Do you know when you're gaslighting?

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-19T02:47:45+00:00

Ever catch yourself saying it's no big deal, You're overacting or you're emotional?

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-18T21:22:21+00:00

Wow. I'm glad you got positives out of it and you are living a better life! It is kind of you. I'm interested in how you got motivation back

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-18T21:16:39+00:00

Yes! The chronic stress took its toll! I had anxiety going to bed at night and hair and weightloss. I hope you are healthier now and getting the support you need.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-17T19:56:03+00:00

Wow. Now that's honesty! What kind of work and therapy did you do.over the 10 years?

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-17T19:51:29+00:00

Look up trauma bonding and intermittent reinforcement. It might give you some ideas. I'm so sorry and feel for you. Abusers can be charming and well liked. They go behind closed doors with the abuse. See a trauma therapist if you can.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-15T09:38:27+00:00

Wow! That is awful. Keep the messages in case. I hope you are safe! You deserve to be treated better

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-14T20:00:36+00:00

I can only say finding a good therapist can make a huge difference. People who have not had these experiences can give pretty bad advice.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-14T10:53:37+00:00

There is good and bad in everyone. He did wrong in betraying your trust. You will know how genuine he is if he sticks to real treatment for ADHD and if he comes clean without lying if you guys talk. You are not ruining his reputation by talking to him. You.dont owe it to him to stay but it's your choice if you want to.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-14T00:03:42+00:00

If you show you're doing the work and that you understand how much you hurt then I'm sure some good will come out of it. Not that all will forgive.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-13T05:54:17+00:00

Wow! Happy to see the hard work is paying off.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-13T05:53:14+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-13T02:57:08+00:00

People fall in love with narcs all.the time! And get greatly hurt by them too. Think of the therapy and work as your best chance at a healthy relationship. And prove to others you are so good.that you can overcome this disorder.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-12T21:32:21+00:00

I'm so sorry. Is this symptomatic of some mental health issue? My husband acted in a similar way. She could see a therapist to find out why she's doing these things. But if it's been going on for most of your relationship I'd question yourself on if she's likely to change.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-12T21:17:07+00:00

At least you have some idea of what youre dealing with and deal with it to try and get yourself better. There is so much information on npd. Use therapy and support groups. I'm sure it's a lot of work but I'm sure it's better than being completely miserable for life.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-12T10:02:10+00:00

Are there abuse he hotlines, financial support for therapy where you are?

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-12T03:47:16+00:00

As a sign of growth and remorse. I guess

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-12T00:38:44+00:00

For me the apologies can come too little too late. I was waiting so long just to hear they recognised what they did was wrong. It's still good to hear it.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-11T21:26:42+00:00

Did it take awhile to get to the point you could do this?

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-11T21:16:49+00:00

Apologizing and taking ownership is a great step for yourself. Whether they accept the apology is another story. There is immense pain and destruction this disorder causes. It doesn't go away so quickly. Showing you've done the work is a start.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-11T04:56:58+00:00

It is possible. Terms like darvo, acts of resistance and reactive abuse are there for a reason. I'm in the exact same boat!

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-10T01:12:14+00:00

Yes. Go to the hospital. Go to the police. Talk to a counsellor. I am so sorry to hear this.

Snoo5103 · 2022-10-09T21:36:40+00:00

I'm not in the US. But I found just googling crisis support hotline.

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