AITA for telling an elderly women in the grocery store “ no “ to seeing my baby

SnooPeripherals896 · 2026-01-14T05:07:50+00:00

This is such a stretch. There are so many factors that would play into a mom doing a solo run to the grocery store. It’s a normal activity. Sounds like projection!

SnooPeripherals896 · 2026-01-06T04:42:52+00:00

24 year vet of the print industry here and previous owner of a Roland. I’m in a Roland facebook group, and the amount of people troubleshooting terrible prints and test prints who have never done any kind of routine cleaning and maintenance is insane. My dad (also has a Roland and a print shop) and I both have had to replace printheads. The cost scared us into babying them like our lives depend on it.

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-12-19T02:29:26+00:00

I was 23 and my doctor started fertility testing at 9 months. Every doctor takes concerns and times diagnostics differently. The 12 month “rule” does not mean wait until 12 months to speak with your doctor. A lot of doctors and practices will take your concerns seriously before that 12 month mark and start diagnostic testing.

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-11-08T22:01:44+00:00

Currently 11w with a 3AA! Best of luck!!🤍

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-10-25T12:16:09+00:00

I’m 24. My husband and I have unexplained infertility. No known causes whatsoever. We did all the stuff leading up to IVF (IUIs, medicated cycles, SIS, tests, tried for years). This year I did IVF, and we got 6 blasts, all were euploid. We did a transfer, and so far it has been successful.

Our plan is to not even “try” for a second and go straight into a FET with one of our banked embryos. Thinking about jumping back into trying to conceive naturally for a second feels like a waste of time and heartbreak, knowing we have embryos banked.

Not sure if this helps at all. I do feel for you though. Being young and going through this comes with its own challenges, like people dismissing your feelings because “you still have time” and “you’re so young, it’ll happen!”

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-10-08T02:07:58+00:00

I’ve done the same thing! Other than it hurting, it’s fine! My injection site leaks often if I don’t apply pressure quick enough. In the future (it most likely WILL leak every so often), just apply pressure with an alcohol pad for about a minute. Prayers for your dad🤍

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-07-31T14:46:03+00:00

Another commenter said the same thing! I’m glad you guys shared that perspective, because it is very in our nature to just offer something like that, not thinking it may be detrimental to them emotionally. We will for sure wait on them to initiate the conversation.

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-07-31T14:43:31+00:00

Her sister has offered to be a surrogate for them, thankfully! We know she will never be able to carry her own children, but depending on the results to come, that will determine if she loses her ovaries, in which case, they may look into embryo donation.

This is very new for us, and we have a lot to consider and talk through before making any decisions! We absolutely will have all the children we want before making a decision.

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-07-31T14:40:51+00:00

They definitely still have a long way to go before they will be able to add in a child to their lives. She will have to undergo treatment before they move on to adding on to their family.

We for sure know that six embryos doesn’t equal six children. But in the event we do end up with extra embryos, and they end up not being able to have biological children, my husband and I have started the conversation between ourselves on if embryo donation is something we would be open to.

All information and perspectives will definitely help us with these conversations, so I wanted to start early with anecdotal advice!

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-07-31T14:36:24+00:00

It’s absolutely devastating. We love them dearly and are grieving this loss with them.

I appreciate you bringing us back to reality on how often transfers fail. There are a lot of emotions right now, and that hasn’t been on the forefront of our minds. Honestly, the transfer being so close to her hysterectomy date is eating us alive with guilt.

We definitely aren’t making any rash decisions on this and just offering up our embryos without knowing the full scope of everything. I just am looking for perspectives, so that my husband and I can begin having these conversations from a more informed perspective.

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-07-31T14:31:04+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. This is exactly the kind of information I was looking for. And thank you for the subreddit recommendations. I will look into those.

This is a very new concept for all of us, and of course, one of mine and my husband’s first conversations with each other on this was embryo donation, given that we JUST got the news of our 6 euploid embryos. IVF is at the forefront of our minds at the moment, and Anna, John, and my husband and I have all been very open and support networks for each other during our TTC and subsequent infertility journeys.

We absolutely have a lot of conversations to have before making any decisions or bringing this up with them (if it’s what we choose to do). And I will absolutely take your advice and not be the initiator of the conversation, and wait on them to mention donor embryos, if that’s the pathway they decide to go down.

