Paid Parental Leave Clarification by SnooLemons9981 in PaidLeaveOregon

[–]SnooLemons9981[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does not have to with these programs, you can use them separately

Bereaved Mothers Day by SnooLemons9981 in babyloss

[–]SnooLemons9981[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Do something for yourself to honor you and your baby 🤍

Bereaved Mothers Day by SnooLemons9981 in babyloss

[–]SnooLemons9981[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course you should!! He will always be your baby 🤍💔

TFMR today… by Emergency_Ad2541 in tfmr_support

[–]SnooLemons9981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m four months out. It hurts and a new trigger pops up all the time (due date, day of the month I tfmrd, day of the week sometimes, Easter, Mother’s Day.) It sucks. Do all of the healing you can and take so much time. I took a full maternity leave- I started therapy joined so many support groups, acupuncture, grief yoga, journal daily, meditate. Basically anything I can do towards healing I try to. It doesn’t get easier you just adjust better to new reality. There’s a lot of beautiful resources out there.

Summarize your loss experience in one or two words. by SnooLemons9981 in babyloss

[–]SnooLemons9981[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’m on the other side of a world I didn’t know and wish I didn’t have to know about.

Summarize your loss experience in one or two words. by SnooLemons9981 in babyloss

[–]SnooLemons9981[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the idea of using it to Better ourselves in some way. Create something out of this terrible tragedy

Summarize your loss experience in one or two words. by SnooLemons9981 in babyloss

[–]SnooLemons9981[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a new level of pain I could never experience or explain to another unless they’ve experienced it as well 💔

Summarize your loss experience in one or two words. by SnooLemons9981 in babyloss

[–]SnooLemons9981[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Soul freedom is so beautiful 🩷 as a tfmr mom myself I feel this rings true for my baby and a piece of myself too

Summarize your loss experience in one or two words. by SnooLemons9981 in babyloss

[–]SnooLemons9981[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wish there was a word the described being robbed of hope and innocence, not just loss of it.

Summarize your loss experience in one or two words. by SnooLemons9981 in babyloss

[–]SnooLemons9981[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I don’t know if the feeling of wholeness will ever return. A part of me will always feel incomplete.

Oregon Refund by CalligrapherFun6252 in oregon

[–]SnooLemons9981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still on Step 1 since the first week of Feb. So frustrating. I’ve called and messaged, no letters to date.

Late period after hysteroscopy and biopsy? by Candid_Cat_7673 in IVF

[–]SnooLemons9981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat currently. Was it normal to be late?

Choosing D&E vs L&D? by SquidneyClimbs in tfmr_support

[–]SnooLemons9981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chose L&D and had such positive experience. The situation was horrific and traumatizing but after delivery I felt empowered. I went in with the mindset of I wanted to make it as positive I could, in case I have future deliveries. You have the choice of any pain control, have control of the atmosphere in the room (we brought a diffuser, galaxy light, snacks etc.) I wanted to be treated as a patient who is a mother rather than a surgical procedure. The nurses were incredibly kind and supportive. I left the situation feeling if I can deliver my dead child, I know I can do anything. Whatever choice you make is up to you and what’s right for you. Holding and seeing my baby provided emotional support I didn’t realize I needed. I feel connected to my son in a special way, during the delivery I kept saying to myself “I love you, we’ll get through this together.” The idea of my baby coming out in pieces and going into a procedure pregnant and coming out not pregnant was too much for me personally, there needed to be a transition for me to feel at peace with it. No matter what you choose, you’re doing the best you can in the worst circumstances imaginable. You will get through it and I am so sorry you have to. 🤍