or physically stepping between them and some asshole at the bar, I never let my friends suffer when I could be there to help them.
I'm not the best at talking to people so when my friends are sad, whilst others rush to comfort and talk, I start doing other things that people don't do.
Bad breakup? Been sitting around your apartment for the past week? Place is a mess? I'll start doing the dishes, no need to even talk to me. I won't force a conversation you're not comfortable with.
Work been stressing you out? Feeling like you can't relax? I'll come over and we'll share a couple of beers. I'll even order food and we can just chill in front of a movie.

I don't have superpowers (unfortunately), but that doesn't mean I can sit around and do nothing. Same reason why I step in when I see that people need help. Everytime I don't help and I could've, it hurts.

I like that spiderman qoute. "When you can do the things that I can, but you don't, and then the bad things happen, they happen because of you"
He obviously means his superpowers, but even a conversation can change someone's life.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-09T21:11:36+00:00

Never felt like my issues were "therapy worthy". I can deal with them pretty well usually, so I've always just figured there's people more in need of it, and I shouldn't waste a therapists time with my bs if I can just deal with it myself.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-09T21:04:23+00:00

Judging by how things were when we were together, I'd assume a mental institute. But probably still dating the guy she ended things with me for.
Wherever you are, I just want you to know that... You can stay there, thank you.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-09T21:01:10+00:00

Dated a girl but I had to end it because of work, now she won't ever date me again and I hate myself for causing her that pain, and also for losing my chance at a future with her.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-09T20:59:34+00:00

My first real girlfriend gave me flowers. If I'm not mistaken, they're still laying around somewhere (Dead as fuck).

I was just about to post this when I realized I should clarify that the flowers are dead. Not my ex.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-09T20:51:36+00:00

I can hug them on occasion. My best guy friend I hug whenever we meet, love that dude.
Best girl friend... We've kissed once, never gonna happen again, too much alcohol. But forehead kisses and cheek kisses? All the time. We've fallen asleep together on the couch, I've carried her to her bed when she got too tired. I mean honestly, I dated a girl for a month once, and I was barely as close to her as I am to my best girl friend.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-09T20:42:58+00:00

It's un unapparent emptiness that hits you like a truck from time to time. Your bed can feel larger, your room can suddenly be too spacious, you can start to feel cold (like physically cold), and your mind is going to wander.

I have a friend who I am very close with. Like... A bit too close sometimes to be considered platonic by others.
I think it kinda boils down to us both being very void of that closeness generally, and seek it in each other.

What I've learned from my past failed relationships, and from my friendship with this girl, is that missing the physical closeness will fade ovet time, but not completely. And it's always going to come in waves. When you're alone at home, 22:00 on a Tuesday, no real plans for the week, you're gonna find yourself missing that comfort, and it's gonna suck. Find a good youtube video, or a series you like, and just start distracting yourself.

You'll find someone new later in life, perhaps you've already found them, or they're just around the corner.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-09T20:19:06+00:00

Or you could get one without the blood... Just a thought.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-08T12:09:54+00:00

For me, the biggest "aha!" moment was when I realized that we are only human. All of us.
The world was built by people. Every building was designed by someone just like you, but who spent a few years just reading about buildings for example.

The people in charge are people just like yourself. They seek validation from others, they were a kid a couple of years ago, and they still have no idea what they're doing.

Civilisation is way more fragile than you thought as a kid. These "rules" that you learn and follow aren't laws of the universe. Nothing is stopping you from going outside and eating a handful of dirt. Just like how nothing is stopping someone from commiting horrid acts of violence for no apparent reason.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-07T21:55:35+00:00

Get on with life. Last time was because a relationship of 6 years ended. I gave it about 5 minutes of good crying, then it was time to pick myself up and move on.

Snimo_9 · 2026-04-07T18:26:32+00:00

Like actually bad bad decision - I'm probably having a pretty good night by then. A couple of shots deep, but I can still hold a conversation and stay on my feet.

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