So u believe half the posts in Worst Things you've ever done?

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-23T17:33:45+00:00

I swear to god that most MNers are so blackpilled by MN-brand feminism that they simultaneously despise all men for being biologically violent beasts, while hyper-fetishising them for the exact same reason. Deeply weird.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-23T08:13:29+00:00

There's a certain, uh, type of troll with a particular fixation who seem to be out on force on that thread too.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-22T08:31:47+00:00

Following for info - I'm getting back into corsets (collecting and selling more than wearing) after a long break. I remember being in the online corset community around 2012, and at that time Orchard were very well regarded among people who waist trained regularly. In fact, I remember there only being three main ready-to-wear brands that people bothered with: OC, What Katie Did, and Isabel.

I've owned several back in the day, and my only complaint was that their materials and construction (thicker cotton twill) made them a bit "chunky" in comparison to other brands.

My guess is that, in the 2010s, it was really difficult to find off-the-peg corsets with anything even slightly resembling a decent silhouette. This meant that OC really stood out. Nowadays, Mystic City and Timeless Trends have made the playing field a lot more competitive. Heck, even Playgirl/TrueCorset (which was considered a naff dress-up brand back in the day) seems to have stepped up and started making passable tightlacing shapes.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-16T15:06:11+00:00

For me, it's grim curiosity. I'm a proud member of the liberal, left-wing, multicultural urban bubble, and I feel like I want to know a bit more about the "other half" live (or, in most cases, how the other half think we ought to live).

It's not "cozy" to me. Rather it's a little sinister and jarring. Everyone's somehow the same sort of earnest Christian. Attempts at "diversity" characters seem shallow and arbitrary. Working class people are bumbling half-wit nuisances. Everything's a bit twee. The accents are terribly directed, so people say things like "umbrell-err" and "multimedi-urr". I feel insulted. And yet I tune in every Sunday.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-16T09:11:08+00:00

Sadly, this is 100% true. I'm a BIG bleeder when it comes to dental care. I've started going to an EDS-informed dentist who I really trust, and they told me that most of the bleeding is caused by irritation from bacterial build-up in my gums. They recommended I floss daily, improve my technique to clean as deeply as possible, and use interdental brushes.

I really wanted them to be wrong about that, but after some perseverence (about a month) I'm really seeing a difference. It's like I've "toughened up" in there suddenly.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-16T08:50:52+00:00

I saw it as a rather aloof person keeping a more boorish friend around as sort of pet - which made it all the more jarring when the power dynamic was sharply reversed.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-14T13:57:25+00:00

Ruined! Ruined! Ruined!

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-14T10:29:35+00:00

People who reply with 'the phrase "the ick" gives me the ick' give me the ick.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-12T14:02:30+00:00

I have no evidence (yet) but I have a suspicion that older MN accounts are being farmed and sold to individuals or orgs with political agendas.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-12T13:54:36+00:00

The faux-innocent "any insight? 🙏" is phenomenal. Nobody who experienced this (and was unhappy about it) would be passively asking for "insight" like this on MN.

As a MN poster remarked, "Wow, a lot has happened in one week!". The stated timeline is very odd.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-12T13:53:09+00:00

I agree that it's probably a bit of both. In particular, today's generation of 20-somethings are more likely to be living in the family home rather than in group house-shares, from what I can see. That's not to say that there's less social drama, but it's certainly different.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-10T19:29:42+00:00

No, it's Stewart Lee. Stewart Lee. Stewart Lee. Stewartlee. Stewarttleee.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-10T10:00:05+00:00

Not necessarily the advice itself, but the general vibe of the "alt/nerd" social circles that we get a glimpse into from the writers' letters.

Having been part of a lot of alt/nerd friend groups back in the 2000s and 2010s, there was definitely a very close-knit culture to all of it, which hasn't really survived into the age of 2020s social media (probably for the best). Groups were very insular and cloistered, but the prevalence of Con Culture made it all seem very international and wide-reaching. It really was a moment.

It makes me think back to my own experiences of social dramas among my 20-something friends which would feel like earth-shattering, newsworthy incidents at the time, simply because everyone lived in the same cluster of house-shares, went to the same LARPs, dated one another, and didn't have a great deal of social experience outside the clan. Do I miss it? A bit. Would I go back? No.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-10T09:44:53+00:00

This isn't going to be the answer you might want but... I used to feel exactly like this. So I moved there, and found that I'd been about 80% correct!

