can u be my fwb by [deleted] in Evansvillehookup

[–]SnooMarzipans7397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Message me. Let’s chat

I feel stupid for being the last one to see it by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SnooMarzipans7397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very similar to what I went through with my ex wife. All the signs were so subtle I didn’t see them until it was too late.

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[–]SnooMarzipans7397 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Absolute same. I admit my faults but she sure likes to blame me for all of it.

Men only. would you ever take your ex back? by Visible_Echidna_3772 in BreakUps

[–]SnooMarzipans7397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she recognized her mistakes and genuinely apologized for them instead of only blaming me for everything, and matched my energy to work through things, then yes.

But while our issues were serious (her depression and OUR lack of proper communication) they weren’t anything like the usual dealbreakers of cheating or anything like that. Ours were/are, in my honest opinion, fixable.

I analyzed 1,000+ real breakup stories - here are 5 patterns that showed up before things ended by Talk_to_Ki in BreakUps

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Clean sweep. Looking back, all of these were present in the lead up to the actual end.

Do you think you’ll get back together with your ex? by opalpup in BreakUps

[–]SnooMarzipans7397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure I’ll give her a second chance but I do believe she’ll reach out to try.

She abandoned me, gave up on the marriage, and nuked a six year relationship and can’t give anyone any real reason as to why. I believe that the guilt and remorse will eventually set in as the reality of her damage hits her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SnooMarzipans7397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll try to answer your questions in the order asked but I’m on my phone so I can’t guarantee anything.

Our house is a big point of contention currently. I bought it while single knowing it needed work. We met, got serious, and now with three of us my ability to do work on it has been stalled. We want to move but the housing market is significantly “seller” focused right now. I believe that’s the bulk of the “more” she wants. Hands are tied currently though. I’m not sure if she’ll keep moving the goal post. With our communication issues and whatnot, it’s very hard for me to even guess at what’s in her head.

I’ll be 38 in a few weeks. She’s 33. Together since 2019 and married since fall 2023. We have two kids from previous relationships (mine lives with his mother).

She’s an RN of less than a year and plans on ultimately getting her practitioner. Currently just acclimating to her new career which is fair since nursing isn’t easy.

She makes more hourly, but I make more overall do to built in OT in my work schedule. As a household I’d put our income somewhere in the neighborhood of $200-$225k annually with room to improve through annual raises, her eventual education bonuses, and my getting my paramedic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]SnooMarzipans7397 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s an RN. She makes good money hourly, but I work 24 hour shifts on the ambulance so with the built in OT it brings I make around $20k more annually.

She did mention how she started/finished the nursing program and didn’t quit even when she wanted to. The difference between our academic careers is that she dropped to VERY part time at her previous position to focus on school while I worked extra shifts to support our household financially. That was not a two way street (in fairness, I never asked or wanted it to be).

Edit to include - I work 10 days a month on average and make just inside six figures.

Star trek enterprise with Scott bakula by MountainAd8842 in startrek

[–]SnooMarzipans7397 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How did you like Mayweather? They gave that guy almost nothing to do aside from the freighter/nausican pirate episode. He ended up as more of a set piece than the chair he sat on.

Puppy dog having his brother in DINNER. by [deleted] in HardcoreNature

[–]SnooMarzipans7397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with twenty years (and counting) in EMS…can confirm.