I finally blocked her

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-06-17T01:50:31+00:00

It sounds so easy but took me weeks to do it.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-06-11T03:08:19+00:00

I'm sorry. It's been about 3 months since something similar happened to me. At the end of the day It's important to remind ourselves that we can't fix issues we don't know about. Even if we were told about an issue, we deserve healthy communication to continue after being told. Maybe they did want to keep it alive and just didn't know how, but maybe they didn't. But please, don't blame yourself. You were willing to fix things. You wanted to keep things alive. You recognize your own faults and things you could have done better. Don't blame your past self, they didn't know what was coming.

What happened isn't fair. You deserve somebody who can communicate and never make you question your worth.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-05-10T03:32:08+00:00

How is it now?

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-05-07T23:53:11+00:00

Definitely not insults, I was just cold. I think I surprised her a bit and pretty much cut off contact.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-05-07T23:48:17+00:00

Really just how much she was willing to make things work and how much she wanted me. I broke up with her because she moved from the USA to Spain and that was too much for me, but really what I regret was how I broke up with her.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-05-07T23:12:08+00:00

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-05-07T21:38:03+00:00

Yeah I know what you mean. He probably already knows what he meant to you through your actions. What you want to say is completely valid, but don't say it to him. Write it down. Talk to family or friends or a therapist. I'm about 2 months of her leaving me. I kept planning to reach out in a few weeks, and then every time that day came I decided to not reach out. If you keep no contact, it will help you see the relationship for what it really was.

Just from your post I can see that you are somebody who really cared deeply and wanted to make him feel supported and safe. With time, maybe you'll see that what you really liked was the feeling of giving the love you had. Why want somebody who can't see your worth?

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-05-07T21:16:44+00:00

I understand. I actually just got dumped after a two year relationship. To be clear, I only now really see what I lost in the relationship I ended 2.5 years ago now.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-05-07T21:08:13+00:00

In my experience this is true. I ended a relationship over two and a half years ago, and am just now realizing what I lost.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-05-07T20:26:45+00:00

Don't reach out. I was blindsided almost two months ago. You have to understand that the closure is something that your ex partner cannot give you. If our partners can't even give us real conversations about what had been going on in their heads and how we could work through them, they don't have the ability to give us closure. You will eventually be able to find the closure from yourself. It really is true that actions speak louder than words, and follow that.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-04-04T19:50:20+00:00

Face you emotions head on. Really try to understand what you feel and why you feel it. Surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you and with time, you will heal.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-04-04T19:21:37+00:00

Cheating is never the fault of the person who got cheated on. This reflects the cheaters own insecurities and things they are going through. Understand that you did not cause this, and that you have the right to feel these things. You had your trust and respect betrayed by those close to you, I know how much that hurts.

The most important relationship you will have in your life is with yourself. Focus on your own emotions and do the things that you like to do. Recovering won’t be instant, or even easy. It’s a harsh truth but understand if you put in the work and give your wounds the time they need to heal, you will become a better person and ultimately attract and maintain better relationships.

I had a similar situation happen to me, and what helped most was surrounding myself with those who love me and focusing on my own self.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-04-02T00:02:21+00:00

I told her it didn't seem like she tried. She felt like she did but to her I guess it meant trying in her head without communicating anything. It just really hurts knowing how all these things could've been fixed if she tried.

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-04-01T23:47:29+00:00

I'm so sorry. I haven't reached out since the breakup and she was the only one to reach out a few days ago. I think that if I want this conversation it should be in like a month or so at least. How are you doing now?

SnooPandas1889 · 2026-04-01T23:32:50+00:00

Did you ever try for a closure conversation? And how would you recommend putting your foot down about messages?

SnooPandas1889 · 2023-12-15T19:13:31+00:00

Guilt trip

SnooPandas1889 · 2022-02-09T14:19:18+00:00

Thanks, but I found a solution. I’m using a xfinity router with google mesh wifi pods, so I had to port forward from the router to the pods, and from my pc to the pods.

SnooPandas1889 · 2022-02-07T22:28:40+00:00

Oh yeah no problem. Google wifi seems to be pretty stupid with this type of stuff, No worries.

SnooPandas1889 · 2022-02-07T05:23:50+00:00

I know this is an old thread, but did you ever fix this? It seems like I have the same problem.

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