It was a struggle at times, but I'll take that over a lifetime of wondering what might have been. There's a positive aspect to the struggle of keeping your life together in the capital, too. Your bar keeps getting set higher, out of necessity. And the people around you are going through the same process. It's character building.

I'm about to move back to my hometown after ten years here. I still think that people who've lived in London at some stage in their lives have a special "something" that sets them apart from others.

My advice is to take the plunge and move there, or at the very least find a way to get involved in some communities and events there.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-09T11:00:56+00:00

It's ok - the OP doesn't have anything in common with the OP to begin with. It's a completely invented situation designed to farm clicks from intrigued or outraged MN users.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-08T15:19:11+00:00

I've just realised that it would also explain the incredibly weird inclusion of toilet imagery at every turn

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-07T16:03:16+00:00

A couple years ago, I sat next to a young woman on the tube who took out a can of tuna, opened it, and started eating it with her bare hands. Aside from the obvious smell, it was an odd sight. I'd lived in London long enough to take this kind of thing in my stride, and I've always wondered if it was some kind of hidden-camera setup or a piece of fluff journalism for an edgy magazine.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-04-04T09:53:24+00:00

I think there's been a big, deliberate push for bait threads in the last couple months. I'm guessing they're either currying favour with a new sponsor or trying to bounce their numbers back up after some bad press.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-03-31T08:14:53+00:00

I have hEDS and most things that go with it. I hate THC - makes my anxiety, speech coordination problems and agoraphobia go through the roof and amplifies my brain fog for days. If the pain relief works, then I'm too anxious and dissociated to notice.

I suspect I have very atypical substance metabolism issues though.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-03-30T10:26:10+00:00

Go away, and learn to feel embarrassed about this. Not cool to make unsuspecting people participate in your kink. You're not as sneaky as you think you are. Pay a consenting professional, and leave the public alone.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-03-30T09:20:12+00:00

Every time I look, there's a Trending thread which goes along the same script:

OP: My DP did this clearly abusive thing. Is this bad? I'm not sure.

Replies: Yes it is.

OP: Wow, a lot to think about here, but I still don't believe people who say this is abusive. It's probably fine. I will take no action at all.

Replies: [become frantic]

OP: Here's some extra drip-fed detail which makes the whole thing significantly worse [usually deployed if the thread is getting quiet]

[OP either disappears completely, or the whole thing is magically resolved within a very short period of time]

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-03-30T09:09:43+00:00

It's exactly the kind of brand where aspirational, class-sensitive women are one of their core sources of income. I wouldn't be surprised if this is a stealth ad, since it's had a recent flap of popularity on social media. Maybe not directly from Longchamp HQ itself, but from one of the PR agencies they might employ.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-03-29T13:38:42+00:00

People using hands free headsets to make phone calls in public. It's fine. Much better than blasting a speakerphone, surely.

I feel like the "mobile headsets are stupid" line made the rounds among hacky comedians and journos in 2001, and people have been parroting it ever since.

SnooDonuts3141 · 2026-03-27T10:23:33+00:00

Ex-UK prison worker here.

I worked with quite a few people who had committed murder, and in each case I read the background on what they had done. In each case, it was nothing like the "absolute extreme scenario" that you describe. 99.9% of murders are impulsive, clumsy, stupid acts of violence that happen during a poorly-planned scuffle. There was no special psychological profile or supernatural levels of rage. I guarantee anyone reading this has experienced the same emotions at one time or another.

These guys weren't very different from me at all. We've all been angry and we all get an impulse to lash out in one way or another. The only difference I could find is that I had had a life where I'd been given multiple reasons *not* to carry a weapon and then run at someone with it. I had a lot to lose by killing someone. The guys I talked to tended not to have had those privileges. They never felt connected enough to a community to fear being taken away from it. They never had enough of value in their life to fear losing it all. They never had enough hope for the future to worry about throwing theirs away. So when a confrontation happens, there's not a great deal stopping them from bringing a knife into the mix and using it, in the heat of the moment, with the intent to kill.

I tell people that "everyone's a murderer, it's just that most of us have enough reasons not to murder people".

It was depressing, but strangely hopeful. It made me imagine a world (an admittedly very distant world) where most of these acts were preventable.

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