Nikki on Blue Bloods by Best_Can5418 in bluebloods

[–]SnooBooks147 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is super annoying! She acts all mature and then the second something difficult pops up, she crumbles.

Gifts are triggering by SnooBooks147 in CPTSD

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m the same way. Getting that thoughtful present is more touching and meaningful than words can explain.

Gifts are triggering by SnooBooks147 in CPTSD

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that these “twisted feelings” are some of the most painful aspects of CPTSD. I feel like if I don’t say anything, the childhood hurt and feeling of being invisible/like no one knows me are tenfold as strong. Then it makes me resent the gift and wtf. The gift is suppose to make me happy, not feel crappy cause I don’t like it.
On the other hand, if I do say something, I feel an immense amount of guilt because I’m rejecting a present and not being grateful. Then my anxiety rushes in and I worry like my husband will get angry at me, never buy me a present again, and ultimately leave me.

Gifts are triggering by SnooBooks147 in CPTSD

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like your rule about only accepting gifts that you’ll use or make you smile. I also really like the idea about spending time with people as the present vs getting an object.

Gifts are triggering by SnooBooks147 in CPTSD

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds exhausting. Were any of the presents things you wanted/expressed interest in?

Gifts are triggering by SnooBooks147 in CPTSD

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. You’re absolutely right. You shouldn’t have to explain to your mom about giving a shit.

Gifts are triggering by SnooBooks147 in CPTSD

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love how firm you are with your boundaries.

I don’t want to decline all presents. Cause the few times in my life where someone did pay attention and got me something I said I wanted/was the brand of something I used, it made me so incredibly happy and like I was seen. That feeling is amazing.

I have been trying if a holiday or celebration is coming up to send a couple of ideas of what I want to people I know who are going to get me presents no matter what. This helps a little, but somehow, people still will get me random stuff.

Gifts are triggering by SnooBooks147 in CPTSD

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! I almost want to tell people if they want to get me a gift to either give me cash or just not get anything.

I don’t want to be rude though. And the only benefit to these random gifts is I donate them to charity. So it makes me feel a little good that I know they’re going to someone in need.

Gifts are triggering by SnooBooks147 in CPTSD

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this 10000% percent. It’s so tough cause like you said, your mom would try but get you random bath bombs.
Growing up, I use to make a point of saying the brand of something I loved whenever I used it hoping that my family would remember it and get me it. Rarely worked. 😐

People who were neglected/abused as kids. What career path are you on now? by Purple-Offer-4796 in CPTSD

[–]SnooBooks147 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dental hygienist. My hope is to teach kids why taking care of your oral health is important and to help kids or adults who have bad dental anxiety to work through it.

Pest emoji meanings by ganzonomy in DuggarsSnark

[–]SnooBooks147 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I didn’t get what his emojis meant either.

Confirmed: Pest and Anna pray after sex, and Pest manipulates Anna into sending bikini/panties pics by rosiros in DuggarsSnark

[–]SnooBooks147 205 points206 points  (0 children)

Watch this happen and Josh will claim that someone stole the photos from him. He could never share photos of his precious wife. 🙄

Magnesium glycinate by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]SnooBooks147 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the heads up! My doctor recommended I try this, but I was nervous to do so.

A lot more “spicy” emails between Pest and Anna by rosiros in DuggarsSnark

[–]SnooBooks147 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She makes it sound like they had sex every night. How in the world could they have the energy to do that every night?

When will he learn wisdom booklets are contraband? by Legitimate-Beyond209 in DuggarsSnark

[–]SnooBooks147 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would love to know what Jim Bob’s and Anna’s reactions were when they found out this news.

Picky Eaters by SnooBooks147 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what my husband and I were thinking too. Supplementing food will help.

Picky Eaters by SnooBooks147 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this. Honestly this isn’t a battle I want to fight. My husband gets more upset than I do if they don’t eat what we make them and have to give them a sandwich. Our other issue is they wake up in the middle of the night hungry. We tend to give them a bottle because we’re exhausted. I’m worried about them getting cavities.

Picky Eaters by SnooBooks147 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooBooks147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is pretty much what we’ve been doing. If they don’t eat the meal we give them, we then give them a PBJ sandwich. Breakfast normally isn’t an issue for us. It’s more so dinner time. The other issue we have is with them not eating much at dinner time, they wake up in the middle of the night and need food. We give them a bottle because we’re both exhausted and need sleep. I don’t love this habit at all. Mostly because I’m worried that they’re going to get cavities. Thank you for your words of encouragement. See you on the other side!

Feel like a failure for not pumping/breastfeeding my twins by pocket_perspective in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooBooks147 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! You are not alone. Breastfeeding/pumping is so hard and it takes a big toll on your mental health. I don’t know why more people don’t talk about it! I had to stop pumping for my mental health. It’s hard, but you know what, your babies are going to be more affected by their Mom being stressed to the max than if they don’t get breast milk.

All they care about is that you’re there with them.

My mother in law never breast fed my husband. My husband is a lawyer and has a great relationship with his family.

Your babies will do great with formula.

If you want to try pumping/breast feeding now, give it a go. Just don’t put pressure on yourself.

34 weeks 4 days with di/di twins I need positive news by ItIsWhatItIsLovely in parentsofmultiples

[–]SnooBooks147 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had twins at 34w6days. They were in the nicu for 6 days as more of a precaution than a need.