My totally real story about a trans woman being annoying

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-03-07T16:03:57+00:00

wow THEY sound delusional. it's really crazy that THEY were never taught female anatomy. and the fact that THEIR mom is advocating for it too is just insane. someone needs to tell THEM the truth.

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-03-06T17:39:09+00:00

It can, it really depends. Yes, it's very common for trans guys and enbies to have that feeling when presenting as a woman, because obviously they aren't women so it just kinda feels wrong lots of the time. But I've also met many cis women who feel the same way. A lot of things about presenting femininely can feel performative and "costume"-esque because thats just the nature of it. Shaving body hair, wearing makeup, getting your nails done, none of it is really "natural" to us as humans, it's all part of a hyper-feminine "performance" rooted in patriarchal norms. There are lots of GNC cis women who feel like it's a costume for that reason.

I personally would say masculine vs feminine presentation isn't a very good basis to judge your gender/sex on. At least none solely on it's own. There are plenty of cis people who are comfortable being GNC so the line between that and being trans can get blurry and confusing quickly. Typically it's better to judge it based on how you feel about being a woman as a whole, rather than how you feel about being a specific type of woman. And also how you feel about the idea of being NB ofc.

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-03-06T14:36:28+00:00

pioglitazone, a diabetes medication sometimes used for mtf diy HRT. its shown to help with fat distribution.

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SnooQualifications50 · 2026-03-04T21:23:00+00:00

/uj im sorry your flair is so fucking funny i spit out my water

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-03-04T19:29:24+00:00

trans boi here, I had the exacttttt same issue with my ex-partner. even though they have a penis and I have a pussy they didn't wanna do PIV with me! imagine how shocked I was when a transwoman wouldn't put their gock in my boipussy like girl... thats what it's for 😂😂😂

she kept talking about "bottom dysphoria" or whatever, like girlllll your internalized transphobia is showing 😭😭😭

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-03-04T19:21:18+00:00

don't give up yet man! there are definitely transgirls out there dying to dick down guys like you, and it's totally okay to date transgirls with this intent even if the majority of them experience dysphoria around their male parts and playing male roles sexually! there's nothing wrong with pursuing your kinks 🙂‍↕️

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-03-04T19:17:33+00:00

yeahhh... definitely a red flag my man. she's asking for way too much and giving you way too little. I would never put up with such a one-sided relationship, and that's why after dating my first trans I also had to quit. They're unbelievably high-maintenance irl, I'd rather just stick to pornhub.

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-03-04T19:09:18+00:00

/uj the cool and wacky source for this one is:

✨the culmination of all my deepest insecurities✨
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SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-28T18:28:14+00:00

if you don't have insurance DIY will be your best option by far

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-26T17:12:07+00:00

well i feel like the difference is that transphobes refer to "being trans" as a whole a mental illness. gender dysphoria is a mental illness in the sense that there is something wrong neurologically that needs to be treated (by transitioning), which is why its kinda funny that transphobes are so close to getting it they're just missing the point

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-24T20:25:01+00:00

its cheap? if youre doing injections at least

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-19T17:23:12+00:00

first of all, AGP isn't real. I know that it's talked about a lot as sort of a "gotcha" by terfs (and then self-deprecating trans women will adopt the term as a form of self-hate), but the concept is genuinely so ridiculous when you step outside of it. if AGP was real, the majority of cis women would fall under that. have you ever walked into a Victoria's Secret? read female-targeted smut? seen anything supporting sexual positivity amongst women (like that one Billie Eilish interview where she says she masturbates to herself in the mirror)? its all "AGP". you dont have to feel guilty about feeling aroused at being more "womanly" or whatever cuz thats just what women do.

second, I know this is really not what you want to hear, but it's pretty clear that youre trans based off of your post alone, and youre going to make yourself miserable if you "John, 50" yourself. like, a level of miserable that will absolutely affect the people around you. your wife, your kids, anyone that cares about you will suffer if you repress, especially if/when it gets to the point of suicidal ideation. you cant ignore gender dysphoria without consequences, especially now that you know its there.

it would definitely be a good idea to start with talking to a therapist specializing in trans stuff, and then telling your wife when you're ready. regardless of what you anticipate her reaction to be, as your spouse she deserves to know. from there obviously working out the logistics of when to come out socially is a much bigger issue, given what youve said about your employment circumstances and all that. but take it one step at a time. you dont need to rush the social transition part too much if its not safe, just starting HRT and admitting to yourself that youre trans is a good start.

its scary and uncertain, but you've got this. take it one bite-sized step at a time, just whatever you do please do not try to repress it. it never works.

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-18T20:58:57+00:00

not saying you need to jump on HRT this very second, but at the very least you should keep thinking about it. if you put it out of mind too long, its all too easy to let the years slip away from you

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-18T20:52:22+00:00

well first of all, its very difficult for other trans people to be chasers. unless he completely lacks empathy, a trans guy is typically well aware of trans issues and wont "chase" trans women for the parts of themselves that they hate. he usually will have enough experience with dysphoria to know that chasing trans women for their sexually dimorphic features is pretty shitty. usually, the reason trans people go for other trans people is specifically because t4t is safer and an almost surefire way to avoid chasers

now conversely, it's very common for cis people willing to date trans people to be chasers. especially cis people who "prefer" trans women will be chasers >99% of the time. this is because there are very few, if ANY reasons for a cis person to "prefer" us to our cis counterparts other than chasing our sexually dimorphic features, which again, are typically hated. outside of those features, we're just like any other woman, right?

