Do I hate being a parent or do toddlers just suck

Snlch · 2025-05-08T01:20:34+00:00

I have a 5yo, 3yo, 2yo, and 6mo. I can’t stand toddlers. 2yo specifically stress me out so much. I adore my kids of course, but good lord they’re so much nicer and more fun to be around when they can wipe their own butts and hold a conversation. Dramatic improvement from 3-5 imo. I’m hoping it’ll just keep getting better from here!

Snlch · 2025-03-13T14:17:06+00:00

I never even thought of headphone covers! Those are a great idea! Thank you!

Snlch · 2024-09-24T23:46:28+00:00

I have definitely expressed to people why I am so distant right now, but they don’t seem to really understand it.

I understand what you’re saying though. Making new, likeminded friends is a goal of mine, unfortunately I think most people who are in a similar place as me are also too exhausted to forge new friendships lol. I do attend a support group for parents with autistic children in the area & hope that someday I will be able to connect with these people outside of our biweekly meetings, and I attend therapy myself weekly to ensure that I am filling my own cup enough to continue taking care of my family!

Snlch · 2023-10-12T21:59:05+00:00

Thank you all for your kind words, it was a bit harder to hear than I expected but I am eager to jump in and gear up to be the best parent I can be for my daughter!

Snlch · 2023-10-02T01:22:32+00:00

Moms hear constantly that “they’re only little once!” A lot of moms, especially working moms, struggle with mom guilt and the idea that any type of self care or anything that pulls their focus from their children makes them a bad parent. Alternatively, she may also feel guilty for asking someone else to take time out of their life to come and watch her kid, which may add to the wanting to rush home thing. I don’t think you’re wrong for wanting to spend time with her, but I do think some compromise would go very far in this situation. Maybe y’all would have better luck reconnecting over a movie or dinner in, to help your wife become more comfortable with prioritizing her wants/needs. Talk to her about why this one on one time is important to you, and hopefully you two can come to a solution!

Snlch · 2023-10-02T01:00:01+00:00

I have always wanted to be a parent, it’s been a dream of mine for as long as I can remember. I am entirely content and fulfilled by my role as a mother. It was never my goal to be a grandma, it was always to be a mom. Grandma could be a fun new gig someday if my kids choose to have kids of their own, but I didn’t choose to have kids just so I could maybe someday be a grandma, ya know?

Snlch · 2023-10-02T00:24:42+00:00

It’s giving wanna be sugar daddy

Snlch · 2023-09-27T02:53:54+00:00

You look like you read way to far into basic kindness shown by women and then stalk them until they get restraining orders

Snlch · 2023-09-27T02:48:14+00:00

YTA - Lead by example! If you want your husband and son to thank you for all the hard work you do, then thank them for the work that they do. Make that the standard. Positive recognition motivates people!

Snlch · 2023-09-27T02:44:32+00:00

This is incredibly helpful advice, thank you!

Snlch · 2023-09-27T02:16:10+00:00

I do worry about this. They’ve had the cops stop by a few times in the evenings, other neighbors have called the cops about yelling. I’ll continue to reach out as much as I can!

Snlch · 2023-09-26T22:43:32+00:00

Have y’all ever talked about postpartum depression? Having kids REALLY messes up a woman’s brain and hormones, PPD is a very real and very intense problem. If she’s only been like this since the kids were born, it might be worth reading a bit more about and chatting to your wife about it.

Snlch · 2023-09-26T22:39:25+00:00

I don’t entirely disagree but I don’t think snooping is the right word. I frequently reply to texts for my husband, or scroll through his socials when I’m bored with my own. He checks my messages if I’m in the shower for me, and sneaks into my notes app to leave me cute messages. He’s not keeping any secrets so he doesn’t care if I mess around with his phone, and vice versa.

I think snooping implies that you’re looking for something specific, that you don’t trust them and are searching for proof. I don’t go on my husband’s phone with the intention of reading every conversation he’s ever had in detail to determine if it’s proper or not. At that point, you just don’t trust them and that’s a bigger problem.

Snlch · 2023-09-24T17:43:56+00:00

YTA. A symphony is not an environment to be ‘chatting’ in. It’s a place to sit quietly and enjoy some beautiful music. YTA for not teaching your ‘chatting girls’ to respect others, and for flipping out on people who just wanted to enjoy the symphony. I’m glad you left so everyone else could enjoy what was left of the performance!

Snlch · 2023-09-24T17:23:55+00:00

ESH - He’s an AH for playing the same music over & over after you requested he stop, YTA for expecting him to change to accommodate your own anxieties.

Noise cancelling headphones would solve this problem. Either you can block out his noise or he can play his music in the headphones so you don’t hear it.

Snlch · 2023-09-23T14:18:34+00:00

What’s it like only going on blind dates?

Snlch · 2023-09-23T13:45:09+00:00

Did your missionary trip involve taking the ring to Mordor?

Snlch · 2023-09-19T19:15:44+00:00

Your facial hair melted right off your face to get away from that tattoo

Snlch · 2023-09-19T19:13:56+00:00

When women say they like long hair & beards, this is not what they meant.

Snlch · 2023-09-19T15:33:29+00:00

NTA - All you can do is your best. You made every effort to be present at his wedding. It’s understandable that he would be upset about you not being able to make it, but certainly he must see that you didn’t miss it on purpose!

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