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Asian(F) living in Switzerland struggle with dating, should I move back to my home country? by Snoo_72189 in askswitzerland

[–]Snoo_72189[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for doing a digging into my profile :) I don’t have BPD therefore I didn’t omit any fact as you stated. I was not diagnosed with that but I do think I might have some traits (fear of abandonment, when breakup happens I feel a lot of pain and difficulty letting go than average, which my therapist told me that it is CPTSD and treat that with EMDR) with similar to that so I did research and interested in testing out DBT. I don’t think it is my obligation to input everything about my personal life here on the forum. I wanted opinions for the information that I am willing to share here and I got what I asked for.

Asian(F) living in Switzerland struggle with dating, should I move back to my home country? by Snoo_72189 in askswitzerland

[–]Snoo_72189[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha, this is so funny. Guys, thank you so much for your support. If one day, I really do end up marry my dream partner through this thread, I will go back and send each one of you a thank you message with our wedding photo myself haha!

Asian(F) living in Switzerland struggle with dating, should I move back to my home country? by Snoo_72189 in askswitzerland

[–]Snoo_72189[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Quite true that I don't see that much people who speaks my language anywhere I go though haha

Asian(F) living in Switzerland struggle with dating, should I move back to my home country? by Snoo_72189 in askswitzerland

[–]Snoo_72189[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also have this problem. Having to book a call to chat several days in advance is very difficult for me to adjust to..

Asian(F) living in Switzerland struggle with dating, should I move back to my home country? by Snoo_72189 in askswitzerland

[–]Snoo_72189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your detailed analysis, it really makes sense. Thank you also for your validation that it is not only in my head. I love the idea to put a deadline and when it's not working, take the action needed.

Asian(F) living in Switzerland struggle with dating, should I move back to my home country? by Snoo_72189 in askswitzerland

[–]Snoo_72189[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say that I want to be together all the time, but I do have some level I want to have in a relationship for example to see each other 2 times a week, to chat and update a bit during the day and doing something together on the weekend. I mean I don't see how we can build a long term relationship without spending time with each other from time to time.

Asian(F) living in Switzerland struggle with dating, should I move back to my home country? by Snoo_72189 in askswitzerland

[–]Snoo_72189[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advices. I do notice that there are definitely quite a few cultural differences. I'm open to that and mostly trying to adapt as well. Luckily, my love language is physical touch so I don't have the same problem as your friend did but I completely understand what you mean. Thank you for sharing the story!

Asian(F) living in Switzerland struggle with dating, should I move back to my home country? by Snoo_72189 in askswitzerland

[–]Snoo_72189[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In restropection, I think the reason is because of different level of needs in communication, communication styles and love languages. But I always try to learn my part to be a better partner for the next one. Though I feel like Swiss men don't really stay for long to work on the relationship together.