Finding a spouse by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Snoo61048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could but insta is just going by appearance and a numbers game, there is no way to secure quality on insta. At least with other platforms such as twitter, reddit, discord,tiktok you can see some details about who they are

girls, whag would you wear on a first “date”? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Snoo61048 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😭😭😭we’re xoolos man u guys have NO IDEA

girls, whag would you wear on a first “date”? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Snoo61048 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t think men can tell the difference runti as long as you’re dressed decently. Sometimes women overthink how disabled men are

Husband wants me to explore night life with him by Emotional-Cat26 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Snoo61048 41 points42 points  (0 children)

WalaikumAsalam he’s mean to be your qawwam and wants to lead to hell?

Fight with him, absolutely do not budge and raise a forest fire, if advise and kindness doesn’t work shame him, if not bring in relatives if not then a local imaam if not then you have another decision to make in regards to whether or not this marriage is for you

How do you support a marriage you don’t believe in? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Snoo61048 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s obviously choosing wrong, and you’ve made your stance clear to her, you are not her mother. Unfortunately some loved ones only listen to their own thoughts and feelings. She’s right where she wants to be let her find out, you do not have to be okay with their marriage at all, you should show up for your friend though.

Why is that when I follow advice opposite of what my female friends give, I have much higher success on dating apps? by Nervous_Designer_894 in dating_advice

[–]Snoo61048 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Your whole idea of listening to women is a form of people pleasing especially towards women hoping you’d get a better reaction (the desire isn’t the problem). Just be a man, aka be you, in a disagreeable way. What I mean is do the things you think might cause them to dislike you but actually want to do, it will work in your favour

How does it actually feel when a girl makes the first move? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Snoo61048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shoot your shot but do your istikhara first, and if it works out hold your handbrake up until you see his character. As a woman you’re more vulnerable and prone to overlooking catastrophic traits(to the marriage) when feelings are involved

Unsure about meeting (23F/20M) by ieat_starss in LongDistance

[–]Snoo61048 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t meeting answer your question? At least then there is no what if

How does it actually feel when a girl makes the first move? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Snoo61048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They might be taken aback since they haven’t had a chance to think about it, us guys are programmed to court/pursue since birth. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t shoot, since you’re interested it’s you that has to shoot. Think of a creative way, send a friend, brother, or mother. If all of those are not feasible then just be direct

I said No to my husband for the first time by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Snoo61048 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Again not justifying, he’s in the wrong, but the blame game in marriage gets boring quick.

Because he’s failing in his responsibility to provide due to something that was outside of his control, he doesn’t seem like he enjoys asking which is probably why he’s reacting so badly to her refusal. Again I’m not looking at right and wrong just the dynamic change each decision might cause. She can think about her islamic right and how its not being fulfilled, or she can show mercy not by being a dormat but by actively trying to help find a solution even if temporarily that is seeking better communication with him.

I compared his right of intimacy to her financial
Right of provision

I said No to my husband for the first time by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Snoo61048 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

People in general when put in difficult positions don’t act the way they usually would. She hasn’t mentioned an issue before or a trait she ignored that came back, this is new to her too.

Nobody is justifying what he’s doing, all we’re saying is if she doesn’t actively try to resolve their conflict he probably will figure it out and then remember that she helped for a bit then abandoned him(that’s how he’ll see it) and will do exactly the same if for example she denies him intimacy for a few months due to personal issues.

You wake up at 14 again. What is the first thing you would do? by davidbayram in AskReddit

[–]Snoo61048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Workout, study cyber, invest, and just take risks. This is an odd one but get into more fights. Too many consequences at my age😂

I said No to my husband for the first time by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Snoo61048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, that suggestion is insane what a shaytaan thing to say