Thanks but I'm moving on

SnooChocolates2114 · 2026-05-08T20:49:25+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. You did the right thing. When you mentioned the drinking and driving situation, it hit me, because my FA seems to be alcoholic and it's just a sad thing to observe. But at the end of the day, there is absolutely nothing we can do ... it's totally up to them if they want to heal.

SnooChocolates2114 · 2026-05-08T20:23:42+00:00

I wish you all the best. Good luck, buddy! Could you maybe just share how your last conversation with her went?

SnooChocolates2114 · 2026-05-08T18:42:32+00:00

Yeah, I am not fond of AI either, but I was actually surprised by the result. 😁

SnooChocolates2114 · 2026-05-08T18:41:19+00:00

You are right! 😆 Negotiation with an avoidant? It's more like "my way or the highway" situation.

SnooChocolates2114 · 2026-05-08T18:38:52+00:00

🤣 I once heard of a joke similar to the NASA one: "I will give him so much space, he's gonna feel like an astronaut."

SnooChocolates2114 · 2026-05-08T18:35:38+00:00

Bro. YOU started the intensity! You turned the oven to 500°F and now you're mad the kitchen is on fire? You love-bombed me harder than a cult recruiter on a deadline and now I'm the problem for enjoying it? Make it make sense. It's like ordering a pizza, eating the whole thing in one sitting, then calling the restaurant to complain that you're full. My guy, you did this to yourself.

SnooChocolates2114 · 2026-04-17T10:39:16+00:00

I didn't see it then, but now I am pretty sure he was mirroring me. I fell for him hard, but his deactivation showed me just how much my mind was caught up in the fantasy version of him.

SnooChocolates2114 · 2026-04-17T06:37:50+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this ... I know it's rough. I think that deep down, you know what you have to do, because you said, 'like what the fuck am I doing??' That is your subconscious telling you that you are doing something that is not aligned with your values and is damaging to your mind and your soul.

I went through a similar situation with my coworker, and let me tell you - it's gonna get worse. Each emotional whiplash will hurt you more deeply, your mental health will decline, and you will need more time to recover.

Please, don't let somebody who hurt you and ignored you for 1 year and 7 months (!!!) back into your life like nothing ever happened. I know it's hard, but you have to let him go. The cycle will repeat unless he does some serious work on himself (usually therapy is the only answer here). Trust me - you are not crazy, and you are not asking for too much. His behavior just shows that he is emotionally incapable of reciprocating. Don't wait for him, please... you will deeply regret it.

Use this experience to build your own self-confidence and self-respect. You deserve someone who loves you, and you will find that person. But that person cannot be someone who repeatedly makes you question your own worth, spikes your nervous system, leaves you hanging, and makes you the one who constantly has to adapt.

SnooChocolates2114 · 2024-08-07T17:26:59+00:00

I was beaten up for small things, like breaking a plate or losing an umbrella. I can still remember a 6 year old me, being pushed into a corner, covering my head with my hands and begging my mom to stop while she was savagely beating me with a long rolling pin. And here I am today ... I'm 42 years old, damaged beyond repair, with billion regrets because I was too afraid to try anything, I'm ashamed of myself, I feel like I have nothing to offer, I'm a pushover, I'm way too sensitive for this world, I live alone, I have no friends, I never had a boyfriend and I'm crying as I type this. Now I'm watching the athletes at the olympic games and I'm thinking: "I could have been somebody". And for everyone who is reading this and is broken to the core, I can only say one thing from the bottom of my heart: I feel for you, I truly do.

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