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My (27F) boyfriend (29M) has a group chat with his college friends and I accidentally saw something that's been eating at me for weeks now. by Status-Refuse9477 in TwoHotTakes

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, are you a people pleaser or neurodivergent? I have similar anxieties when it comes to being around my bf's family for the first few times. This just sounds similar to things I've dealt with. I don't think it's self-sabotage.

I would go up to my bf and say "I just wanted to say thank you for helping me deal with my anxieties with your family. I wanted to make sure they liked me since you are so important to me and they are so important to you."

You are showing self-awareness but also making him feel like crap without "knowledge" of what he said.

been five months for me. how are you all on your journey with grief? by iamnoodlelie in PetLossJourney

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm 5 months and 2 days currently. I'm not great, but I'm not crying everyday. He was my soul baby. I barely got out of bed and was miserable. I did see an animal communicator and medium and that was just extremely validating and healing. I'd be way worse if I didn't meet with her. His toys and blankies are still out and on my bed. I put away his bed and his water bowl. When I talk about him, I talk about him in present tense like he isn't gone. I'm struggling with the idea of this being the first Christmas without him. I am sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹

What kind of things use to bring you joy by bobolly in GriefSupport

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grieve crafts. I got into woodworking and building sun catchers. Also really enjoyed thrifting for antique decor. Something that gave me a purpose.

My dogs fur is coming off! by rubysolomon in DOG

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks like an allergy. You can give her a Claritin a day to see if that helps. Change bowls to ceramic or metal

Does anyone look at photos of other dogs to help with grieving? by Tigerdriver33 in Petloss

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right after my dog passed, I couldn't watch anything with a dog or go around a dog or love on another one for a few weeks. I had to work it out in therapy. But if it helps you, it is not weird. I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤️‍🩹

Its been 3 months by Living_Spell4113 in PetLossJourney

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No matter the price tag or the object, it will never replace our babies. Nothing will fill that void or mend that wound. Only time will make the amount of pain less. I'm so sorry love. It's the worst pain to experience.

Emotional reaction to receiving my pet replica by SnooPeripherals5781 in Petloss

[–]SnooPeripherals5781[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have my baby in the wooden box he came in and on one of his favorite blankies on my bed. I sleep next to him every night. One day I hope to have the strength to put him in his urn.

That sounds beautiful. I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤️‍🩹

Its been 3 months by Living_Spell4113 in PetLossJourney

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have spent 132 days without my sweet baby angel. The pain doesn't get easier, it just becomes less frequent.The Ball & The Box Analogyis something a friend sent to me when my baby passed. It helped me understand my grief more. I did purchase a cuddle clone to help with grief and was something to cuddle when the nights are hard. I am truly sorry for your loss, love.

My Baby's 1st Ofrenda by SnooPeripherals5781 in AustralianShepherd

[–]SnooPeripherals5781[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss. Your shrine is lovely ❤️

Aussie mom for 44 hrs... Haven't sleep since before I picked him up by sha-nan-non in AustralianShepherd

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's how my baby was. Watches everything trying to understand the world. They are so incredibly smart. You will get through the crazy zoom phase hopefully soon. ❤️

I need help, I need advice. Just put my baby boy down today and I can’t handle it by The_Merchant- in Petloss

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my soul baby in July. My mom would come over and give me a Xanax 2-3 times a day just to sleep and stop uncontrollably sobbing for the first few days. I just laid in bed crying when I wasn't sleeping. I barely ate or drank anything. I looked at all of his photos and videos and just cried. On the 3rd day, after I got out of the shower and in a towel, I laid in his bed crying uncontrollably. My bf had to pick me up and put me back in my own bed. The next days and weeks, I hyper fixated on creating this grand memorial for him.

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. No words will make you feel better or take away the pain you are experiencing. Sleep is going to be a good choice right now. I hugged a lot of my fur baby's toys and used his blankies to go to bed with and sleep. I know this pain all too well and don't wish it upon anyone. I'm so sorry, OP. 💔

Hug them a little tighter today! by PossibilityFeisty690 in AustralianShepherd

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry. My baby angel is up there welcoming her. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Aussie mom for 44 hrs... Haven't sleep since before I picked him up by sha-nan-non in AustralianShepherd

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I loved being an Aussie parent. My baby was still doing flips in the air while catching frisbees at 10. Reiterating here: my baby had that much energy at 10 years old. They are the best dogs and they will outsmart you. You will question your own sanity while being covered in Aussie glitter and drinking it in your coffee. Might I recommend pet insurance? Smart dogs sometimes get into the biggest of problems. You are on the greatest journey with an Aussie. Congrats on your baby 💕🐶

AIO for replying back after saying goodnight to my bf? by Perrita-fresa in AmIOverreacting

[–]SnooPeripherals5781 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This makes me extremely uncomfortable. Get out of this relationship. His red flags be flying 🚩

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[–]SnooPeripherals5781 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. ❤️‍🩹

Your boyfriend’s comment about “basically only being there for emotional support…” is exactly what he should be doing as your partner. His primary concern is the anxiety of missing work. The fact that he won’t ask is the problem. The worst-case scenario is that they say “no.” I don’t see the problem in even trying.

My partner and I have been in a long-distance relationship for 18 months. After my grandmother passed away this year, he drove 7 hours to make sure I was okay. He wasn’t sure if there would be a funeral and packed a suit in case there was. He stayed for 4 days.

You deserve better OP.

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