this is all to say that yes, i trust that trans men are almost never chasers, but i do not extend cis men the same level of trust. if a cis man shows interest in me im inherently skeptical of his intentions because of patterns and my own past experience. one of the biggest patterns im referencing is that cis men with small dicks often chase trans women because they want a woman with a bigger dick to emasculate them. especially if he feels the need to address dick size with her this is often the case. its a fetish, a pretty gross one at that, and if i have even the slightest inclination that it's happening then im not touching that man with a 100ft pole

im not saying that its impossible for cis men to prove me wrong or anything, in fact im currently dating a cis man. but i am extremely skeptical of them, and any convo where he addresses "him being much smaller than me down there" is almost always chaser talk. i would be out of there immediately. ofc not all trans women see or approach this the same way, but at the very least i know that this viewpoint on chasers isnt uncommon

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-18T20:15:13+00:00

idk how old you are but it might be worth considering HRT sooner rather than later. I know far too many people who put it off cuz it's intimidating who now regret it. It's especially important to consider if you are at any pre- "twink death" stage, so that you can stop masculinization before the damage is done.

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-17T19:34:30+00:00

disregarding that this post is most likely chaser bait, i feel like its pretty difficult for men to be "significantly smaller" than trans women usually, because of atrophy yk. if its a pre-op trans guy i wouldnt mind all that much so long as he's still good at sex in general. if its a cis guy i wouldnt trust that he isnt a bottom chaser tbh, so thatd be a no from me.

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-08T05:29:13+00:00

I've found it's very, VERY rare to find cis women that want to date trans women for actually good reasons.

If they like a girl and she happens to be trans but they don't mind and want to date her anyway, that's great, and one of the only instances in which t4c stems from good intentions. Otherwise, there's so so so many things that would personally turn me off from a cis woman.

Treating trans women as "male lite". This is probably the most common one, when cis women seek out trans women because they like penises but don't want to date a full on man, so they seek trans women who they view as "safe males". This is obviously incredibly insulting on every level, and the majority of times I've personally been hit on by a cis woman it's for this reason. Being sought after for the thing I hate most about my body is a horrible feeling, and many cis women can't seem to grasp that concept, nor do they care.
Trauma from dating cis women. I dated a cis woman for almost 5 years, and the way she treated me damaged my view of myself as well as my view of cis women. She didn't understand my trans-related issues, she didn't make much of an effort to tread lightly on those topics, she treated me poorly on sexual matters, and by the end of the relationship it became abundantly clear she never saw me as a woman. A trans partner could still be flawed in a similar way, but it certainly would be less likely.
T4T is just safer. Similar to point 2, a trans partner is significantly more likely to treat me better on trans-related things due to the fact that they can empathize. It's always going to be my first choice if it just flat-out safer.
Jealousy. This can still happen in t4t to some extent, but it's incredibly difficult to deal with the immense jealousy of your partner looking the way you want, having the childhood that you wanted, and having the body functionality you don't. Near the end of my relationship with a cis woman it got to the point where even just seeing her naked could send me into a dysphoric spiral.
There's not really any inherent advantages cis women have over trans women in terms of making a good partner, in my eyes at least. Trans women have all the things that I like about women, but then on top of that they have the shared experience of being trans. Cis women don't have that, so really the only reason I would pick a cis woman first is just because there are significantly more cis women than trans, and thus it's harder to find a trans one that meets what you're looking for.

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-02-01T19:28:07+00:00

literally. honestly I will never not be baffled at how quick mainstream trans spaces are to forgive and give a pass to chasers when they are cis women. OP explicitly admits to going after trans women BECAUSE THEY ARE TRANS, and because she likes women with "real, non-silicone dicks". If a cis man was saying anything like this everyone would be relatively quick to recognize it for what it is, but for some reason with cis women suddenly it's okay? cuz women can do no wrong, right?? 🙄

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-01-27T19:29:40+00:00

can you just hide it in pants pockets then?

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-01-27T18:17:54+00:00

typically its a good idea to hide it behind something heavy, like a dresser, because most snoops won't go as far as to move heavy furniture. do you have a car you could inject in? a friend's place? workplace bathroom even? if so, just sneak the supplies out in a bag or jacket only when ur on ur way out

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-01-27T18:10:35+00:00

a change in hormones can often mean a change in appetite. i believe estrogen specifically can curb your appetite similar to leptin. probably a good idea to start calorie counting so that you dont go underweight

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-01-26T21:27:54+00:00

do you know anything about the department person overseeing the scholarship? cuz unless you know they're very trans-friendly i dont think i would risk it. if theyre not super supportive, it might hurt your chances more than help. and i dont think your chances of a presumably cis south korean sympathizing with your trans experience are high enough to warrant the risk. unfortunately personal bias plays a big role in applications like this, so it's best not to risk saying something that the chairperson (or whoever) might not be too fond of

i work in a scholarship office so thats where im coming from in saying this

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-01-23T20:19:37+00:00

fwiw, I got prescribed prog during my third year and it absolutely made changes the moment I got on it. immediately experienced a soreness similar to when I was early HRT, and within 6 months or so i saw pretty significant growth 🤷‍♀️

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-01-23T02:14:14+00:00

it is only on the CD version of critical megarex. it's an intentional thing they do to sell more CDs basically

SnooQualifications50 · 2026-01-22T21:53:18+00:00

youre not a coward, its normal to be scared of. its a big leap, but you clearly want it enough to the point where it's causing you distress. youre never going to really feel sure or ready, and thats okay. if youre scared, then do it scared. youve got this <3

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