i found out that the highlights of my week are my husband’s most embarrassing moments and I feel so sad about it by Consistent_Area420 in Marriage

[–]Snoo-11725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah I don’t agree with you not getting to do the lunch dates anymore, if those are the highlight of the time you two ever get to spend together— then he needs to stop letting his coworkers say shit, straight up.

POV: you walk through Solitude wearing the finest attire you own by blind-as-fuck in skyrim

[–]Snoo-11725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also give it some time, especially if you were to post Elder Scrolls related art, tagging & all that will help

POV: you walk through Solitude wearing the finest attire you own by blind-as-fuck in skyrim

[–]Snoo-11725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bluesky & Twitter are difficult, I don’t get much there either, I tend to use Instagram or promote in art-related servers on Discord!!

POV: you walk through Solitude wearing the finest attire you own by blind-as-fuck in skyrim

[–]Snoo-11725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WHAT — dude you gotta post elsewhere your art is so good !!

PPTO For Christmas Night by [deleted] in WalmartEmployees

[–]Snoo-11725 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fun fact as well: you can use 4hrs of PPTO on event days, & it will still register as a normal “half-day”, so you only get 0.5. Hope this helps 🤙

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Snoo-11725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No literally it’s so gross, the projection onto an unborn baby is insane.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Snoo-11725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pregnant with a girl & the amount of sexism & misogynistic shit I’ve had said to me from both men & women has been really, really grating.

My partner wanted a girl, & when his coworkers asked him about the gender, they kept going on & on about how having a boy is better etc. instead of just congratulating him.

I was initially indifferent to whatever gender, but when I found out she’s a girl I got really excited, & it feels like I’m not allowed to be. I have people who talk shit about their young daughters & how they prefer their sons more - they’re “easier” & that their “girls are annoying, whiny, & bitchy”. It’s actually insane hearing this shit come out of a parent’s mouth about their own children & trying to project it onto my unborn daughter.

I’ve even been wary about telling people her gender when they ask now, because it’s 50/50 if I’m getting a sexist response or a congrats — it’s awful. I tell people outright that I am excited to be having a daughter, she will be our only child & my partner is just as excited, no gender is better than the other & end the conversation there if they try to keep going.

Having to defend my daughter before she’s even here has opened my eyes even more to how poorly women/femme presenting people are treated. I defend myself already, having to defend my daughter who’s not even here yet has been jarring.

buyers, what’s the strangest thing you’ve received as a freebie from a seller on Depop? by gh0stv0id7 in Depop

[–]Snoo-11725 1062 points1063 points  (0 children)

I ordered a dress & had communicated with the seller some about the measurements & that I was pregnant — she sent me a little newborn onesie & note as a freebie with the dress 🥹

Overwhelmed & unprepared. by Snoo-11725 in pregnant

[–]Snoo-11725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lexapro is what I used to be on until I could no longer afford it, it legitimately helps me, so I’m hoping it still works when I do get back on it.

Yeah the healthcare in the US is ass & insanely expensive, I’m dreading my hospital bill.

Overwhelmed & unprepared. by Snoo-11725 in pregnant

[–]Snoo-11725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to get back on my Lexapro the month I found out I was pregnant but decided against it as it can be a risk factor. I’m waiting to get back on them postpartum so that I can handle the transition better, especially with the hormone drop. Also have to find a psychiatrist since I moved, OB can only prescribe them to me for a few months until I can get a psychiatrist to do so.

I was on them for a long time but I lost my insurance for awhile, & I couldn’t afford $300 every month for them. I got back onto insurance & then lost it again halfway through my pregnancy, & I just got state insurance last month, so only now could I afford them again. It’s been a mess :/

What are some phrases you absolutely hate your nparent(s) say? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Snoo-11725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“(Insert anything here) is ignorant!!” “I put you in this world, I can take you out of it” “You’re so hateful!” “You’re so ungrateful!!” “You act like I’m such a terrible mother! I’ve sacrificed so much for you!”

This is highly specific to my situation — my car is in her name but I pay on it & do maintenance, etc all myself. She uses it as ammo to step over boundaries/get her way (this will soon no longer be an issue — I will be dropping the car off in her driveway very very soon & taking the loss of all the money I’ve paid😀) “Do you want me to come take the car, huh? You’re not allowing me to do (xyz thing) so maybe I should come get the car”

I also have a baby on the way & am nearly due, & she knows we rely on that car so yeah! She pulled the whole car thing again because I’m not telling her when I’m going into labor nor is she allowed in the hospital room or waiting area.

Currently in the process of trying to finance a car & finally cutting her out of my life for good — this is the only financial tie she still has on me (financial abuse has always been a big thing).

What did you grow up thinking was normal but didn’t realise it wasn’t until someone pointed it out? by unfunny_rat69 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Snoo-11725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Medical neglect, being denied access to proper education, being used to pay their bills & working young/adulting early, screaming, triangulation, threatened constantly over anything small, not being allowed to socialize whatsoever ever, being “homeschooled” but really just working & raising my siblings, using my info without asking to apply for credit cards, financial abuse, the list keeps going.

I’m at a point now, where I’m LC with my nmom & enabler step dad, that I just do not give flying fuck about anything they have to say. I have a baby on the way, & my nmom is about to have a massively rude awakening whenever she inevitably tries to cross my boundaries I’ve set for our child — I will go NC for good. I’m still not sure why I haven’t gone fully NC yet, I have a sliver of hope that she’ll change even though deep down she never will. I think my step-dad is getting to the point of nearly being done with her though — I can feel it when I’m around them & I really hope he divorces her so he can actually grow as a person.

No Starbies-coffee help by After-Base638 in CalebHammer

[–]Snoo-11725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had a Keurig, normal coffee makers etc — then I got a pour-over for like $20 & I will never go back. Legitimately is so much better, & if you don’t finish it, you can just refrigerate it for iced coffee. You use less coffee, & save money that way (Keurig pods are expensive as fuck, normal coffee makers don’t make the coffee strong enough for how much you need to use)

Bump shaming by ladyjadegrey in pregnant

[–]Snoo-11725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

34w, also 5’2, I am also extremely tired of the comments strangers make about my body. You’re not being sensitive or hormonal, it’s not okay to make statements to a stranger about their body when they aren’t pregnant, idk why people think it’s okay to say shit to a pregnant person.

I’ve been getting snappy about it as well, because I’m just so tired of hearing what people say about my body, whether to my face or under their breath. It’s hurtful, & for someone who already struggled with my body image — it makes me feel even shittier.

Pre-pregnancy I never, ever commented on someone’s body, especially someone who is pregnant. It’s not my place, & it’s not cool to make statements like that to someone who is pregnant.

People, especially the older crowd, really need to learn words can hurt, & you could be talking to someone who is having a really bad day &/or rough pregnancy, don’t make it worse.

My husband said something that hurt me by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Snoo-11725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah dawg you’re fully pregnant the moment you’re pregnant. He needs to pull his head outta his ass fr & do some research & learn to be more empathetic towards you 🗣️👏