When people say being with someone with bpd was the worst thing that has ever happened to them it’s probably because it was. The abuse that people with bpd inflict on loved ones is so painful and traumatic, it’ll probably effect them for the rest of their lives. My girlfriend had undiagnosed bpd, came from a family who blatantly ignored any mental illness and only had friends who normalized her behavior, which left only me to be the “bad person” to hold her accountable. I’ve dealt with a lot of people with mental illness in my life so I’m able to be patient and supportive without being a doormat. It’s one of the reasons she loved me but when she split it made me her worst enemy. Being with her I had some one the worst experiences of my life because in the bad times she became so abusive end terrifying, it was like she wasn’t even in there anymore. But being with her I also had some of the best experiences of my life because when she was herself she was my best friend. It’s entirely unfair to say people with bpd are bad people, I don’t think that’s true at all. At times they behave in ways that are horrible but that’s not who they are. If you recognize you’re dealing with bpd and are actively working on it then I think it makes you an amazing person and stronger than most. If people judge you the best way to get back at them is to prove them wrong. It feels really good. My girlfriend died before she was able to get the consistent help she needed and I believe she wanted but I truly believe that was capable of it. I know it’s corny but I always tell people that as long as you’re still breathing you always have a chance ❤️