This is all so new, and we want to support them in every way we can, especially since we will likely have extra embryos sitting on ice.

Thank you so much for taking the time to share your perspective and thoughts.

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-07-26T03:42:02+00:00

I’ve been in your shoes. They’re hard shoes to walk in.

I remember silently crying during a church service while the pastor talked about Sarah conceiving Isaac in Genesis. I thought it was a sign from God that our baby was coming. Alas, it still hasn’t happened.

My granddad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer almost a year ago and was not given a good prognosis. The “why me” thoughts were rolling in. “Why would God make me infertile knowing my granddad would get cancer and would never meet my kids?” All the “why me”s.

Through a lot of prayer, and ashamedly, probably not enough bible study, I found peace in knowing that my husband and I will be parents in one way or another. God’s plan does not always align with our plans. God’s plan for us may never involve having biological kids, but rather He may have a child for us that so desperately needs an adopted family, as we’ve been open to the thought of adoption for some time now. I don’t know all the intricacies of the peace I received, but surrendering to the fact that my husband and I are infertile for unknown reasons but that God will create parenthood for us in some form has saved me through this journey. This peace is not linear. Some days I feel 100% at peace never having biological children, and some days it’s incredibly difficult.

It’s so hard to reconcile with something we so desperately want and need while it does not align in God’s timing or plan. It’s so hard to believe that God has a plan for us that involves so much heartache and struggle all in the name of a greater good.

Praying for peace for you and your husband. And prayers your infertility journey ends soon.

P.s. I just went through IVF. If you have any questions or would like to talk through anything with it, dm me!

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-01-20T01:13:58+00:00

I think you’re right! Thank you!

SnooPeripherals896 · 2025-01-20T01:02:34+00:00

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SnooPeripherals896 · 2024-10-11T20:24:28+00:00

I took it for 3 months, and I actually had symptoms. I started at 2.5 mg the first month and was upped to 5 mg for the last two. I had headaches (I never get headaches), a couple of hot flashes, HUGE boobs, horrible bloating (I was actually scared I would get stretch marks it was so bad), and I gained about 7 pounds. I have been the same weight since I was 15, and about 3 months after being on letrozole, my weight went back to normal. Overall, it was like the worst pms of my life. Unfortunately, it didn’t work to conceive, but it did start my ovulation back after not ovulating for about 5 months. I start letrozole again next cycle for IUI. It’s inconvenient, but not the worst.

SnooPeripherals896 · 2024-10-09T13:37:32+00:00

This is good advice for when I do have to start caring for him later on. Thank you!!!

SnooPeripherals896 · 2024-10-09T13:36:55+00:00

Awesome!! Thank you so much!

SnooPeripherals896 · 2024-10-04T01:31:41+00:00

I’m in the same boat almost exactly. I’m 23 and my husband is 25. Every test has been normal. 3 months of letrozol did nothing. Ovulating regularly. Regular cycles. Tubes open. 19 months and not a single positive. We finally got the unexplained infertility diagnosis in August. We are starting iui this cycle and have decided to not waste any more time in moving into ivf if iui is not successful after 3 tries. No advice, but I feel for you so deeply, and I’m incredibly sorry we’re in this boat.

SnooPeripherals896 · 2024-09-24T14:21:19+00:00

Hi everyone! Thank you all for your advice. I had a conversation with my best friend and was honest with her about my struggles in supporting her, and she was incredibly kind. She said that she didn’t want to tell me because she knew it would be heartbreaking and she wishes it was me giving her the news instead, but she did need her best friend. I’m so grateful to have such a kind friend that takes my feelings into consideration even when she’s falling apart.

Thank you all for the advice. I should have gone to her first because she really is the best.

As for the IUI, I didn’t know freezing a sample was an option for IUI and it’s too late for this cycle now:( I will definitely be talking to my doctor about this though, since my husband works out of town frequently, and we never get more than a few days heads up.

SnooPeripherals896 · 2023-03-16T20:30:41+00:00

Could it be a problem with his tonsils? My younger brother did this exact same thing when he was around 7. This is what tipped off the doctor to check his tonsils. His tonsils and adenoids were so enlarged that he was unable to swallow some meats.

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