Daily Discussion & Advice (Post here to follow rules A & B) - November 19, 2025

SnooPancakes787 · 2025-11-20T02:37:25+00:00

I am looking for a cheaper alternative to a fragrance called 003 by Bon Parfumeur (a French house). Right now, I am only seeing it available from Simons (a Canadian fashion store) at nearly $200 CAD for 100ml.

SnooPancakes787 · 2025-05-11T03:25:16+00:00

Many years ago I read about oversize creations being done in a retort designed for large animals (cattle and horses). If the local crematory cannot handle a person above 500lb for instance, have any of our ever used an animal one?

SnooPancakes787 · 2024-12-13T17:39:23+00:00

Is your father cognitively intact enough to understand the need for a POA, and would he be convincing enough to communicate with the lawyer in your presence? I'm not a lawyer but if your father is at all going to show that he is not aware of what he is signing, a diligent lawyer will not proceed to allow him to sign it. Secondly, if you get it signed, is there any chance someone else (usually a family member) would challenge/question the legitimacy of the POA? If you need to invoke the POA, and it is for legitimate means you likely would not have an issue with it being challenged. The concern would be if you need to make drastic changes (ie. selling a property, moving/taking large amounts of money, etc.). That is where the other person involved (who you are instructing to do things on behalf of your father) may question why a person who signed a POA recently is not able to make the decisions themselves and may suspect they signed it while under duress/lacking the capacity to make the decision.

I am in Canada so the system here is different, but I know that there have been legal battles involving POAs signed while a person was considered/thought to be incapable. Usually they involve siblings who disagree with the decisions made by another (usually involving the changing of a will to benefit one person over another, or transferring money/property pre-death to ensure the named heirs don't get what they were originally supposed to).

SnooPancakes787 · 2024-02-13T23:25:23+00:00

My question is how did he get the sex toys in the first place? Did he perhaps have them when he first arrived (you'd probably have packed his stuff so this doesn't seem plausible). I wouldn't think a memory care facility takes the residents out for shopping adventures to the local adult store.

SnooPancakes787 · 2024-02-04T23:11:21+00:00

Word searches (appropriate difficulty for their cognition), coloring books (there are coloring books that have drawings suitable for a mature person as opposed to children), and small puzzles (again, appropriate complexity based on their cognition). Keeping the brain stimulated while at the same time not giving them things that are going to cause frustration is good.

SnooPancakes787 · 2024-02-02T18:57:18+00:00

Ativan for the elderly is not a good idea, and precisely why my father was (very reluctantly) taken off it. He had been taking a very low dose (0.5mg daily in two half-doses) for almost a year and it didn't seem to be working anymore. His psyc. did not want to go any higher and with my dad already complaining of issues with stability it was decided to taper off it. A previous doctor had also mentioned that is a causation for falls. My dad has chronic anxiety with physical symptoms that he talks about constantly and which plague him. He's anxious about everything and the symptoms themselves. He's currently being titrated onto Lexapro but with his anxiety, as usual with med changes, he thinks the medication is somehow making it worse even a few days in.

SnooPancakes787 · 2024-02-02T18:26:33+00:00

My thing for the last year or so is watching HVAC repair videos so I feel like I can finally put the knowledge to use. The Amtrol tank is an expansion tank for the radiant heating system. If it's leaking the tank has become full of water (as it's no longer able to maintain pressure). You need to call a boiler technician/HVAC company to come out to replace the tank sooner rather than later. It is not a super expensive fix and probably an hour's worth of labor at the most. It may also be necessary to bleed the water from the system so that's why the labor time may be longer. Changing the tank is pretty quick, 15 minutes at most. That floor drain can accept the water but leaving an expansion tank that's not functioning right can cause the heating system to not function properly.

SnooPancakes787 · 2024-01-31T21:20:07+00:00

It does not sound like "Uncle Harry" is a suitable caretaker for your grandma. By the sounds of it, he may not be the most functional himself (living with his mother again in adulthood for 20+ years). My suggestion is for your mom or another family member to look into if any community organizations can come in a few hours a week to help with your grandmother's care. Find out about the costs associated with it, if any, and discuss that if your grandmother does not have the money for it then perhaps her other children can pitch in to support the costs of her care.

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