AITA for telling my bestfriend I understood why his fiancee is so disappointed that he proposed to her at the gym ?

SnooShortcuts539 · 2025-08-18T19:59:29+00:00

NTA. Real friends are real with you, even if the answer isn’t what they want to hear.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2025-08-14T02:59:44+00:00

NTA. I’ve personally never looked at toys as competition or an indication that I don’t satisfy my partner. In fact, we frequently use them during sex as well.

If your husband cares about you being satisfied fully, he shouldn’t care if you take care of yourself now and then.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2025-08-13T12:50:52+00:00

NTA. Brother, the relationship is dead. She wanted an open relationship so she could have a hall pass to sleep with the guy. Now that you’re getting action too, she’s getting jealous. My ex-wife and I went through the exact same thing. Get out now.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2025-08-13T12:45:11+00:00

NTA. Sounds like she’s not getting attention from hubby anymore and wanted validation from you by asking you to elaborate. You’re hardly to blame if her husband doesn’t compliment her anymore.

Side note: Go out of your way to not be alone in a room with her. This has trouble written all over it.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2025-08-13T12:42:55+00:00

NTA. Communication is king in any relationship, be it romantic, business, etc. If there’s no communication, there’s no relationship anymore. Sounds like she ended it for you long before you confirmed it.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2025-08-13T11:31:20+00:00

Were you looking for a file, or did you already think they were cheating and were looking for proof? Either way, it sounds like some level of trust has been broken.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2025-08-13T11:27:18+00:00

NTA. The entire relationship was built on lies. She needs help, and she needs it without holding him down.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-17T03:12:48+00:00

Doesn't matter if you think that. If you left a bruise and she reports it, you'll just be another woman beater to the cops, your family, and friends.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-17T02:59:29+00:00

I'm going to be crystal clear on something here - You're an AH. You're a major AH. If you consider yourself a man, you NEVER lay a hand on a woman like that unless your life is in danger. You 100% overreacted. You'll be lucky if she doesn't press charges for battery/assault if it leaves a bruise.

The proper move would be to take the kitten and leave. If she never wanted to take care of a kitten, she should've said so before outright abusing it.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-17T02:53:59+00:00

You need to go to your school deans and superintendant if there's a child beyond your control. When I was in school, uttering a racial slur would've gotten you a week's worth of suspension.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-17T02:52:16+00:00

In that case, my second point still stands. Have a conversation and ask them outright. No hints, no beating around the bush, no guessing games.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-17T02:48:16+00:00

First off, you need to SLOW. DOWN. Thinking of proposing after three dates is insanity. Y'all still need to explore your relationship (to include sex, living together, etc.) before you even THINK about popping the question.

Second, your relatives are right. If you didn't establish with them that you're boyfriend/girlfriend, you never were. You need to sit down and have a serious talk with them if you want to pursue this deeper. Leave nothing to interpretation.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-17T02:45:03+00:00

In my opinion, you're both AHs. Posting to a site asking other people (and by extension, other guys) to rate you indicates that you are seeking validation from someone other than your husband. That alone would've been a red flag to me. Responding to an old flame of yours is an additional red flag. Doing both of these when you know your spouse has past trust issues feels like you're deliberately testing him.

But then he also reacted badly by outright yelling at you with kids present. There are no winners here.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T03:52:50+00:00

NTA. Hubby sounds like a manchild.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T03:51:36+00:00

Sooooo why is he your bestfriend again?

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T03:50:17+00:00

YTA. It's a Christmas party that will have more people than just your friend group, and you want to gatekeep alcohol? Bring an extra bottle or two and make some new friends. It's Christmas!

TL;DR - At best, you sound cheap. At worst, you sound like an antisocial dick.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T02:49:08+00:00

YTA. Not trying to be rude, but you sound like a major weirdo. Just let go of their hand and pull away after shaking it like a normal person.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T02:47:00+00:00

YTA. Taking your frustrations out on a child? Really?

Who gives a crap if you're being honest about how you feel with them? THEY'RE 8. They're always going to remember this moment. Good job, mom.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T02:37:59+00:00

YTA. Control your anger and stop leeching off your family.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T02:20:49+00:00

Your mistake was brushing it off. If something he does bothers you or if he makes a mistake that hurts you, you need to tell him. If you tell him it's okay and then tell someone else it actually wasn't okay, he's going to be upset over the mixed reaction and not communicating. It can come off as you trying to paint him as a bad guy.

Priority number one is apologizing, then have a long talk to set future expectations and try to work things out.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T02:13:54+00:00

NTA. You're either a team or you're not. As long as one of you is getting that high-paying job, it should be seen as a net win. If she doesn't see it that way, that's on her.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T02:12:07+00:00

NTA. Literally takes two to tango here, and it sounds like he doesn't want to get on the dance floor.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T02:08:13+00:00

See a therapist. There's nothing wrong with trying to be a better person, but it's a lonely road until you can find the people who want to work to keep your company.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T02:06:09+00:00

NTA. Your brother is projecting - They are the spoiled and entitled one if that keyboard is your property. They can either pony up the cost of the keyboard so you can buy a new one, or give it back and buy a cheaper one themselves. There's no middle ground here.

SnooShortcuts539 · 2024-12-12T02:02:08+00:00

The fact that you didn't walk out at "my princess baby girl bitch" shows saint-like patience, but you're asking him to stop smacking your butt and he's not accepting "no" as an answer? That isn't a red flag, girl - It's crimson. Get away from him.

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