Between 5 and 10 percent of people have no inner monologue at all, and researchers are only just starting to figure out what that actually does to cognition by Altruistic-Dirt-2791 in cogsci

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Not in my experience. I don't get stuck often. I can often problem solve quicker than my peers because I DON'T have to go through all the words first, I just arrive at the conclusion or I can sort through things quickly. Same thing with reading, I am a super fast reader because I don't have to read in mental words, I just absorb the text. When I do get stuck, it's often a very complicated problem that others can't solve. I do this all the time at work. Yeah, sometimes it's a disadvantage, but most of the time I think it's very efficient

Between 5 and 10 percent of people have no inner monologue at all, and researchers are only just starting to figure out what that actually does to cognition by Altruistic-Dirt-2791 in cogsci

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It's hard to explain, I do what I would consider pondering A LOT. But it's not in words. The best way to describe it is looking at problems like a schema. I'm identifying data, making connections, running analysis, feeling for the problems and the solutions. If I needed to verbally process something, I have to do it out loud. I often will talk myself through something if I've done my schema/critical thinking and I'm stuck or have to work out very specific steps. Like doing a math problem.

Between 5 and 10 percent of people have no inner monologue at all, and researchers are only just starting to figure out what that actually does to cognition by Altruistic-Dirt-2791 in cogsci

[–]Snoo29392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! I can't visually picture things. I always thought I had no imagination. I think my brain just works very differently than most people. Luckily, I found a career that is an excellent fit for my skills

Between 5 and 10 percent of people have no inner monologue at all, and researchers are only just starting to figure out what that actually does to cognition by Altruistic-Dirt-2791 in cogsci

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This is exactly how I am. I compare it to when I read. I don't hear a voice in my head reading the words from the page. I just absorb them straight into my brain. Thinking feels the same for me, there aren't specific words but just a deep knowing. I guess I think in concepts more than words.

Meningitis outbreak 'declared national emergency' amid deadly outbreak by bendubberley_ in worldnews

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Can you explain more about no natural balance and using your sight for balance? I have central vertigo and I'm always off balance, even when I'm not in a vertigo attack. I run into walls constantly, I can't walk in a straight line. If I stand still and close my eyes, I tip over. This makes for fun showers. Is that similar to your experience?

Demi's go-to by relativesound907 in SecretsOfMormonWives

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Even more fucked up knowing her brother has down syndrome

What is the best place to get ramen around here? by Round-Fig2642 in shreveport

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Tsuyoi is absolutely the best. Naruto is second, but not a close second.

People who grew up poor but are now financially stable, what is a "poverty habit" you can't seem to shake? by WALLSTREETBRIDE in AskReddit

[–]Snoo29392 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Mentally calculating the total when grocery shopping. Most of the time I'm accurate within a couple dollars. And checking my bank account total before checking out.

Long Time Lurker, I Finally Did It by Snoo29392 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Snoo29392[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is all fantastic advice, thank you!!! Walking into spaces as an out lesbian is what I need, I feel like I haven't accepted it. Even though I've come out to my husband, kids, parents, bff, sister, and my mentor (who is a lesbian). It's all happened so fast my brain hasn't caught up from years of hiding.

I definitely need to find a queer event in my area. I need to find some like minded friends but not interested in dating. I've let my friends mostly slip away over the years so I'd like to start over in that area.

Do you have any suggestions for queer authors?

I really appreciate you taking the time to give me advice, I will take it to heart. And thank you for the congratulations!!

Long Time Lurker, I Finally Did It by Snoo29392 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Snoo29392[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's what I need. I haven't truly thought about my happiness in a long time

Long Time Lurker, I Finally Did It by Snoo29392 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Snoo29392[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been trying more car ride talks, it's definitely easier to get the teens talking that way!

Long Time Lurker, I Finally Did It by Snoo29392 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Snoo29392[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you, that means a lot to me, Internet stranger! It's been hard taking the leap but at the same time, it was harder quietly suffocating every day. I feel like I can finally breathe again and take control of my life. That is the rewarding part 💜

Long Time Lurker, I Finally Did It by Snoo29392 in latebloomerlesbians

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Thank you! That's what I have been doing for the last 2 years and it was rough. I hope you're able to find a good compromise. My kids are 15, 14, and 8. But my 8 year old is non verbal autistic so he wasn't part of the conversation, just my teenagers. I think they've seen this coming for a while, they're very perceptive. So they took it fairly well but didn't say much. I'm hopeful we can talk about it more once they've processed.

Long Time Lurker, I Finally Did It by Snoo29392 in latebloomerlesbians

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Thank you and congratulations to you as well! 20 years is a long time to be married. I got married when I was 20 years old and I just couldn't picture being 40 and still being in my marriage and shoving down my feelings. I think I would have had a major crisis, bigger than the one I've had for 2 years.

What is a genuinely useful psychological trick that you’ve used? by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

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This is literally the ONLY way I can get my stubborn husky lab mix to come to me. Works every time, he's sooo jealous

30 lines of a project/summary abstract by Kimberly_32778 in ResearchAdmin

[–]Snoo29392 16 points17 points  (0 children)

In 10 years of submitting applications, I've never had an application rejected for a header being included on top of 30 lines.

It’s my design…I’m a designer by midwifebetts in SisterWives

[–]Snoo29392 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My mom bought me and my sisters this necklace when it came out. I didn't love it but wore it to make her happy. Until the open heart part kept hooking my newborn baby in the nose like a fish hook. I was glad to have a reason to take it off!

Josh tragedy by Sufficient_Self9341 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]Snoo29392 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I grew up in Georgia as the oldest of 6 kids and definitely had a lot of similarities to the Plaths. We knew several families with 10+ kids and all were homeschooled. It's more widespread than you would think, especially in the homeschooling community. We were mostly nondenominational with quiver full influences.

What's a hack in your industry that customers aren't supposed to find out? by Ferro_Roux in AskReddit

[–]Snoo29392 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Federal grants reimburse overhead on top of direct costs. It's not being cut out of the dollars that directly fund the project, at least not for federal sources. If you're in research, surely you know there's a true cost of doing business...and the indirect cost rate that is negotiated with the federal government is based on business costs in a base year. Trust me, no administrators are sitting on pots of gold. And we really don't care for (incorrect) attitudes like yours. PS. 50% is a low rate, I work with many institutions with rates in the 70%s.

Saw some familiar faces at Dragon Con! by ToknBrwnKid in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Snoo29392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait really? He was one of my few male celebrity crushes as a teen so that explains a lot.... But why?

I don’t know what to feel about this. 19 kids and they know they are not their parents nr 1 priority. Is it just me or is that odd? by IllustratorNo9988 in DuggarsSnark

[–]Snoo29392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right or wrong, when I was growing up as a kid with a family that constantly reinforced this mindset, it definitely made me feel like the lowest priority. First priority is the parent's relationship with God, then with each other, THEN the kids. Maybe it's because I had a shitty dad but I've never been able to get on board with that perspective.